Fingering shouldn’t be reserved only for the clit and vagina. They may enjoy some anal action too. I say “may” because not every person enjoys anal stimulation. If they do, then anal fingering is a great place to start, before progressing further to full anal sex. If they don’t, then it’s not a biggie, just focus on some other fun orgasm techniques whether that’s oral on the vagina or making them squirt.
Before you jump into it, you need to be aware that the anus doesn’t self-lubricate itself like the vagina does, so you’re going to need some lube. LOTS of it. Saliva will usually work but is less sanitary and dries out quicker. Keep the lubricant nearby in case you do need to drop on some more. Coat your finger and the outside of the anus with some lube, then slowly press your lubed finger into the rectum and lube up that space.
The person needs to be aroused. All orgasms are stifled if the arousal level is not high enough. You need to get the hormones and chemical’s that play a role in the orgasm process activated and that happens through arousal. Make sure to take it extra slow and listen to their feedback. The sphincter takes a while to relax, so if you force your finger inside of it before it’s relaxed, then it’s going to hurt them. Instead, you should maintain a soft pressure to allow their sphincter to relax around your finger. Once it does, then you can slowly push it in and around. Try not to go in and out unless you are asked for it. While fingering anally, you can also rub the clit with your spare hand for extra stimulation.
Important – Fingering shouldn’t be reserved only for the clit and vagina and do not touch their vagina after fingering them anally. You will be bringing bacteria from the anus to the vagina which will risk them getting bacterial vaginosis or something worse. Wash your hand(s) thoroughly after any anal action. This also applies to anything else you put in the rectum.
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