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Whether you’re aiming for G-spot stimulation, or you just want to rub the A-spot or entire vagina canal in general, these tips can help.
• Use lube. • Make sure your fingernails are cut short and filed smoothly. • The same goes for rough hands. • Wash your hands beforehand to avoid spreading bacteria, which can cause infection. • Start with one finger. You can always add more (some individuals like four fingers or even to be fisted), you want to give them time to get used to each finger as you rub the vagina internally.
• Pay attention to their responses. If they get tense, pull away, seems disinterested, or is in pain, do less of that. If they moan, breathe heavier, get closer to you, keep it up!
The sensory aspects of cum eating (CEI) are as varied as the individuals who practice it. Semen’s taste and texture can range from sweet to salty, thick to runny. Some enthusiasts experiment with diet and supplements to alter these qualities, enhancing the experience for both the giver and the receiver.
Consistency and volume may be a concern for some. The amount and texture of semen can vary greatly from person to person, which might affect the experience. Some might find the consistency or volume less appealing. Just as the taste and smell can be. Semen can have a bitter, salty, or slightly bleach-like taste, which is not to everyone’s liking. Its smell can also be a turn-off for some individuals.
In many cases, CEI becomes a ritualistic part of sexual play. The buildup to the moment of ejaculation can be drawn out through edging, dirty talk, or other forms of tease and denial. This anticipation often heightens the intensity of the eventual release and consumption.
What is CEI:
CEI is a multifaceted practice that defies simplistic categorization. It’s a complex interplay of power dynamics, intimacy, and humiliation, woven together by the threads of desire and surrender. By embracing this complexity, we can unlock the true potential of CEI, exploring the depths of human sexuality and the intricacies of the human experience.
Let’s delve into the world of cum eating, exploring its significance, benefits, and how to incorporate it into your kink play.
The power exchange in CEI is palpable. The dominant partner wields control over the submissive’s body, dictating when and how the ejaculate is to be consumed. This dynamic can be intensely erotic, reinforcing the roles of each participant in the encounter. Beyond the kink, CEI can foster a profound sense of intimacy.
Sharing such a vulnerable and personal act can strengthen emotional bonds and foster a sense of closeness that transcends the physical realm. CEI isn’t confined to one-on-one interactions. It can be a part of solo masturbation, where one savors their own essence, or within group settings, where multiple partners may share in the experience. Each variation brings its own unique flavor to the practice.
Personal Anecdote:
CEI has brought my partner and me closer together. It’s a way for us to connect on a deeper level, to share in each other’s desires and vulnerabilities. The intimacy is palpable, and the bond we’ve formed is unbreakable. – Michael, 32
Cum eating, also known as creampie eating, is a fascinating aspect of human sexuality that often sparks intense curiosity and desire. For those who identify as kinksters, cum eating can be a powerful tool for exploring submission, humiliation, and intimacy. This is a sexual practice that transcends the mere act of ingestion, it’s an intimate, sometimes taboo, expression of power dynamics, surrender, and pleasure. For many, it’s a core component of their sexual identity and a source of profound erotic satisfaction.
The intricacies of CEI, from its psychological underpinnings to the raw, carnal experiences it entails. Cum eating is often associated with submission, humiliation, and degradation. The act of consuming one’s own semen can be a potent symbol of surrender, allowing the individual to tap into their deepest desires and fears. This fetish can be particularly appealing to those who enjoy being dominated, as it allows them to relinquish control and surrender to their partner’s desires.
Moreover, cum eating can be a form of self-discovery, allowing individuals to confront their own shame and guilt surrounding sexuality. By embracing this taboo activity, kinksters can develop a deeper understanding of their own desires and boundaries, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and authentic sexual experience. It often involves a dominant partner directing the submissive to consume their own ejaculate. This act can be laden with layers of meaning, from the ultimate submission to a deeply intimate connection.
So, what makes cum eating so appealing to kinksters? For starters, it can be an incredibly intimate and personal experience, allowing partners to connect on a deeper level. The act of consuming semen can create a sense of unity and closeness as if the individuals are sharing a secret that only they understand. Cum eating can also be a powerful tool for building trust and communication in a relationship. When partners engage in this activity, they must communicate their desires, boundaries, and preferences, fostering a deeper understanding and connection.
Establish a clear power dynamic: The dominant partner must assert their control, setting the tone for the encounter.
Tease and deny: Edging, dirty talk, or other forms of tease and denial can heighten the anticipation and intensity of the eventual release.
Ejaculate on command: The dominant partner directs the submissive to ejaculate, often with a sense of urgency or humiliation.
Consume the ejaculate: The submissive is forced to consume their own semen, sometimes with humiliating phrases or actions accompanying the act.
So, now I have you interested in exploring cum eating, where do you start? Communication is key, before engaging in cum eating, it’s essential to discuss your desires, boundaries, and preferences with your partner.
Make sure you’re both comfortable with the activity and understand each other’s needs.
Begin with small amounts of semen, gradually increasing the quantity as you become more comfortable with the activity.
Experiment with different techniques and methods of cum eating, such as using your fingers, tongue, or mouth.
Experiment with different textures, temperatures, and sensations to find what works best for you.
Turn cum eating into a ritualistic experience, incorporating elements like bondage, role-playing, or sensory deprivation to enhance the experience.
Cum eating can be seamlessly integrated into various kink play scenarios, adding an extra layer of excitement and intimacy to your encounters. Role-play for instance, by engaging in role-playing scenarios where one partner is the “cum-slave,” forced to consume the semen of their master or mistress. Sensory deprivation combines with cum eating with a blindfold or earplugs, to heighten the sense of intimacy and vulnerability.
Personal Anecdote:
I never thought I’d be into CEI, but my partner’s dominant nature and my own submissive desires made it a natural fit. The first time, I was nervous, but the rush of adrenaline and the sense of surrender were intoxicating. Now, it’s a staple of our sexual routine. – Rachel, 29
CEI often intersects with other kinks and sub-fetishes. Beyond the humiliation aspect, it can foster a profound sense of intimacy. Sharing such a vulnerable and personal act can strengthen emotional bonds and foster a sense of closeness that transcends the physical realm. The power exchange in CEI is palpable. The dominant partner wields control over the submissive’s body, dictating when and how the ejaculate is to be consumed. This dynamic can be intensely erotic, reinforcing the roles of each participant in the encounter.
BDSM: CEI can be a natural extension of BDSM practices, where the dominant partner asserts control over the submissive’s body.
Erotic Humiliation: CEI can be a form of erotic humiliation, where the submissive is forced to confront their own desires and vulnerabilities.
Cuckolding: CEI can be a part of cuckolding scenarios, where the submissive partner is forced to consume the ejaculate of their partner’s lover.
Try these steps:
Establish a connection: The partners must be comfortable with each other, sharing a deep emotional bond.
Create a sensual atmosphere: Soft lighting, gentle music, and a relaxed environment can set the tone for a more intimate experience.
Ejaculate together: The partners can ejaculate simultaneously, heightening the sense of connection and intimacy.
Consume the ejaculate together: The partners can share in the act of consuming each other’s semen, further solidifying their emotional bond.
While cum eating is a popular and often eroticized practice within certain adult content circles, there are some downsides and considerations to keep in mind. Health Risks – if there are any sexually transmitted infections (STIs) present in either partner, consuming semen can transmit these infections. Although semen is generally safe to ingest, there is a risk of allergic reactions in some individuals, known as seminal plasma hypersensitivity.
Consider the nutritional content as a benefit and/or a downside. Semen contains proteins, vitamins, and minerals, the quantities are so small that it is not a viable source of nutrition. This can be a downside for those who might consume it with nutritional expectations. The pressure to perform for a partner or audience can lead to performance anxiety.
Fetish stigmatization is often tied to themes of dominance and submission, and not everyone is comfortable with, or approves of, such power dynamics in their sexual expression. The stigma associated with this fetish might lead to embarrassment or discomfort when discussing preferences with partners.
The practicality and cleanliness of the owner should also be considered. Managing the logistics of cum eating, such as where and how to consume the semen, can be impractical and messy. Clean-up post-act can also be a concern for those who prefer less messy sexual activities.
It’s important to communicate openly with partners about comfort levels, boundaries, and health status before engaging in any sexual activity, including CEI. Consent and mutual enjoyment should always be the top priorities. If all parties involved are informed, consenting, and comfortable with the practice, it can be a fulfilling part of their sexual expression. However, understanding and respecting individual limits and preferences is crucial.
While CEI is generally safe, it’s important to consider the health aspects of any sexual activity. Societal attitudes toward CEI have evolved over time. The cultural perceptions have shaped the practice and how the rise of adult content platforms has contributed to its growing acceptance.
Whether viewed as an act of submission, a display of dominance, or a testament to intimacy, CEI remains a potent symbol of human sexuality in all its diversity and complexity. Cum eating is a complex and multifaceted fetish that offers a unique window into the world of human sexuality.
By embracing this taboo activity, kinksters can explore new dimensions of intimacy, submission, and self-discovery. Remember to communicate openly with your partner, start slowly, and experiment with different techniques to find what works best for you.
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So, you have performed oral, rode them crazy, and handled the penis like a stick shift. What else is there to do…to do…to do? Much! Adding some fresh and new techniques can spruce up what you have tried and tested before. The body has so many erotic points to be explored.
These zones are referred to as the erogenous zones and are areas on the body that cause arousal and extend, expand, and enlighten additional methods to orgasm. From the sides and back of the neck, armpits, chest, inner arms, and thighs, a tickle, a stroke or a lick causes the sensory anticipation to create a sexual response. While everyone may not enjoy this; often for them, it may tickle, hurt, or simply turn them off, the masses enjoy much pleasure from stimuli to these areas.
A mutual attraction does not necessarily exist to fully deliver pleasure either. In some cases, you do not even need to have met the person. This just happened to me when I got to meet Lorenzo4016 at the ASN Lifestyle Magazine Awards this year. I was forward facing and over my left shoulder, the deepest sound vibrated straight through me. I do not even remember exactly what he said but the bass and pace of the words made me jump as butterflies ran through me. Similarly, objects and images can stimulate the erogenous zones. Universally, it is upon touch in many areas of the body that can bring magnificent pleasure.
The response to pleasure is different in areas that have hair than in non-hair spaces. The hair on the body grows due to testosterone and the surface is known as epithelium. There are several different representations of these surfaces. Where there is less hair, it is reported to have more sensitivity. This is because bare areas like the inner arm, the back of the knees, or the underside of the toes can give us butterflies when touched. You can blindfold or use lube, feathers, lotion, or textures of any sort for any action you do on the body. Be mindful that anticipation is the goal of adding a sense of arousal. Anticipation is excitement, waiting eagerly for something you know is going to happen builds energy behind their pleasure.
Tip: Be prepared for any reaction and follow the lead of the person as you experiment.
IMAGINATION This is not a tangible thing you can touch; you can definitely still stimulate this part of them. Let them have some time to consider your touch before your fingers arrive on their skin. The ultimate tease. Whisper in their ear softly and tell them all the things you are going to do to them without touching a hair on their body. Just pretend like you are sexting and say those things to them in real life.
ABDOMEN AND NAVEL Many people find stimulation (kissing, biting, scratching, tickling, caressing) the abdomen to be pleasurable, especially close to the pubic region. It can cause strong arousal in individuals, in some even stronger than stimulation of the genitals. The navel is one of the many erogenous zones that has heightened sensitivity. The navel and the region below when touched by the finger or the tip of the tongue result in the production of erotic sensations.
SPINE Known as the sacrum, the base of the spine is an erotic spot to lick, suck and massage for arousal. Follow its path with the pads of your fingers and with the tips of them. Both are different sensations that can give two types of pleasure.
FINGERS The tips of their fingers have many nerves and respond to even the lightest of touches. Human fingertips are the second-most sensitive parts of the body, after the tongue. Placing your finger or fingers into their mouth and massage the inner jaws, tongue, roof without reaching too far back to cause them to gag of course. Allow them to suck on your fingers and moan as they do to increase stimulation with touch, sound, and visual enticement. Brush your tongue along the fingertips. Pull their fingers into your mouth much as you would a penis. Use saliva to create a wetness while rolling your tongue over and around the fingers.
ARMPITS The erogenous zone of the armpits is a very individualized sensitivity experience. Because of its normal-haired dense texture, the nerve sensitivity is different for everyone. However, if you use intense and suspenseful touches and strokes, you should elicit some arousal. Don’t go too light as to tickle them. If using your mouth, you should be prepared to apply pressure based on the amount of hair that is there. Be sure your mate is clean unless your fetish is the musk of the area. Apply lots of pressure first and soften the touch based on their response.
ARMS The softer skin of the inner arm and the crease, which is the mid-arm bend are very sensitive to hand, feet or mouth manipulation. Vigorous kneading and light kiss can induce erection and/or ejaculation without touching the penis. Where the arm bends is sensitive due to the lack of hair in the area. Obese people may have less sensitivity and folks with thinner skin may find the touches painful or uncomfortable at least.
HAIR There are nerve endings on their scalp that are attached to the rest of their body, and when their hair is gently pulled when they are kissed or held, it sends stimulation to the rest of their body. While kissing, try running the tips of your fingers through the hair, over their scalp gently, then a bit harder with a tug. If they react with small sounds and pleasure moans, pull harder, then let go before they want you to. This playful tease with drive them legit crazy.
THE FEET IN GENERAL Because of the concentration of nerve endings in the sole and digits of the human foot, and possibly due to the proximity between the area of the brain dealing with tactile sensations from the feet and the area dealing with sensations from the genitals, the sensations produced by both the licking of the feet and sucking of toes can be pleasurable to some people. Similarly, massaging the sole of the foot can produce similar stimulation. Many people are extremely ticklish in the foot area, especially on the soles. There’s a reason why reflexology massages are so popular. Be gentle and with adding pressure can be erotic for some. You can apply pressure from your tongue or fingertips to give a massage that advances with their response. Start by using some massage oil and massaging the feet, especially the arch of the foot.
TOES Shrimpin’ anyone? Yes, this is what it’s called when you suck on your partner’s toes. This is so erotic because feet are a nonconventional hotbed of sensation just waiting for some stimulation. During sexy foreplay, move your kisses teasingly down their body until you’re all the way down to their feet. Suck on your partner’s toes—or even lick the bottom of their foot arch.
BUTT CHEEK They are going to be extra sensitive here. Striking their butt cheek, even lightly, tends to stimulate the whole area. Think of it like a slow vibration flowing through their insides. If your mate is open to a little spank play, this is great to do while they are on top of you in any variation of missionary. Squeeze their booty when they are hitting just the right spot, Give them a quick spank if you’re both into it. A great act to try is surfing, a baby oil butt ride. Simple and erotic. Oil or other wet substances in the sex act is a fetish. Most call it sloshing. Place towels or additional sheets on the bed/surface and generously pour baby oil on your entire front and their entire body. Use your body to massage theirs, rub, apply pressure, stroke and knead their body to orgasm. Be aware of the oil ingredients BEFORE using your mouth.
THE PHILTRUM The small groove above the lips have long been considered an erogenous zone. Philtrum, translates from the Latin word for “love potion.” To stimulate the philtrum, plant a very soft kiss on this area, right before running your tongue down the groove to meet their upper lip.
INNER THIGH Since the inner thigh is so close to the genitals, even without the sensation of touch, just being in that area is sure to get them anticipating what’s next. Take your time to kiss and lick their inner thigh before going to touch the genitals when performing oral. Tease them and experiment with your lips. You can go from light fluttering kisses to harder sucking. It may tickle or it may feel like butterflies in the belly. Use long strokes from knee to groin. DO NOT touch the genitals, including the anus. Be sure to stay focused on inner skin with a soft tongue and the rest of the legs with a little more pressure.
BOTTOM LIPS The lips in general are one of the most sensitive parts of the body. Take your time while kissing. There’s a reason why nibbling and variation in pressure can drive you over the edge when done correctly. Gentle and with added pressure can be erotic for some. You can apply pressure from your tongue or fingertips to give a massage that advances with their response. Nibbling their bottom lips and possibly even going for a harder bite. The sensations of going from a tender kiss to some teeth will surprise your mate and excite the brain.
THE OUTSIDE OF THE LOWER LIP The area between the lower lip and the chin is an erogenous zone for most. It is packed with extra sensitive nerve receptors. Suck their lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put them on the erotic edge. Keeping the lower lip inside yours magnifies the sensation. It’ll feel as if electric currents are shooting from your lips straight to your genitals.
V-LINES The V-zone is a hot bed of pleasure for your partner, not only is it a turn-on that they have front-row tickets to watch you stimulate them, but it’s an easy pit stop to make on the way to downtown. Have them lay on their back while you straddle them and give them what they really want. Starting from their belly button, use your fingers and nails to trace a line down from the happy trail stopping before you hit total genitals. Then retrace your steps but use your tongue to trace a V shape from their hips to right above the genitals. Draw it out and really tease them until they can’t take it any longer.
NECK The Adam’s apple is an erogenous zone, thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is closely linked to the sex organs. The clavicle area and the back of the neck have sensitive nerve endings that can be stroked or licked to arousal. Suck, (hickey?) kiss and squeeze the neck. Have them lie on their back and literally just suck the Adam’s apple. Keep your tongue flat and light, not too much pressure! For all individuals, you can massage the area with wide circular motions to ensure you’re hitting that T-spot of the thyroid.
THE DIP UNDER THE BACK OF THE ANKLE This is the spot that may get bruised when you wear new shoes. There is a fingertip-sized pressure point that holds enormous passion potential. This spot is linked to the sex organs and pressing it releases energy, producing feelings of pleasure. While in reverse cowgirl, grab their feet and pulse each pressure point in rhythm with your thrusts. Try this right before they are about to climax to really blow their mind.
EARLOBES You may know the feeling you get from someone whispering in your ear. Playing with the earlobes can be very sensual and send shivers down the spine. Kiss your partner across their shoulder, up the neck, and stop right before you hit the ear. Do this to both sides. When they are right about to lose it, start kissing the earlobe, and use your tongue to bring the earlobe into your mouth. Play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. Be careful not to touch any other part of their body while doing this and see how wild they get from you just touching the earlobes. A wonderful place to caress, kiss, lick, bite or suck.
The body is a true wonderland of pleasure. There are so many places to stimulate that intimacy should never be boring. If you find yourself in a rut, pick up a copy of Climax: The Power of Great Sex and start to give or ask for some whole-body stimulation.
Debra Shade, ACS Board Certified Clinical Sexologist and Master Sexpert
I am thrilled to share that I have been chosen for the October 2024 cover and feature of ASN Lifestyle Magazine, a premier publication dedicated to the lifestyle community. The magazine is known for celebrating authenticity, wellness, and connection in every form, offering readers insights into healthy living, social behaviors, and sexual freedom.
ASN consistently pushes boundaries, tackling important issues around intimacy and self-expression while also providing tips for living your best life.
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At Shades Oasis, our pleasure education center bridges the worlds of sexual arousal and whole-body wellness, showing how intimacy is more than just physical—it’s essential for emotional and mental balance too!
In this feature, you’ll find details on how arousal and hormone release (think dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins) enhance your overall health and well-being. ASN has been a true leader in helping people explore these topics safely and with joy.
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While the labia are not as sensitive as the clit, there are a lot of very enjoyable ways you can pleasure and stimulate them. Slowly rubbing them up and down like can bring them close to orgasm without them climaxing, which makes for great foreplay. Do not forget that lube will make stroking the labia feel so much more pleasurable for her.
Many vulva owners can become really sensitive after climaxing from clitoral stimulation. It may even become painful for them if you touch it immediately, so you will want to hold off further stimulation for a few minutes. This makes the labia the perfect option for focusing on until that clitoris calms down and returns to normal sensitivity. If the labia are long enough, you can also rub the clitoris through them if it is too sensitive for direct stimulation.
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The Golden Path to Swinging: Navigating the Do’s and Don’ts
The world of swinging is an enticing and adventurous realm where consenting adults explore their sexuality in a shared space. It’s a lifestyle that has evolved over the years, offering a variety of experiences from soft swaps to full exchanges. For those ready to take the plunge or for seasoned swingers looking to refine their experiences, let illuminate the path to a fulfilling swinging journey.
A World Beyond Monogamy
Swinging, often referred to as “the lifestyle,” is a non-monogamous activity that couples and singles engage in to add spice to their sex lives. It can range from watching and being watched to full sexual intercourse with others. Understanding the different levels of swinging is crucial:
Soft Swap:Involves everything but sexual intercourse, such as kissing, fondling, and oral sex with someone other than your partner.
Full Swap:Engaging in sexual intercourse with another couple or individual, with the consent and often the participation of your partner.
Communication is Key: The Heart of Swinging Etiquette
The cornerstone of any successful swinging experience is open and honest communication. It’s vital to discuss your desires, boundaries, and expectations with your partner and any potential playmates. Here are some essential communication strategies:
Be Clear About Your Limit*:Before engaging in any swinging activity, have a candid conversation about what is and isn’t acceptable for both you and your partner.
Check-In Regularly:Consent is not a one-time conversation. It’s important to check in with each other throughout the experience to ensure everyone is comfortable and enjoying themselves.
Use Safe Words: Establish a safe word or signal that can be used to indicate discomfort or the desire to stop an activity immediately.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Swinging
To ensure a respectful and pleasurable experience, adhere to the following guidelines:
Do’s:
Respect Boundaries:Always honor the boundaries set by others, as well as your own. Practice Good Hygiene: Personal cleanliness is a must in any intimate encounter. *Be Discreet:Respect the privacy of others in the lifestyle. What happens in the swinging community should stay there. Engage in Safe Sex:Protect yourself and others by using protection and getting regularly tested for STIs.
Don’ts:
Don’t Pressure Others: Swinging is about mutual consent. Never coerce someone into an activity they’re not comfortable with. Don’t Overindulge:Excessive drinking or drug use can impair judgment and consent. Don’t Be Disrespectful:Always treat others with kindness and respect, regardless of whether you’re interested in playing with them.
Navigating Swinging Events and Venues:
Swinging can take place in various settings, from private parties to exclusive clubs. Here’s how to navigate these spaces:
Dress to Impress:Many venues have dress codes, so make sure to adhere to them. Dressing well can also make a great first impression. Be Social:Swinging events are an excellent opportunity to meet like-minded individuals. Be friendly and open to conversations. Understand the House Rules: Each venue or event will have its own set of rules. Make sure you’re familiar with them to avoid any misunderstandings.
Conclusion: Embrace the Adventure with Care and Respect
Swinging can be a thrilling addition to your love life, offering new experiences and deepening connections with your partner. By following the do’s and don’ts outlined in this guide, you can ensure that your adventures in swinging are both exciting and respectful. Remember, the key to a successful swinging experience is communication, consent, and consideration for everyone involved.
Embark on this journey with an open mind and a respectful heart, and you’ll find that the swinging lifestyle can open doors to a world of pleasure and exploration. Happy swinging!
Masturbation is critical for learning/creating your orgasm formula. Permit yourself to touch yourself for pleasure. This is the combination of touch, environment, and mindset you need to release. The importance of masturbation is not only making the perfect storm of hormones that release at the peak and resolution of orgasm.
The hormones oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine build during arousal, build up, and MAGIC!!
Oxytocin is known as the feel-good hormone. Makes you want to cuddle, snuggle, and seek connections beyond the physical. Serotonin is the hormone that…… Dopamine is an “intoxicating hormone”. One that triggers the brain’s pleasure sensors just as a drug does. Often blamed for the driver of sex addiction. The “high” that the body feels is something people chase.
Together, these three hormones cause the body to contract and release tension, which can relieve stress and lift moods from depression. Making it an antidepressant. Believe it or not, it is also an antihistamine because it relieves sinus pressure.
The overall orgasm can lower both blood pressure and cortisol. The many benefits are under-studied in all gendered bodies. What we know so far has been pioneered by scientists and experts of the Kinsley Institute. The founding institution of human sexuality.
The research done on the understanding of vulva orgasms is slim, to say the least. It was not until the early 20s that “female” orgasm was recognized by science. The concept of female ejaculation is still being challenged as a phenomenon.
History shows that doctors treated people with “incontinence” and “hysteria” with a vibrating wand which caused the release. The fix – orgasm. This is funny to me as the wand, known as the first sex toy (novelty item), was a medical tool used for generations.
Aftercare – Aftercare is the emotional and physical care administered when a scene is over. Proper aftercare may be used to prevent a drop.
Consent – Agreeing to certain acts in a BDSM scene or relationship and maintaining it throughout the interactions. Practitioners believe that consent is what separates BDSM from assault.
Contract – An arrangement that outlines the rules and structures of a BDSM relationship. It written or oral.
Dungeon – A location where BDSM play takes place (usually in a person’s home or at a club).
Fetish – An obsession with a specific experience, body part, or object. Usually required for a “release” to take place.
Kink – A relationship with an experience, body part, or object that arouses you but is not necessary to reach release.
Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) – This phrase describes what the BDSM community considers ethical behavior. Kink enthusiasts stress that activities must always be safe, sane, and consensual.
Jiva Med Spa and Debra Shade Partner to Revolutionize Holistic Wellness
Columbus, Ohio – Jiva Med Spa, a leading sexual wellness destination for care in pelvic floor pain, incontinence, weight loss, the O shot, and the P spot, using modern-day, state-of-the-art equipment and no surgical procedures is thrilled to announce its partnership with Debra Shade, a highly regarded Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist and Master Sexpert and owner of Shades Oasis.
This collaboration brings together the expertise of Jiva Med Spa and Shade’s passion for helping individuals and couples navigate barriers to pleasure through trauma, and generational conversations of shame and guilt.
The partnership between Jiva Med Spa and Debra Shade aims to redefine holistic wellness by integrating the physical, mental, and emotional aspects of well-being. As the owner of Shades Oasis, a renowned whole-body wellness center in Columbus, Ohio, Debra Shade has curated a wide range of more than 200 workshops focused on pleasure, relationships, and sexual wellness.
By joining forces, Jiva Med Spa and Debra Shade will create a unique space for individuals and couples to explore their desires, heal from past trauma, and develop a healthy relationship with their bodies and partners. This collaboration will offer a comprehensive approach to holistic wellness, addressing both internal and external factors that impact one’s overall well-being.
Jiva Med Spa is known for its innovative treatments and unwavering commitment to repair sexual dysfunction into sexual satisfaction. Dr. Rakesh Nanda, MD, brings a wealth of expertise in aesthetic procedures, regenerative medicine, and wellness services. His team consists of highly trained professionals who prioritize personalized care and strive to exceed client expectations.
Debra Shade, as a Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist and Master Sexpert, possesses a deep understanding of the intimate struggles faced by individuals and couples. Through her private practice, Debra has made a significant impact by helping clients overcome barriers to pleasure and heal from emotional wounds, empowering them to embrace their sexuality from a pleasure perspective and experience fulfilling relationships.
Together, Dr. Rakesh Nanda and Debra Shade will combine their expertise, resources, and shared passion for empowering individuals to lead healthier, more satisfying intimate lives. Through a collaborative approach, they will offer cutting-edge treatments, transformative workshops, and tailored holistic wellness programs aimed at enhancing overall well-being.
