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Featured - The Best Sex Education Articles for Adults

Sexpert.com has the Best Sex Education Articles for Adults from an expert line up of certified sex experts.

Top sex education for adults featured posts and sexuality articles from our sex experts, sex coaches on everything from female orgasms, sexual pleasure, alternative lifestyle topics, couples sex advice and dating advice, masturbation and sexual empowerment, sexual health and wellness including men’s sexual problems like premature ejaculation and how to last longer in the bedroom.

Our Sex Ed featured articles include all the tips and techniques you need to know to make you a better lover such as the ultimate guide to anal sex, BDSM and kinky sex, oral sex, how to have the best orgasms, sexual relationship topics on how to spice up your love life, as well as female sexual anatomy and the erogenous zones including the clitoris, the cervix and cervical orgasm, all about the g spot, female ejaculation and g spot orgasms, the vagina and the vulva, penis facts and more.

Sexpert.com is an all-inclusive sex education site for adults and has many empowering articles on gender and sexuality, as well as articles for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgender, sissies, and alternative lifestyles including cuckold and hotwife relationships, threesomes, polyamory and swinging. See our sacred sexuality topics including Tantra sex, yoni yoga, sexy goddess rituals, energy orgasms and more.

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Halle Berry’s Respin and Menopause Pioneer Joylux Announce Strategic Partnership

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Halle Berry’s Respin and Menopause Pioneer Joylux Announce Strategic Partnership to Advance Intimate Health & Wellness

Debuts with innovative, “life-changing” products to improve intimate health for women around the world Los Angeles, CA (September. 24, 2024) – Joylux, the global leader in intimate wellness, and Respin, the women’s midlife wellness brand founded by Academy Award-winning actress, filmmaker, entrepreneur and advocate Halle Berry, announce a global multi-facetted partnership to bring solutions to the 60 million peri/post-menopausal women suffering from common intimate health issues.

This collaboration marks a significant milestone for both companies as they work together to destigmatize the taboo of intimate health with science-backed solutions that empower women to take control of their health. The partnership kicks off with the introduction of two innovative products– a new intimacy gel and a special edition award-winning vFit Plus device.

This collaboration highlights the vital role of intimate health in women’s overall well-being and underscores the shared goal of improving women’s lives – menopause-related estrogen decline causes vaginal dryness in over 50% of women, impacting intimate health, emotional well-being and relationships. Halle Berry is a passionate advocate for women’s health, especially concerning menopause.

Through Respin and its community, Berry’s goal is to provide women with both support and access to a vibrant community as well as an array of high-quality, science-backed products that will help women transition through midlife with ease and confidence – with a focus on connection, menopause and female longevity.

After facing a painful intimate experience with her partner and a misdiagnosis that left her searching for answers, Berry found Joylux and experienced the benefits of the company’s scientifically backed, Ob-Gyn designed product approach firsthand. Inspired by her positive results, she decided to invest in and partner with Joylux through her Respin platform to collaborate on products that will enhance intimacy for women and couples – starting with a one-of-a-kind intimacy gel, LET’S SPIN.

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“When I realized that the product I needed wasn’t on the market, I decided to make it
myself. We’ve been hard at work for the past year with Joylux Ob-Gyn, Dr. Sarah de la
Torre developing and testing LET’S SPIN intimacy gel. We’ve perfected the formulation by using all clean ingredients, including hyaluronic acid and aloe, and making it
pH-balanced for delicate intimate tissue. This product has changed my life,“ said Respin
Founder Halle Berry.

Consumers are also embracing LET’S SPIN’s- pre-launch study *results reported 97% of women felt it enhanced comfort and 94% found it soothing and enjoyable to use, with 93% experiencing more pleasure as a result of use. While created with midlife women’s evolving needs in mind, LET’S SPIN is also a product that elevates intimacy for everyone – no matter their gender, age or life stage.

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 Colette Courtion, Founder and CEO of Joylux shares, “After years of dedication to developing products that enhance women’s lives, receiving the call from Halle and Respin was very validating. With Halle’s powerful voice, advocacy, and Respin platform we’re
positioned to amplify our message and reach millions more women that want to advance their health and wellbeing. LET’S SPIN is a product for everyone.”

Together, Respin and Joylux are transforming the way women approach menopause by offering home-use products that address the unique intimate challenges they face.

Debuting products:

LET’S SPIN Intimacy Gel ($45 MSRP)
Experience unparalleled hydration, comfort and pleasure with our ultra-premium gel packaged in a beautifully designed, recyclable glass bottle designed by Respin in partnership with EstablishedNYC. Infused with hyaluronic acid, a natural hydrator renowned for its ability to
attract and retain moisture, and soothing aloe vera, this gel enhances intimate moments.  Formulated with all clean, ingredients that are free of parabens, PEGs and glycerin, and pH-balanced for delicate skin, enjoy a silky, smooth elevated intimate experience While created
with midlife women’s evolving needs in mind, LET’S SPIN is also a product that elevates intimacy
for everyone – no matter their gender, age or life stage.

Respin x Joylux vFit Plus Red Light Intimate Wellness Device ($495 MSRP)
This special edition menopause kit features the award-winning, Ob-Gyn-designed, intimate
wellness device vFit Plus in a custom chrome finish, paired with a distinctive silver storage bag.
All of this comes neatly packaged in Halle’s signature Respin box, designed by Respin in partnership with EstablishedNYC, complete with a personal message from her.

Previously available only through doctors, the app connected vFit Plus device utilizes our most advanced red-light technology for pelvic floor health and wellness. Experience noticeable improvements within just a few weeks, all from the comfort and privacy of home with this smart, clinically validated, hormone-free wellness device.

The RESPIN X JOYLUX LET’S SPIN intimacy gel ($45) and vFit+ red-light intimate wellness device ($495) will be available for purchase starting September 24, 2024 on joylux.com and through online retailers this fall, including Respin, Nordstrom.com, Bloomingdales.com, Ulta.com, Neimanmarcus.com, Goop.com Amazon.com, and select physician offices. It will also be available internationally in Canada and the United Kingdom with select partners.

ABOUT JOYLUX
Joylux enhances women’s intimate health with noninvasive, effective, and affordable solutions for various life stages, from motherhood to menopause. Their comprehensive approach ensures intimate health is a vital component of overall well-being.

Joylux offers advanced devices, science-based products, educational tools, and community platforms for “below-the-belt health.” As a leading women’s wellness and menopause brand, Joylux offers a platform of life-changing solutions with high-tech devices, digital tools, and products that address intimate health concerns. By combining science-based products with access to education, health data, and community, they strive to deliver better health outcomes. Their mission is to help women find light in their lives, from motherhood to menopause. (*Study results on file.)

ABOUT RESPIN
Respin is the first female longevity brand to sit at the intersection of science, technology, and community in building solutions that not only support women through menopause but also enhance their quality of life, paving the way for a future where midlife health is not just managed but celebrated.

Respin is anchored in storytelling for women in all stages of their midlife journey. With our founder Halle Berry championing a new conversation around menopause and culture, we are inspiring and aligning a passionate community with a robust technology stack and
integrated curated marketplace of products laser-targeted to meet the needs of the modern,  vibrant woman who deserves more.

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The Sexual Response Cycle – ORGASM

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The Sexual Response Cycle – ORGASM

Your orgasm is created. Before you set this aside because you know how to create an orgasm, give this article two minutes. Two minutes to find out why you are having unfilled sexual experiences with every lover. If you know just this little bit about getting yourself and them to that marvelous orgasm, you must know the phases of creation.

Physical and emotional changes occur as a person becomes sexually aroused and participates in sexually stimulating activities, including intercourse and masturbation. The sexual response cycle has four phases:

  • desire (libido)
  • arousal (excitement)
  • orgasm (release)
  • resolution (come down)

Most bodies experience these phases, the timing usually is different, and while it is unlikely to happen without putting in the work, both partners may reach orgasm at the same time.

In addition, the intensity of pleasure along the response cycle and the time spent in each phase varies from person to person. Understanding these differences may help partners better understand one another’s bodies and reactions to enhance the sexual experience. Understanding the sexual response cycle can give you a framework for a better understanding of how you go from zero to orgasm every time.

If, for example, you know that you need to be aroused longer than your partner does to orgasm, you’ll want to begin building arousing earlier.

  1. The Anticipation phase is the point of time when you want to be touched but haven’t started yet.
  2. The Excitement phase is far more active than the anticipation phase. In the excitement phase, you are building arousal. 

The higher the arousal level for an individual, the more intense the release is going to be.  Go from a very still, tired, or smug resolution to a full body thrashing, screaming, growling, grunting super wet, and fully intense release.

Get tips on the six internal and six external vulva orgasms and the pleasure of anal and the sought-after dry ejaculation for penis owners in Climax: The Power of Great Sex. Written for you my orgasmic friend!! This heightened orgasm and all its pleasure is steeped in that perfect storm of hormones that I am always talking about.  Serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine collaborate to induce physical signs you can watch for in your mate to continue the pleasure stimulation. There is a slew of activities you can implement for the stimulation of a person. The point is to drive them to the point of grunting and sweating by reading their body.

This is not something that is going to take place in a few seconds, if you have the time, build arousal until they are begging for more of whatever stimulation you have going on. Look and listen for an increased heart rate and flushed skin. Check to see if their breathing is faster and if their nipples are hardened. We all have nipples! The increased blood flow will swell the labia and cause the clitoris to become engorged. The penis erection is fully noticeable and may have pre-cum at the urethra opening.

The phase that happens next is necessary for sustained pleasure. The Plateau is putting your experience on ten! The physical signs you had during the excitement phase are so elevated the person begins to lose contact with being “proper”, “shy”, and “nervous” all the things on the orgasm plate that prevent a person from staying present in pleasure.  The pleasurable distraction includes you being all in at that moment.

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The orgasm itself is accompanied by a series of physical reactions on its own. The person is having involuntary muscle tension and contractions.  Please encourage them to breathe and pull in long breaths of air and push it out while the tension relaxes. Ask them to breathe in less and out faster and finally, they should be breathing in and out so quickly it’s panting. This is what you want to be looking for. 

Total relaxation and sexual movement are involuntary and should receive no shame. Is the person moaning, groaning, or making any signs of pleasure vocally? This is a great time to lean into the person, oxytocin is boiling inside, the sense of closeness will be elevated, and dopamine is fueling the fire of passion and creating an even higher heart rate, faster breathing, and feverish squirming.

Resolution is the comedown after the big release when your muscles relax, and your body is flooded with the perfect storm of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. Rest in it.  Allow your body to accept the flow of hormones and chemicals that are left from the arousal telling your body that all is well, and you can lay in the aftermath until your breathing returns to normal. So let me wrap this back around to you. Take note, this info is going to raise your game and your own orgasm. Yup, you can use it when masturbating as well.

Phase 1: Excitement

General characteristics of the excitement phase, which can last from a few minutes to several hours, include muscle tension. The heart rate quickens and breathing accelerates, the skin may become flushed (blotches of redness appear on the chest and back). Nipples become hardened or erect, and blood flow to the genitals increases, resulting in swelling of the vulva owner’s clitoris and labia minora (inner lips), and erection of the penis owner’s penis. Vaginal lubrication begins, the vulva owner’s breasts become fuller and the vaginal walls begin to swell and lubricate. The penis owner’s testicles swell, their scrotum tightens and begins secreting a lubricating liquid.

Phase 2: Plateau

General characteristics of the plateau phase, which extends to the brink of orgasm, include the changes begun in phase one are intensified. The vagina continues to swell from increased blood flow, and the vaginal walls turn a dark purple. The vulva owner’s clitoris becomes highly sensitive (may even be painful to touch) and retracts under the clitoral hood to avoid direct stimulation from the penis.

The penis owner’s testicles tighten. Breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure continue to increase. Muscle spasms may begin in the feet, face, and hands. Muscle tension increases, be completely open to pleasure.

Phase 3: Orgasm

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Ah, the grand finale – the orgasm! This is the peak of the pleasure rollercoaster, and boy, is it different for everyone! From a lightning-fast flash to a decadent twenty-minute show, orgasms come in all shapes and sizes.

Get ready for some involuntary muscle magic – your body’s about to start doing its thing. Your blood pressure, heart rate, and breathing hit peak performance levels as if you’re competing in an Olympic sprint.

Ever noticed your feet doing a little dance? Yep, that’s part of the show too. Cue the fireworks! There’s a sudden, explosive release of all that built-up sexual tension. For vulva owners, it’s all about those rhythmic contractions in the vagina and uterus – talk about a workout!

Meanwhile, penis owners experience their own fireworks display, with rhythmic contractions leading to ejaculation. And hey, don’t be surprised if you notice a lovely “sex flush” – a rosy rash that may grace your entire body. It’s all part of the fun!

Phase 4: Resolution

During resolution, the body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning and the swollen and erect body parts return to their previous size and color. This phase is marked by a general sense of well-being, enhanced intimacy, and, often, a strong sense of fatigue.

Some vulva owners are capable of a rapid return to the orgasm phase with further sexual stimulation and may experience multiple orgasms. Penis owners need recovery time after orgasm, called a refractory period, during which they cannot reach orgasm again. Some can react from an energetic stimulation that will cause the feeling of an intense orgasm through the penis owner’s body but there will be no ejaculate. This takes practice but can be done.

The duration of the refractory period varies among penis owners and usually lengthens with advancing age. Another model has added the emotion you feel to even want to have sex.  Desire. Desire refers to the emotional state of, well, desiring sex! This phase isn’t associated with any physical reaction, but it is with emotional ones!

Does everyone follow this response cycle? Nope! Everyone’s pleasure journey is unique, and sometimes it might take more effort to reach the finish line. But fear not – with a little work and determination, overcoming barriers and reaching orgasm is totally achievable!

If you’re aiming to reach the finish line but come up short, frustration might creep in. Ever heard of that feeling of pelvic congestion or heaviness? Yep, it’s like that! Penis owners sometimes call it “blue balls,” but guess what? It’s not exclusive to them – anyone can feel it, no matter their anatomy.

The good news? This uncomfortable sensation typically fades away once blood flow in the area goes back to its usual levels, usually within 30 to 60 minutes. So, hang in there – relief is on its way! In fact, some know this as orgasm control or orgasm denial, edging is a sexy way to intentionally explore delaying The Big Finish or keeping it from happening altogether. This kind of kinky play, however, isn’t something you decide to explore mid-action. Rather, it’s something you talk about and plan. So, if you’re in the middle of a partnered sex session and not having an orgasm, it’s probably not because your partner is edging you.

As a Clinical Sexologist, I want to assure you that experiencing difficulty in reaching climax is more common than you may think. Research suggests that anywhere from 5 to 40 percent of individuals encounter challenges in achieving orgasm. However, it’s important to note that this becomes a medical concern only when it causes significant distress or disruption in your life.

If you’re finding yourself struggling in this area, know that you’re not alone, and I’m here to offer support and guidance on your journey to pleasure. Whether the barriers are physical, psychological, or emotional, I’m dedicated to working alongside you to address and overcome them.

Sometimes, difficulty reaching orgasm can be linked to underlying factors such as hormone imbalances or the side effects of medications you may be taking. By identifying and addressing these root causes, we can work towards enhancing your sexual well-being and satisfaction.

Don’t hesitate to reach out to me – it would be my honor to assist you in navigating this aspect of your sexual health and empowering you to experience the pleasure and fulfillment you deserve. 

Debra Shade

 

 

What You Should Know About Consensual Non-monogamy?

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What You Should Know About Consensual Non-monogamy?

Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy (also referred to as ethical or responsible non-monogamy). In responsible polyamory, everyone knows that there are other partners, and each person gets to negotiate their involvement in the relationships. Romantic, emotional, and/or sexual involvement may differ in each relationship. Polyamory literally means many loves (poly = many, amor = love). Polyamory is not cheating or polygamy.

  • Polygamy: involves marriage between multiple people
  • Open relationships: involve sexual relationships among multiple people
  • Swinging: entails couples “swapping” sexual partners
  • Triads or throuples: where three people all date one another
  • Polyfidelity: all partners in a group agree not to have romantic and sexual relationships outside the established group
  • Casual sex: people have sexual relationships without any romantic relationship or commitments, possibly with multiple sexual partners
  • Casual dating: people date multiple people

What’s the difference between ethical non-monogamy and infidelity?

Infidelity, or what many experts refer to as “breaking a relationship agreement,” involves deception and/or betrayal. With ethical non-monogamy, all partners are aware of one another and consent to the relationship. That’s not to say that infidelity can’t happen in an ethically non-monogamous relationship. Sometimes, people in these relationships overstep boundaries and betray or deceive their partners. This might be considered infidelity.

It can also include relationship anarchy, although many people consider this a philosophy or a political approach as opposed to a relationship style. Relationship anarchy challenges assumptions around relationships and the idea that one relationship (like a married relationship) is more important than other relationships (like friendships). Relationship anarchy might include having multiple intimate partners.

Ethical non-monogamy is an umbrella term, and polyamory is just one way to practice it. Polyamory is having intimate relationships with multiple people at the same time. In other words, you can have more than one romantic partner at the same time.

How do you introduce this subject?

This depends on your situation. Everybody “starts” ethical non-monogamy in a different way. Sometimes, a couple opens their relationship to others. Sometimes, people meet other non-monogamous people and form a throuple. Others join couples in a committed or casual way. If you’re already partnered, it’s a good idea to talk with your partner about your feelings. Discuss why you’d like to try ethical non-monogamy and emphasize that it’s not that they’re “not enough” for you. Commit to learning more about it as a couple.

Consider connecting with other non-monogamous people without the expectation of sex or relationships. This is a good way to process your feelings, learn more about ethical non-monogamy, and form friendships with non-judgmental people. Apps and dating sites are a great place to start.

Ethical non-monogamy can become complex because there are so many ways to practice it. For this reason, it’s a good idea to continually learn more about it. New terms and concepts are constantly being developed to help people describe relationship styles more accurately, so it’s important to be open to learning those new ideas.

Partner Abuse

Red flags for partner abuse in a polyamory relationship.

  • Insist that their way of practicing polyamory is the only way to practice polyamory?
  • Prevent you from joining a polyamory community or learn more about non-monogamy?
  • Threaten to “out” you to friends, family, or co-workers?
  • Violate your safer sex agreements?
  • Try to control your other relationships?
  • Isolate you from your friends and family?
  • Ridicule you when you try to express limits or emotions?
  • Force you to choose between partners or control your contact with other people?

 An abusive partner might say:

  • “Why are you acting so jealous? You must not really be poly…”
  • “Everything you say to me will be reported to my other partners.”
  • “You need to impress my primary partner…”
  • “Group sex is the only way to build group intimacy.”
  • “You owe me for spending so much time with your other partners.”
  • “If you don’t do this… I will tell your family that you are poly.”

Just as with any other red flag of abuse, you need to immediately remove yourself from the threat.  Seek the help of friends, family, and authorities if necessary. Relationships steeped in pleasure are possible in so many methods and if you are looking to explore ethical non-monogamy, some resources can help you do so.

Did I leave you with a question? Send them to me via X, IG, or FB and keep watch for my response.   Don’t hesitate to reach out to me – it would be my honor to assist you in navigating this aspect of your sexual health and empowering you to experience the pleasure and fulfillment you deserve. debra.shade.youcanbook.me

Debra Shade – 2024 ASN Awards Finalist

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Exciting News!  Debra Shade – 2024 ASN Awards Finalist

I am thrilled to share that I have been chosen for the October 2024 cover and feature of ASN Lifestyle Magazine, a premier publication dedicated to the lifestyle community.  The magazine is known for celebrating authenticity, wellness, and connection in every form, offering readers insights into healthy living, social behaviors, and sexual freedom.

ASN consistently pushes boundaries, tackling important issues around intimacy and self-expression while also providing tips for living your best life.

I would like for you to introduce myself to those who do not know me.  I am an ABS Clinical Sexologist and owner of Shades Oasis, located in Columbus, OH.  

At Shades Oasis, our pleasure education center bridges the worlds of sexual arousal and whole-body wellness, showing how intimacy is more than just physical—it’s essential for emotional and mental balance too!

In this feature, you’ll find details on how arousal and hormone release (think dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins) enhance your overall health and well-being. ASN has been a true leader in helping people explore these topics safely and with joy.

Dive into the latest issue for my full feature!

Catch the article on ASN and check out Shades Oasis and more about Debra 

Don’t hesitate to reach out to me – it would be my honor to assist you in navigating this aspect of your sexual health and empowering you to experience the pleasure and fulfillment you deserve. debra.shade.youcanbook.me

The Art of Cum Eating

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The Art of Cum Eating

The sensory aspects of cum eating (CEI) are as varied as the individuals who practice it. Semen’s taste and texture can range from sweet to salty, thick to runny. Some enthusiasts experiment with diet and supplements to alter these qualities, enhancing the experience for both the giver and the receiver.

Consistency and volume may be a concern for some. The amount and texture of semen can vary greatly from person to person, which might affect the experience. Some might find the consistency or volume less appealing. Just as the taste and smell can be. Semen can have a bitter, salty, or slightly bleach-like taste, which is not to everyone’s liking. Its smell can also be a turn-off for some individuals.

In many cases, CEI becomes a ritualistic part of sexual play. The buildup to the moment of ejaculation can be drawn out through edging, dirty talk, or other forms of tease and denial. This anticipation often heightens the intensity of the eventual release and consumption.

What is CEI:

CEI is a multifaceted practice that defies simplistic categorization. It’s a complex interplay of power dynamics, intimacy, and humiliation, woven together by the threads of desire and surrender. By embracing this complexity, we can unlock the true potential of CEI, exploring the depths of human sexuality and the intricacies of the human experience.

Let’s delve into the world of cum eating, exploring its significance, benefits, and how to incorporate it into your kink play.

The power exchange in CEI is palpable. The dominant partner wields control over the submissive’s body, dictating when and how the ejaculate is to be consumed. This dynamic can be intensely erotic, reinforcing the roles of each participant in the encounter. Beyond the kink, CEI can foster a profound sense of intimacy.

Sharing such a vulnerable and personal act can strengthen emotional bonds and foster a sense of closeness that transcends the physical realm. CEI isn’t confined to one-on-one interactions. It can be a part of solo masturbation, where one savors their own essence, or within group settings, where multiple partners may share in the experience. Each variation brings its own unique flavor to the practice.

Personal Anecdote:

CEI has brought my partner and me closer together. It’s a way for us to connect on a deeper level, to share in each other’s desires and vulnerabilities. The intimacy is palpable, and the bond we’ve formed is unbreakable. – Michael, 32

Cum eating, also known as creampie eating, is a fascinating aspect of human sexuality that often sparks intense curiosity and desire. For those who identify as kinksters, cum eating can be a powerful tool for exploring submission, humiliation, and intimacy. This is a sexual practice that transcends the mere act of ingestion, it’s an intimate, sometimes taboo, expression of power dynamics, surrender, and pleasure. For many, it’s a core component of their sexual identity and a source of profound erotic satisfaction.

The Psychology of Cum Eating:

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The intricacies of CEI, from its psychological underpinnings to the raw, carnal experiences it entails. Cum eating is often associated with submission, humiliation, and degradation. The act of consuming one’s own semen can be a potent symbol of surrender, allowing the individual to tap into their deepest desires and fears. This fetish can be particularly appealing to those who enjoy being dominated, as it allows them to relinquish control and surrender to their partner’s desires.

Moreover, cum eating can be a form of self-discovery, allowing individuals to confront their own shame and guilt surrounding sexuality. By embracing this taboo activity, kinksters can develop a deeper understanding of their own desires and boundaries, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and authentic sexual experience. It often involves a dominant partner directing the submissive to consume their own ejaculate. This act can be laden with layers of meaning, from the ultimate submission to a deeply intimate connection.

So, what makes cum eating so appealing to kinksters? For starters, it can be an incredibly intimate and personal experience, allowing partners to connect on a deeper level. The act of consuming semen can create a sense of unity and closeness as if the individuals are sharing a secret that only they understand. Cum eating can also be a powerful tool for building trust and communication in a relationship. When partners engage in this activity, they must communicate their desires, boundaries, and preferences, fostering a deeper understanding and connection.

  • Establish a clear power dynamic: The dominant partner must assert their control, setting the tone for the encounter.
  • Tease and deny: Edging, dirty talk, or other forms of tease and denial can heighten the anticipation and intensity of the eventual release.
  • Ejaculate on command: The dominant partner directs the submissive to ejaculate, often with a sense of urgency or humiliation.
  • Consume the ejaculate: The submissive is forced to consume their own semen, sometimes with humiliating phrases or actions accompanying the act.

So, now I have you interested in exploring cum eating, where do you start? Communication is key, before engaging in cum eating, it’s essential to discuss your desires, boundaries, and preferences with your partner.

  • Make sure you’re both comfortable with the activity and understand each other’s needs.
  • Begin with small amounts of semen, gradually increasing the quantity as you become more comfortable with the activity.
  • Experiment with different techniques and methods of cum eating, such as using your fingers, tongue, or mouth.
  • Experiment with different textures, temperatures, and sensations to find what works best for you.
  • Turn cum eating into a ritualistic experience, incorporating elements like bondage, role-playing, or sensory deprivation to enhance the experience.

Cum eating can be seamlessly integrated into various kink play scenarios, adding an extra layer of excitement and intimacy to your encounters. Role-play for instance, by engaging in role-playing scenarios where one partner is the “cum-slave,” forced to consume the semen of their master or mistress. Sensory deprivation combines with cum eating with a blindfold or earplugs, to heighten the sense of intimacy and vulnerability.

Personal Anecdote:

I never thought I’d be into CEI, but my partner’s dominant nature and my own submissive desires made it a natural fit. The first time, I was nervous, but the rush of adrenaline and the sense of surrender were intoxicating. Now, it’s a staple of our sexual routine. – Rachel, 29

CEI often intersects with other kinks and sub-fetishes. Beyond the humiliation aspect, it can foster a profound sense of intimacy. Sharing such a vulnerable and personal act can strengthen emotional bonds and foster a sense of closeness that transcends the physical realm. The power exchange in CEI is palpable. The dominant partner wields control over the submissive’s body, dictating when and how the ejaculate is to be consumed. This dynamic can be intensely erotic, reinforcing the roles of each participant in the encounter.

  • BDSM: CEI can be a natural extension of BDSM practices, where the dominant partner asserts control over the submissive’s body.
  • Erotic Humiliation: CEI can be a form of erotic humiliation, where the submissive is forced to confront their own desires and vulnerabilities.
  • Cuckolding: CEI can be a part of cuckolding scenarios, where the submissive partner is forced to consume the ejaculate of their partner’s lover.

Try these steps:

  1. Establish a connection: The partners must be comfortable with each other, sharing a deep emotional bond.
  2. Create a sensual atmosphere: Soft lighting, gentle music, and a relaxed environment can set the tone for a more intimate experience.
  3. Ejaculate together: The partners can ejaculate simultaneously, heightening the sense of connection and intimacy.
  4. Consume the ejaculate together: The partners can share in the act of consuming each other’s semen, further solidifying their emotional bond.
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While cum eating is a popular and often eroticized practice within certain adult content circles, there are some downsides and considerations to keep in mind. Health Risks – if there are any sexually transmitted infections (STIs) present in either partner, consuming semen can transmit these infections. Although semen is generally safe to ingest, there is a risk of allergic reactions in some individuals, known as seminal plasma hypersensitivity.

Consider the nutritional content as a benefit and/or a downside. Semen contains proteins, vitamins, and minerals, the quantities are so small that it is not a viable source of nutrition. This can be a downside for those who might consume it with nutritional expectations. The pressure to perform for a partner or audience can lead to performance anxiety.

Fetish stigmatization is often tied to themes of dominance and submission, and not everyone is comfortable with, or approves of, such power dynamics in their sexual expression. The stigma associated with this fetish might lead to embarrassment or discomfort when discussing preferences with partners.

The practicality and cleanliness of the owner should also be considered. Managing the logistics of cum eating, such as where and how to consume the semen, can be impractical and messy. Clean-up post-act can also be a concern for those who prefer less messy sexual activities.

It’s important to communicate openly with partners about comfort levels, boundaries, and health status before engaging in any sexual activity, including CEI. Consent and mutual enjoyment should always be the top priorities. If all parties involved are informed, consenting, and comfortable with the practice, it can be a fulfilling part of their sexual expression. However, understanding and respecting individual limits and preferences is crucial.

While CEI is generally safe, it’s important to consider the health aspects of any sexual activity. Societal attitudes toward CEI have evolved over time. The cultural perceptions have shaped the practice and how the rise of adult content platforms has contributed to its growing acceptance.

Whether viewed as an act of submission, a display of dominance, or a testament to intimacy, CEI remains a potent symbol of human sexuality in all its diversity and complexity. Cum eating is a complex and multifaceted fetish that offers a unique window into the world of human sexuality.

By embracing this taboo activity, kinksters can explore new dimensions of intimacy, submission, and self-discovery. Remember to communicate openly with your partner, start slowly, and experiment with different techniques to find what works best for you.

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Product Review: OSUGA Flow Triple Stimulation

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Product Review: OSUGA Flow Triple Stimulation

What I experienced:

I am reviewing the OSUGA Flow Triple Stimulation for Clitoris, Urethral and G-spot vibe and first, the packaging is beautiful.  It’s a simple white box but detailed with the product etched on the front.  I opened the box to find a unique shaped toy.  It is unlike any toy I have seen on the market.

It is soft to the touch, flexible and pack a powerful punch.  When I used it on the low setting and then hit the boost mode, let me tell you, it had me at my peak in a record time.  I tried different speeds and each speed got stronger and strong, but the lowest speed worked perfect for me.  Experiencing multiple orgasms before shut it off was a first for me.  Can you say “AMAZING!” That is what I got from the first try.

Edging Play and the Flow:

This item was inspired by edging play, which is an orgasm control technique that may be practiced either alone or with a partner and involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period without reaching a climax.  The Flow starts in gentle rest mode, using four motors-like waves to softly massage you and awaken your clitoris, urethral and G-spot. As arousal builds, you switch to boost mode for edging play. When you reach climax, briefly switch to rest mode, wait about 30 – 60 seconds, then re-engage boost mode—repeating until you’re ready to orgasm.

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About the Flow:

The Flow is a multi-functional toy with four motors to stimulate the clitoris, urethral opening, and the g-spot simultaneously, making orgasms stronger, more powerful, and more intense than ever before.

It is magnetic rechargable, is a triple stimulator and can be enjoyed for over 2 hours on a single charge.   The usage and run time are:

  • Up to 60 minutes in Boost Mode at maximum setting
  • Up to 120 minutes in Rest Mode at maximum setting

It is crafted from body-safe silicone, IPX7 waterproof which is great for water play.   As the vaginal space changes, the G-spot area of the toy’s elasticity provides a continuous filling sensation, eliminating any feeling of emptiness. 

With the OSUGA Flow Triple Stimulation for Clitoris, Urethral and G-spot vibe, you can focus on your body, feel the build-up, and explore until you find what you like. Whether you’re playing solo or with a partner, Flow provides ultimate pleasure.

About OSUGA – “More Than Pleasure.”

They believe that sex is a beautiful, natural experience, and strive to inspire every woman to embrace it with confidence.

OSUGA was founded in 2019 to help every woman recognize, accept, and explore herself. They prioritize design and quality in everything we create, aiming to build a sexual wellness brand that goes beyond stereotypes. 

Through their innovative designs and commitment to quality, they strive to create a relaxed world where every woman can confidently embrace her individuality and experience the joy of self-discovery.  For additional information and to purchase this item, visit their web store.

The Secret to Getting Paypigs on a Findom Site

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The Secret to Getting Paypigs on a Findom Site

So, you’ve decided to become a Findom and are just getting started setting up, collecting your gear, and practicing your persona. All that’s left now is getting your paypigs.

We’ll review how to get started on a good Findom site and get those first few paypigs, which are always the hardest. Beyond that, we’re looking at how to make the experience work for everyone involved, leading to long-term clients who will keep coming back for more.

Setting Up Your Profile on a Findom Site

To start, we’ll need to get you set up as a financial dominatrix on a Findom site.

FindomMeet.com is the example we’ll use, but many are out there. Sometimes, it pays to sign up for a bunch of them and see where your content gains traction. But enough of this fluffing around, it’s time to build your first profile:

  1. Showcase high-quality images and videos. Visuals are everything on the internet. Think Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube. You can see that high-quality video and pictures are now the norm. If you want to have a chance as a Findom, you’ll need to have great lighting, make-up, and the technical know-how to take great pictures and video as a baseline. But beyond that, you’ll want your content to highlight a specific ‘brand’ – that is, your personal style, personality, and style of dominance that paypigs will want to get invested in. Try a 15-second video of yourself in a commanding pose, complete with a seductive outfit and confident demeanor as a starting point.
  2. Write Compelling Captions. Your captions should emphasize your dominance and invoke a sense of curiosity among paypigs quickly browsing or searching your profile. Use assertive yet alluring language, with a little ‘clickbait’ magic thrown in there. For example, “Your tributes are worthless here. I only accept you as your true Goddess.”
  1. Clear Expectations: Once you’ve hooked them, set the right expectations for what you’re offering in your profile. This includes what kind of tributes you accept, how often you expect them, and any specific rules or protocols you have in place. The balance between alluring mystery and transparency is tricky, but you need to be straightforward to attract the right kind of submissives.

Building a Connection

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Once you have built your profile and started posting, the next step is to make a connection with your paypigs. Between regular posts on your feed, you’ll want to interact a little more directly with your lustful clients. Here are some strategies to keep them coming back once you’ve got their attention:

  1. Good Communication: Engage with your paypigs on the paypig site regularly and in a way that feels personal to them. Respond to their messages, acknowledge their tributes, and play into their fantasies. The more personal your interactions, the more likely they will become regulars.
  2. Customized Humiliation: Not all paypigs enjoy the same level of humiliation. Some may prefer mild teasing, while others crave more intense degradation. Knowing your audience and catering to their desires is best. It’s good to choose your baseline up front (let’s say, mild humiliation), then center your content from there.
  3. Consistency and Reliability: Consistency is crucial in maintaining a loyal following. Post updates regularly, engage in role-playing scenarios, and let people know you plan to be around and stay with them. This reliability builds trust and encourages paypigs to continue their financial support.

Leveraging Your Social Media

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Now that you’ve prepared as best you can, the next thing to do is set up your social media presence to generate exciting content that will funnel potential paypigs into your more lucrative content. Here’s how you can leverage these platforms:

  1. Teaser Posts: Share short teasers of your content and build on highlights of your content on platforms like Twitter or Instagram. Remember, people will be scrolling over it for less than a second, so make the thumbnail, short video, and caption all eye-catching and short.
  2. Engage with Your Audience: Respond to comments and messages in a way that makes people feel you’re real, without looking desperate. Engage in conversations that showcase your personality and dominance. Think of every interaction as a potential to build your ‘brand.’
  3. Collaborate with Other Doms: Collaborating with other financial dominatrices can expand your reach. Participate in joint live streams, share each other’s content, and cross-promote your profiles to attract a broader audience. You can also reach out further to others in the kink community.

Ethical Considerations

While financial domination can be a lucrative venture, it’s essential to approach it with ethical considerations in mind:

  1. Consent and Boundaries: Always ensure that any interaction is consensual. Establish clear boundaries and respect the limits of your paypigs. This includes avoiding language that may be offensive or degrading without explicit consent.
  2. Transparency: Be transparent about your expectations and the use of tributes. It can be hard to find the right balance between fantasy and honesty and transparency, but hitting this balance is the sign of a great Findom.

Some Final Tips

  • Post regularly with innovative content: Keep your content fresh by posting regular updates. This could include new photos, videos, or even live streams.
  • Be open to all kinds of role-playing: Engage in role-playing scenarios that cater to the fantasies of your paypigs. Depending on their preferences, this can range from mild teasing to more intense humiliation.
  • Get and listen to feedback: Encourage feedback from your paypigs and use it to improve your approach. This helps in tailoring your content to meet their specific needs and desires.
  • Community engagement: Participate in online communities related to Findom to network with other doms and learn from their experiences. Don’t just advertise your social media or profiles. Actually try to connect with the community and seek to provide helpful discussion.

Conclusion

Financial domination can be a fun experience, but there are many dos and don’ts to getting started successfully. You need to be strategic and authentic at the same time and understand how to play into the fantasy.

If you can do that and learn to leverage social media well, a whole can of worms unto itself, you’ll be well on your way to Findom success.

So, whether you’re a seasoned dom or just starting out, understanding these secrets can help you navigate the Findom site landscape with confidence.

Ways to Empower Women to Connect with Their Bodies

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Ways to Empower Women to Connect with Their Bodies and Explore Their Own Path to Experiencing Pleasure

Women are often bombarded with mixed messages about their bodies and sexuality. While society increasingly acknowledges the importance of body positivity and sexual empowerment, many women still struggle to develop a connection with their own bodies and explore their unique paths to pleasure. This journey is deeply personal and transformative, requiring self-awareness, education, and the dismantling of societal taboos. In this article, we will explore how to help every woman develop a deep connection with their body and navigate their own path to pleasure.

Understanding the Importance of Body Connection

Self-Awareness:

Self-awareness is the foundation of a strong connection with one’s body. It involves understanding how your body feels, what it needs, and how it responds to various stimuli. Many women have been conditioned to ignore or suppress their bodily sensations, leading to a disconnect that can manifest in various ways, including low self-esteem, anxiety, and a lack of sexual fulfillment.  

Body Positivity:

Body positivity is a movement that encourages acceptance and love for all body types, shapes, and sizes.  Encouraging body positivity involves more than just promoting diverse images in media; it requires active open talks about self-worth and beauty. Women need to be reminded that their value is not determined by their appearance and that they are deserving of love and respect. This mindset shift can open the door to a deeper, more authentic connection with one’s body.

Exploring Personal Paths to Pleasure

Education and Knowledge:

One of the biggest barriers to exploring personal pleasure is a lack of education. Many women are not taught about their bodies’ anatomy, sexual health, or the wide range of experiences that can bring pleasure. This gap in knowledge can lead to feelings of shame, confusion, or frustration. Sexual education is crucial in empowering women to explore their own paths to pleasure. When women understand how their bodies work and what feels good for them, they are better equipped to explore their desires without fear or embarrassment.

Breaking the Taboos:

Society often places taboos around female pleasure, creating a culture of silence and shame. These taboos can make it difficult for women to talk openly about their desires or seek out the experiences that bring them joy. Women should be encouraged to express their desires, ask questions, and seek out information without fear of judgment. By normalizing discussions about pleasure, we can help women feel more comfortable exploring what feels good to them.

Self-Exploration:

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Self-exploration is a key component of developing a connection with one’s body and discovering what brings pleasure. This exploration can take many forms, from solo activities like masturbation to experimenting with different types of touch, fantasies, or sexual practices.  Osuga, a company founded in 2019 helps women recognize, accept, and explore themselves. They prioritize design and quality in everything they create, aiming to build a sexual wellness brand that goes beyond stereotypes.  They have a wide range of toys that fit any woman’s sexual needs, such as the OSUGA Flow Triple Stimulation for Clitoris, Urethral and G-spot and other innovative items.

Mindfulness and Sensuality:

Mindfulness is the practice of being present and fully engaged in the current moment. When applied to the body, mindfulness can enhance physical sensations and deepen the connection between mind and body. This practice is especially powerful in the context of exploring pleasure, as it encourages women to focus on what feels good without distraction or judgment. 

Communication and Intimacy:

Exploring pleasure is not just an individual journey; it also involves communication and intimacy with partners. Women need to feel comfortable discussing their desires and boundaries with their partners, as well as exploring new experiences together, such as incorporating sexual aides without feeling judged by their partners.   Partners can also play a supportive role by being attentive, respectful, and willing to explore new experiences together.

Creating Supportive Communities

Building a Support Network:

Support networks provide a safe space for women to talk about their journeys without fear of judgment. They can also offer valuable resources, such as books, workshops, or expert advice, to help women along their paths. By fostering a sense of community, women can feel less isolated and more empowered in their exploration of pleasure.

Seeking Professional Guidance:

Sometimes, women may need professional guidance to help them navigate their connection with their bodies or explore their paths to pleasure. This could involve seeing a therapist who specializes in sexual health, a sex coach, or a body positivity advocate.

Overcoming Challenges

Addressing Body Shame:

Many women have internalized negative messages about their bodies from a young age, leading to feelings of inadequacy or self-loathing. Overcoming body shame is a gradual process that involves challenging these negative beliefs and replacing them with positive, affirming ones.  

Navigating Societal Pressures:

Societal pressures to conform to certain beauty standards or sexual norms can make it difficult for women to embrace their bodies and explore their desires.  To navigate societal pressures, women need to cultivate a strong sense of self and prioritize their own needs and desires over external expectations.

Conclusion

Helping women develop a connection with their body and explore their own path to pleasure is a multifaceted journey that requires education, self-awareness, and support. By promoting body positivity, breaking down societal taboos, and encouraging self-exploration, can empower women to embrace their bodies and discover what brings them joy. This journey is deeply personal and unique to everyone, but with the right resources and community, every woman can find her own path to pleasure and fulfillment.

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Visit Osuga, where their mission is to empower every woman to forge a deeper connection with their own body and explore new levels of pleasure that are uniquely theirs.  With a vision is to offer a positive, joyful, and beautiful sexual experience, while also being socially responsible and committed to sustainable development. They believe that sex is a beautiful, natural experience, and strive to inspire every woman to embrace it with confidence. Through their innovative designs and commitment to quality, they strive to create a relaxed world where every woman can confidently embrace her individuality and experience the joy of self-discovery.

Beducated Reveals Different Desires in the Bedroom

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PRESS RELEASE

Beducated Reveals Different Desires in the Bedroom: Men Want More, Women Want Better

(Los Angeles, CA / September 3, 2024) – Top digital sex-ed platform Beducated recently conducted an in-depth survey examining the sexual satisfaction and desires of men and women – uncovering distinct differences in what each group seeks to improve within their intimate lives.

Men and women are equally satisfied with their sex lives, but men want more of it and would also love for their partner to open up about their wants, needs and boundaries. 57% of all respondents expressed a desire for more frequent sexual activity, highlighting a common sentiment across genders.

Individuals’ quality of sexual experiences over time fluctuates by gender as well, with nearly 25% of men polled expressing that “Our desire for sex never matches anymore”, but a more illuminating outcome reveals that more than 30% of men believe “Sex has gotten better over time”, while more than 40% of women feel the same way.

“Our latest survey sheds light on the nuanced needs and desires of individuals in their intimate relationships,” said Beducated founder Mariah Freya. “Understanding these differences can help partners communicate more effectively and work towards mutual satisfaction.”

To learn more, visit Beducated.com to discover an insightful censor-free variety of 100+ pleasure-based sex education courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration, with subscriptions starting at $9.99 a month for an annual pass. Non-subscribers can also explore the service with a 24-hour free trial.

ABOUT BEDUCATED:

Beducated is the biggest pleasure-based sex education platform on the internet, with 100+ courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration. The library hosts thousands of lessons and extensive learning materials curated by world-class sex educators, coaches, and experts.

Founded by Mariah Freya and Phil Steinweber in 2018, Beducated began as a “Netflix for sexual education,” offering online access to sex and sexuality master classes via subscription. Their latest venture, the AI Sex Coach, is a comprehensive ‘intimacy assistant’ that provides detailed advice on sex and relationships, leveraging extensive training from thousands of sex education lessons and materials to foster an environment of shame-free sexual exploration. To learn more, visit Beducated.com.

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Sexual Fantasizing

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Sexual fantasizing, what does it mean? It is the indulgence in daydreaming about something one desires. Fantasizing is done by men and women and it is totally normal. Boys and girls typically start to fantasize between 11 and 13 years of age, according to a study by the California State University.

WedMD has studied these activities also and found that women between 27 and 45 years of age had more intense sexual fantasies than other groups. More often than not, men will fantasize about a complete stranger whereas a woman tends to fantasize about someone she knows. For example, a man might fantasize about a woman he sees across the gym for the first time while a woman might fantasize about her gym trainer.

In this article we will be looking at the eight most common sexual fantasies and what percentage of men and women like which particular fantasies. After you read this, you should have a realization that you are more normal than you thought, no matter what society or culture says.

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Please keep in mind that all cultures, religions, and societies have different perspectives on these activities. What is not accepted in one part of the world may be totally normal and acceptable in another. With that in mind, it really is normal to have thoughts and feelings of fantasies.

This is why it can get tricky and cause problems if you let an individual make you feel like something is wrong with you. Do not do that. There is nothing further from the truth. It is important that one focuses on the fact that we are all humans at different stages in our lives and we will all be experiencing different desires.

In a Psychology Today article of November 18, 2019, Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller reported on research which discovered the Most Common Sexual Fantasies.

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8 Most Common Sexual Fantasies

Multi-Partner Sex Fantasies are reported by:

  • Men 95%
  • Women 87%

Multi-Partner might include the following:

  • Threesomes
  • Group Sex
  • Orgies
  • Gang Bangs

BDSM means Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism Fantasies and are reported by:

  • Men 93%
  • Women 95%

BDSM might include the following:

  • Being Dominated
  • Dominating Someone
  • Bondage
  • Sensory Deprivation

Novelty, Adventure, and Variety Fantasies are reported by:

  • Men 97%
  • Women 97%

Novelty, Adventure, and Variety might include the following:

  • Sex in Public
  • Sex in an Uncommon Location
  • Sex with a Celebrity
  • Sex with a Stranger
  • Role Play
  • Cosplay

Sexual Taboo Culturally Forbidden Fantasies are reported by:

  • Men 87%
  • Women 72%

Sexual Taboo Culturally Forbidden might include the following:

  • Oral Sex
  • Anal Sex
  • Sex with Someone Younger
  • Sex with Someone Older
  • Exhibitionism
  • Voyeurism

Passion, Romance, and Intimacy Fantasies are reported by:

  • Men 99%
  • Women 99%

Passion, Romance, and Intimacy might include the following:

  • Cuddling
  • Hand Holding
  • Spend Time Together
  • Masturbating
  • Penetration
  • Making Out or Kissing
  • Humping
  • Fingering or Hand Movements
  • Sexual Fetishism
  • Sex with Emotion
  • Sex with Trust
  • Sensual Massage
  • Sexual Massage

Non-Monogamous Fantasies are reported by:

  • Men 91%
  • Women 80%

Non-Monogamous Relationship might include the following:

  • Open Relationship
  • Swinging
  • Polyamory

Alternative Sexual Behaviors Fantasies are reported by:

  • Men 59%
  • Women 49%

Alternative Sexual Behaviors might include the following:

  • Gender-Bending
  • Homoeroticism
  • Cross dressing
  • Becoming the Other Sex
  • Sex with a Transgender Partner
  • Gender Swap
  • Pegging

Heterosexual and Homoeroticism Fantasies are reported by:

  • Men 26%
  • Women 59%

Heterosexual and Homoeroticism might include the following:

  • Heterosexuals desiring same sex activities
  • Gay Pornography
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Fantasizing can and often will change with your age and desires. Sometimes what we wanted in our twenties is different than what we want in our forties.

Another factor is health. It has been proven that when a human, or robot, physically touches our heart or our brain, it can cause changes in our personality. That change can be as simple as no longer liking a certain food, but it can also be as complex as to change your sexual desires.

Fantasizing is not talked about openly and when it is, a lot of times the topic is met with hostility. This is because to the individuals talking, it is a taboo subject and they think it is wrong, even though they are likely partaking in some of the same fantasies. In reality, there is nothing wrong with you. It is simply normal human behaviors. As always, have fun and keep it consensual.