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Have You Ever Thought of Planning Your Orgasm?

Have you ever thought about planning your orgasm? Well, you go about life planning everything else, so why not?

As humans, we put so much effort into planning; the route we will take to the office, the clothes we will wear, our breakfast, lunch & supper, our bath time, and our choice of recreational activity. All this planning is demonstrated as self-care for oneself. Rightfully, self-care is important and does need planning or will never be prioritized.

Intimate Relationships Require Planning

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Intimate relationships take planning too. Planning helps you to thrive and lack of planning can only result in failure. The benefit of planning for your intimate relationship has benefits that will boost your relationship to unimaginable levels. How, you may ask?

An orgasm is when the body experiences a rise in the intensity of sexual arousal, which peaks for a few seconds and then lowers to a normal level. Studies suggest many biological benefits of an orgasm. Including a healthier immune system and reduction of stress. During the peak, the brain releases a cocktail of neurochemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. These are happy hormones, and the benefits are immense as listed hereunder:

  • Oxytocin is referred to as the love hormone or cuddling drug, as levels increase during orgasm and cuddling. Increased feelings of love, bonding, and well-being are experienced.
  • Serotonin Improves mood, social behavior, appetite, sleep, memory, and sexual desire.
  • Dopamine is the ultimate motivator, regulating sensations of pain and pleasure.

It cannot be stressed upon more the need to have a healthy, sexually fulfilling relationship with the natural benefits oozing through yourself naturally. This is where you take control with your partner, knowing that no one else can make that change except you. You may feel overwhelmed by reading this and wonder where you start.

Just like you plan all other activities, bring sex onto the planning platform. Start small with some of the below-listed ideas and expand. Most importantly, attitude and consistency will make the difference. There is no need to be perfect at it. Having the right intent is what makes the difference.

  • Sit together in silence or watch a movie holding hands
  • Date night and sex thereafter
  • Shower together or a luxurious bubble bath
  • Game night with sex toys or without – all dependent on the comfort level of both individuals
  • Weekend in bed
  • Activity that you both enjoy

As humans, if we want something, we go after it. Once we have what we want, complacency sets in and we tend to take each other for granted. We journey into a mode where the relationship is not granted any planning. Instead, just happens as and when there are time and desire.

Have you and your partner discussed how you make each other feel? Perhaps it is a good time to plan a conversation around this.

Both of you may have fantasies about what you like to experience with each other; however, you both hold back and do not talk about it as there never is an opportunity.

Let us face it, when you in the middle of lovemaking, one can move their partner gently into a change of position. However, if you would like to experience something more, it does take planning. For example, you cannot pause the sexual activity and whip out the ropes to experience some bondage if this has not been communicated with your partner.

Communication is essential to planning:

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  • I want – what you want to get you to the level of excitement you require to orgasm
  • I will – what you will do comfortably. If you are not comfortable in doing these, you will ensure you have terms to how far you will go.
  • I won’t – a definite no to you currently. You could change your mind at a later stage.

The above is a healthy way to set boundaries with clear expectations which have been defined because of the discussion. It leaves no grey area and if there is an agreement, with caution, you will set safewords during the discussion to ensure there is no violation during sexual activity.

In the intensity of the moment, it is difficult to set boundaries; however, having done so upfront has planted the seed on how far one can go. At all times, it is important to respect boundaries and not be forceful. It can become a gradual journey taken together as comfort levels and trust increases.

It will certainly feel unnatural at the beginning of this process until you and your partner get into the habit of planning and discussing your intimate lives. It will deepen the bond in the relationship and build trust.

You will remove the masks and start communicating openly about what you want to experience and explore with each other. Vulnerability will become the new sexy on this adventure together.

Experiment Explore & Learn Together!

Life is short. Make it wild, crazy, sexy & exciting for each other.

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Originally posted on Brainz Magazine and Ultimacy Online.

Benefits of Kissing

The Kissing Cure

 

I’m Erika Jordan certified life coach and NLP practitioner. An Oxford University study found that kissing helps us to find and keep the right partner. Yeah kissing is fun. But also kissing might be something we do for answers and to improve our relationship! According to research, kissing allows us to subconsciously assess a potential partner by picking up on “biological compatibility cues.” Kissing was found to be useful for finding a person you want a relationship with long-term. Couples who make it a point to kiss a lot were also found to have higher levels of oxytocin. And had higher levels of relationship satisfaction than couples who don’t kiss a lot. When couples have higher levels of oxytocin between them, they were also found to finish each other’s sentences and touch more. In short, they were very in sync.

 

That amazing connection you experience in the beginning doesn’t last. This passionate love eventually transitions to the second phase of love, which is attachment love. As you get to know each other better, You lose that “untamed love feeling” because your body shifts from releasing dopamine, adrenaline, and serotonin to vasopressin and oxytocin. “These are believed to play roles in bonding parent to child through breastfeeding, cuddling and kissing. They’re so essential to bonding and creating a lasting relationship that when you suppress vasopressin in animal experiments, parents will abandon their young.” Research has also found that oxytocin helps men in particular stay monogamous. So even with all the options out there, these bonding hormones make it so you stay faithful to just one person. So yeah.. the shift from exciting new love to tried and true is less exciting but necessary to keep you together. 

 

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BDSM Was Sexier Than I Had Expected

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BDSM was the last thing on my mind when I met my husband.

Dave and I had been neighbours for ten years before we started dating. We had spoken on numerous occasions, but he was slow at asking me out.

In fact, he never did. When Dave needed a date for the prom, his mother came over to the house and asked me if I was interested. I wasn’t because Dave hadn’t asked himself.

We had a great time at the dance. I saw that he wanted to kiss me but was shy. He pecked my cheek when he walked me to the door, and he blushed. I wished I had gotten more.

Our wedding day was a year after we graduated from varsity. He admitted to me on our honeymoon that it was his first time. It was mine as well.

After being married for 23 years, I needed to spice up my life. We were 45 years old with no children and had missionary sex once a week.

Dave was an accountant since graduation, and I had resigned from the administration job eight years ago to be a housewife. The first week at home showed me that I was going to be bored out of my mind.

I took up several hobbies such as hiking and baking cookies, which Dave took to work and handed to colleagues. He bragged to his friends about my baking skills, but I wished that he had bragged to them about my bed performance.

Sex with my husband was like filing taxes – it had to be done and was dull like hell.

After running out of hobby ideas, I went online and joined a group on social media. Some of the events posted included speed dating, art exhibitions and wine tasting. I logged on after giving up hope on my sex life and saw that a member had advertised a BDSM party.

I couldn’t resist a smile. My cheeks felt flushed as I browsed the photos of their previous party. My erotic journey began with watching a couple have sex in the doggy style. Then, some of the recommended videos on the side were BDSM, which I couldn’t resist.

There was something about being tied up and not knowing the identity of my sex master that pressed my buttons. I couldn’t help but slide my hands over my abdomen and rub my pussy while the woman got spanked.

I always imagined being the woman in chains and a slave to a man who knew how to handle me. Something about the sound of a whip got me wet.

Every time I watched a woman get shackled to the wall and spread her legs, I couldn’t resist masturbating. I would’ve given anything to be in her position.

On Tuesday, Dave told me that he was leaving on Friday to his monthly, out-of-town business meeting. The party was on Saturday. It won’t hurt if I call and find out what happens.

I had expected a pervert with a creepy voice to answer, but a lady with a soft tone told me that the environment was safe, and their members were from various backgrounds.

I considered inviting Eva to come with me, but I changed my mind since she would’ve told everyone about it.

My heartbeat sped up as the cursor hovered over the confirm button. I wanted to back out, but my finger pressed the mouse. It was the desire to explore the unknown that drove me to do it.

I had a Brazilian and a massage on Saturday morning because not knowing what to expect at the party made my shoulders tense up.

“What’s your weekend plans, Shannon?” asked the masseuse.

I figured that if anybody would understand my curiosity, she would. “I’m actually checking out a BDSM party.”

“I’ve been to one,” she said.

“You’re kidding?”

“It was great. Everybody was so welcoming, and they teach you the ropes if you’re a beginner. Excuse the pun.”

We giggled. She got me excited and aroused.

I went home and masturbated. After taking a shower, I watched a BDSM video to get myself in the mood. I put on a skirt that reached just above my knees and a blouse that revealed my back.

My heart raced, and I gulped after I parked my car in front of the house. I looked in the mirror.

“You can do this. Just relax. Nobody is going to judge you. They’re there for the same reason as you, and everybody will be friendly.”

My shoulders slumped as I exhaled after ringing the bell. A woman in a long dress and with tied hair answered. See? Everybody here is normal as you.

“Hi, I’m Shannon.”

“I’m Jackie. Wonderful to meet you.”

She was the organiser, and she showed me the way to the dressing room. Candles replaced the lights in the Victorian mansion that had Renaissance art on the wall and rose pebbles sprinkled on the furniture and the floor.

‘Whoosh.’ ‘Whoosh.’ The whipping sound pervaded down the corridor. I got horny.

The women wore ballroom masks, and the men had leather ski masks.

“The men are limited to wearing a leather speedo and masks, and the women have to be in lingerie,” said Jackie.

Butterflies flew around my stomach at the thought of exposing so much skin in front of strangers.

My ass and breasts were sticking out when I looked at myself in the mirror, but I didn’t care. Feeling free to express myself sexually for the first time felt empowering.

Jackie said that I looked great before stepping into the corridor so I could have privacy. I needed a moment to gather my thoughts. Can’t believe I’m at a BDSM party. I put the mask on but forgot to read the rules on the pamphlet that Jackie had given me.

Jackie smiled at me as I stepped out of the room and grabbed my hand before escorting me to the master bedroom. A man was standing next to the bed and holding a whip.

“This is Jinxx,” said Jackie. “He’s been a regular for five years, and he just recently got promoted to bondage master.

I liked the sound of that. “Hi, I’m -.”

“No real names,” interrupted Jackie. “Our members value discretion. It’s on the pamphlet I gave you.”

“Sorry. I’m Mystery.”

Jackie closed the door on her way out. Jinxx pointed at the wooden board on the wall. I leaned my back against it so that Jinxx could shackle me. He spread my legs and rubbed them, then stood up and squeezed my tits.

Oh, God. Wonder what Dave would think of me. How could I let a stranger fondle me like that? Those thoughts vanished when Jinxx whipped the wall. I flinched.

“Is this your first time at a BDSM party?” he asked. I nodded. “I’m gonna show you a good time.” Please do.

He smacked me twice and grabbed my crotch. I smiled. Then, he chocked me and licked my face. Jinxx grabbed my tits and ravaged my chest. I loved every second of it.

After clutching my hair, he snapped my head back and shoved his tongue into my mouth. He took a smaller whip off the bed and pressed it against my face.

“Lick it,” he said.

He smacked me as I licked the whip, then unshackled me and pushed me onto the bed. He flipped me onto my stomach and cuffed my hands behind my back.

My feet touched the floor as I bent over the bed, and Jinxx spanked my ass with the whip.

“You like that?” he asked.

“Yes.”

“Yes, what?”

“Yes…bondage master.”

“I’ll show you BDSM, you little skank,” he said and pressed my head into the pillow to suffocate me.

He pulled my hair to permit me to breathe before dunking my head into the pillow. I was out of breath after he did that about ten times.

After smacking my ass, he pressed his boner against it. I was ashamed of desiring it to be inside me.

As Jinxx ripped off my lingerie and stuck his fingers inside my pussy, I said, “Wait. I’m married. I shouldn’t be doing this.”

He flipped me onto my back and opened my legs before he said, “The hell with your husband. Tonight, I’m the only man in your life.”

My eyes closed, and I moaned as he stuck his dick inside me and rode me like I had never felt before. He choked me while hovering over me and smacked me a few times.

I flipped onto my stomach after he instructed me, and he stuck his dick into my ass. The stretching forced me to clench my teeth and emit a few grunts. The corners of my eyes creased, and I screamed as he thrust. After he banged me for fifteen minutes without easing up, Jinxx squirted his load onto my back. I turned around and saw him pant.

My face was covered in sweat, so I raised my mask to wipe it off my forehead, not realising that I had broken rule number 1.

Jinxx’s eyes widened, and he gaped. “Shannon.”

Oh, my God. That’s it. Everybody at the church is going to know that I went to a BDSM party. My life is ruined.

Jinxx removed his mask.

“Dave.”

The “5 Steps to Become A Certified Relationship Coach”

Have you ever thought about helping people find love?  What about expand their love life to the next level?

I decided to become a coach back in 2008.  I took the certified Love Coach program and it changed my life and started me on a career that allows me to help singles, couples and all types of relationships.  I have over 14 years under my belt and it was the best investment I could have ever made.

I have been practicing over 14 years and work with clients all over the world, most on zoom, phone or email.  I have my own practice in Yuma, AZ and online at Lady T Coaching

As an Ambassador to Students at Loveology University, I mentor all of the students on their journey before, during and after they get started.

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Scientific Study Says “Sex Unleashes Your Tongue.”

A new study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin,  says that when people get sexually excited by someone they just met, they “self disclose” and tell personal things about themselves to total strangers. According to the study, sexual attraction can result in TMI moments. (“You’re really cute; let me tell you about my boobs!”)

The mouthful study is called “Sex Unleashes Your Tongue,” Sexual Priming Motivates Self-Disclosure to a New Acquaintance and Interest In Future Interactions.”

The study looked at the “mechanisms of social connection” when it comes to romantic love, pair-bonding, and the dopaminergic reward system.” Researchers  were interested in studying how “activation of the sexual system affects relationship-initiation processes.” In other words, do humans talk about themselves and reveal personal things about themselves to get laid? Hell yes! But since its subconscious, they have no idea they’re doing it.

“In Study 1, participants were “subliminally exposed to sexual stimuli (vs. neutral stimuli), and then disclosed over Instant Messenger a personal event to an opposite-sex stranger.” Results showed that merely thinking about sex, even without being aware of it, encouraged self-disclosure.” So in the future, if you’re not sure whether someone “like likes” you, they will let you know by talking about themselves.

“Study 2 replicated these findings in relatively naturalistic conditions (live face-to-face interactions following supraliminal video priming”). The “video priming” was a sexy sex scene from the movie “Original Sin” where Antonio Banderas and Angelina Jolie are gettin’ it on. The “placebo” group had to watch a cat video.

Subjects were then asked to self-disclose an embarrassing personal event to another participant during a face-to-face interaction.”Following this interaction, subjects rated the extent to which they self-disclosed to the other person, and reported if and where they wanted to spend a first date, such as a bar or a restaurant.” (This was to access compatibility and attraction.)

Study 3 extended these findings, indicating that sexual priming facilitated self-disclosure, which, in turn, increased interest in future interactions with the stranger. Together, these findings suggest that activation of the sexual system encourages the use of strategies that allow people to become closer to potential partners.” Being vulnerable and disclosing personal stuff creates intimacy, like the convos you have with your closest friends.
The study furthers the idea that “sharing of private aspects of the self with another person is a well-documented way for people to increase interpersonal intimacy and enhance relationship formation.” So tell me more about your privates…
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What is happening to your body during orgasm

You know the feeling… butterflies, waves of pleasure, toes curling, involuntary noises and a racing heart? All these things are happening during orgasms. But have you ever thought, what is happening with your body? What is the brain doing? What role is anatomy playing? While there has been a history of research in human sexuality, studying orgasms is new. It was not until 1953 that a female orgasm was recognized. Before that, it was believed that woman received no pleasure from sex, and it was meant to be pleasurable for the male. We have used magnetic resonance imaging to determine what the brain does during orgasms. Based on a set of determinates, the test showed that the logical part of the brain shuts down during sex.

Multiple spatially remote brain regions are involved in the sexual response cycle. The hypothalamus, thalamus, substantia nigra, sensory cortex and motor areas go into overdrive during the big ‘O’. This allows the body to react to touch, fantasies, and sexual memories. The hypothalamus is producing oxytocin, which is the snuggle, feel good hormone increasing arousal thus pleasure. Another hormone the brain releases is a surge of dopamine. The purpose of dopamine is to allow for feelings of pleasure, desire, and motivation in the prefrontal cortex. Prolactin is also released at orgasm. It is the overall feeling of satisfaction that comes with the orgasm and not for nothing, it also produces milk. This is mainly because of the increase of blood flow and release of hormones. Serotonin is released after an orgasm. This hormone promotes a good mood and relaxation maybe even a little sleepy.

Basically, the brain before, during and after orgasm is the same as the reactions of doing drugs or listening to your favorite song. The brain does not tell the difference between sex and other pleasurable experiences like eating ice cream at 9pm. It also sends off chemicals that can lessen pain. That’s right, orgasm can cure a headache. The pituitary gland releases endorphins, oxytocin and vasopressin which promote pain reduction, bonding and intimacy.

If you think the brain is busy, check out what your anatomy is doing in the process. The internal organs composing the sexual anatomy of the male include the epididymis, vas deferens, seminal vesicles, prostate gland, Cowper’s glands, and urethra. The most prominent part of a male’s sexual anatomy is his penis. The penis has three primary functions: Initiating orgasm and transporting semen and urine from the body. It is made of the base, shaft, and glans. The base and shaft are where the erectile tissue and muscles are. In addition, there is the scrotum and the testicles. The scrotum is the sac of wrinkled skin behind and below the penis that contain the testicles. For vulvas owner, the process is more complex. This makes orgasm depend upon development in the womb. It’s called the CUV Complex. It stands for Clitoral-Urethra-Vagina with the cervix and perineal sponge. The vulva is the most obvious part of the clitoris. There is the clitoral hood which is either attached to the inner lips or not attached at all. There is the shaft that is located near the pubic bone.

The pelvis bone is V-shaped, and the clitoral legs run down them. If you press against your pubic bone and move upward, you will be able to activate these legs. Hence why grinding feels so good. The vestibular bulbs connect to the clitoral legs swell with arousal and can cause the outer lips to swell. The bulbs are known as the Skene’s Gland which are connected to the urethral sponge and holds the fluid that is ejaculated. The urethral opening is a part of the inner lips that sit below the clitoris and above the vaginal opening.

Often, we see the cervix as something used in pregnancy, however it holds a pleasurable punch for some as well. It is essentially the opening to the uterus, but you don’t want to enter it. Simply touching the cervix activates the pelvic nerve that sends pleasurable signals in the uterus, cervix, and upper vagina. This can result in deeper cervical orgasms. The P-spot and is located between the vagina and the rectum. When engorged with arousal and massaged you can experience an orgasm. The Bartholin’s glands cause the vagina to lubricate. Lubrication is crucial when penetrating. The brain and body are going through a lot all at once before, during and after an orgasm. Knowing this information can help you create your best experiences.

How Many Dates Before You Do It? Survey Says…

Match.com asked over 5,500 singles about their dating habits including how many dates seemed to work out the best before they have sex. And the magic number was…five!

According to their “Single’s in America” survey”, 35% of people reported the “highest level of happiness” in a relationship that started with sex on the fifth date. So if you want your online dating to end up in a relationship, just keep it closed down there until the magical fifth date. If you are just looking to hook-up for a one-nighter, of course, then the number of dates doesn’t matter. Surprisingly though, 25% of both men and women reported that their one-nighters actually turned into relationships. Good news for those hooker-uppers out there.

By the fifth date you can see more what the person is actually like. By this time you should know if they are nice, if they are a jerk, if you feel comfortable with them, if they seem interested in what you are interested in, and most importantly, if there is something majorly wrong with them.

By that time, you have given yourself a chance to see if they have some of things you are looking for, if he is a gentlemen, if he/she is fun, is he/she is ambitious, or whatever qualities you are looking for in a person. And at least if you wait until the 5th date, you can tell if they have a creepy personality disorder before you sleep with them.

In my own dating life, the weirdest things always happen to me on the first date. Always. Like one guy in a surprise attack stuck his finger up my back door in the back seat of a NYC cab–on the way to to our date; before we even kissed! I was like “What are you doing?” and he was like “I’m fingering your butt” This was a new one: what should I call it?; “finger date rape?” “non-consensual digital penetration of my asshole by an asshole?” I never made it to the second date with him, let alone the fifth date. But afterwards, he emailed and asked me to connect with him on LinkedIn.

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Legendary Lover: The Feminist Sexpert Interviews John Legendary

Ladies, a Legendary Lover is coming for you.

A newcomer to the XXX scene, John Legendary is a man with a plan. A plan to seduce the female porn fan with striking good looks and classy charm and demeanor, and satisfy her with his skilled, passionate, and highly romantic lovemaking techniques–one of which is known as The Stroke. See his flicks to find out more….

“I make content for the ladies,” he said. “I want to show you something you’ve never seen before. My work is sensual, and I want to fulfill women’s fantasies.”

This edict is on full display via Date Night, John Legendary’s new series available through ManyVids. The first scene of the series, “Date Nights Vol. 1 – Caitlin Bell,” is available to purchase à la carte. In this film, custom made for women and couples, John takes hotwife Caitlin Bell out on a date Saturday night and they go back to his place for erotic fun. The video is available exclusively on his ManyVids store manyvids.com/Profile/1005086754/Johnlegendary. This is the first of many scenes in the groundbreaking series, that pairs John, who prides himself on being a true gentleman on set and off, with some of the hottest women in adult; and, prior to the hot action, we get footage of a hot date that finds our hero charming and romancing his lady. As the Feminist Sexpert has noted before, we need more of this in porn! Like, much more! John also offers a second video from his amateur offerings titled “Sex in the Morning Gonzo.”

“I see the woman as the star of the show,” he said. “I want to make sure she’s comfortable, to know her likes and dislikes, her desires and boundaries.”


If John seems himself like a Sexpert; one who excels at the art of loving ladies, well, he is.
John is a woman’s fantasy, a dapper gentleman by day (one who previously worked with Fortune 500 companies and in the fashion world) and a literal wild bull by night–in his role as a bull in the swingers lifestyle.

“A bull is a single guy who understands the dynamic of a hot wife lifestyle,” he explains.

A bull, he explains, is a take charge man who sexes up a hot wife as her husband watches; giving her what she’s missing–just as John is doing now, for female porn fans.

It was through his active role in this lifestyle that he first appeared on film; and when seeking a new career, he opted to embark on a full-fledged career as an actor in the adult industry.

“I was working a 9 to 5 job to pay the bills,” he said. “I wanted to live my life’s passion.”

John Legendary is filming new scenes for top studios like Pure Taboo, Dogfart, and VRBangers. And he also has launched his ManyVids channel to give fans access to his exclusive content.

And while John is being paired with some of the hottest women in adult, one need not liken a supermodel to film a scene with this hunk.

“I love all women,” he said. “All shapes and sizes.”

Fans can watch the trailer for “Date Nights Vol. 1 – Caitlin Bell exclusively on his OnlyFans onlyfans.com/johnlegendary. John is working towards making a lot of personal content available exclusively on his ManyVids and OnlyFans.

“I’m really excited about my new Date Nights series and know my fans will really enjoy it. In between filming for studios, I’m working on getting my exclusive content on my ManyVids and OnlyFans. I also have a MILF series coming soon that will be even hotter,” he said.

Oh, and about the name–John did indeed choose his stage name due to his strong resemblance to a certain, very romantic soul singer…which makes the Feminist Sexpert all the happier that “Save Room for My Love” ranks among her favorite sexytime jams….

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“Ladies,” said John. “My films are a good opportunity for you to let go–let your mind, body and soul enjoy a sensorial erotic experience.”

What is Pegging? Is Pegging Gay?

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What is Pegging?  Haven’t heard of pegging? I’d be surprised – but hey – that’s why I’m here to help!

To put it simply: pegging is when someone wears a strap-on harness and dildo – and has anal sex with another person.

Pegging, most often, takes place between a heterosexual couple. The penis-owning person receives the dildo anally while the vagina-owning person wears the strap-on harness and dildo. That doesn’t have to always be the case, however.

Some people use the term “pegging” to describe all strap-on sex – and many non-binary or non-heterosexual couples use the term “pegging” to describe their experience during strap-on sex as well – even if it’s done vaginally.

One thing tends to remain constant though: somewhere within the experience, someone is wearing a strap-on harness and dildo!

Pegging is traditionally done with a strap-on harness wrapped around the hips. It doesn’t have to be a hip harness, but as hip harnesses are widely available and the first thing most people imagine when they think of pegging, hip harnesses tend to be the most common choice.

While pegging can simply seem like making hand-held dildo use slightly more complicated, the complexity is usually worth it for the people enjoying the pegging. That’s for a few reasons:

  • Full-body contact. While you can hand-hold a dildo and use it on someone, it doesn’t have the same contact points as pegging. Pegging presses hips together and bodies together – and it requires the same physical abilities as penis-in-vagina intercourse.
  • The Man is the “Receiver”. For better or for worse, it’s still taboo in a lot of societies for the penis-owner to receive anal sex from a partner. Being the “recipient” – as opposed to the one being the penetrator – can bring out a lot of feelings – especially those of submission. On the flip side…
  • The Woman is the Penetrator. For better or for worse, society doesn’t encourage vulva-owners calling the shots during sex – so strapping on a dildo is a huge change of pace from being the “agreeable” receiver. It can be a real power thrill for a lot of people.

Of course, if you were born with a prostate, pegging can provide some amazingly powerful sensations. Especially if you go with a curved dildo that can hit the prostate, pegging can be the stuff of hands-free, unexpected orgasms for prostate owners. Even without those unexpected orgasms, though, prostate stimulation can feel amazing to a lot of people – and it’s something that pegging can target.

On the giver’s end, a few strap-on harness wearers are able to orgasm via clitoral stimulation by rubbing on the base of the dildo. This isn’t common, but it’s workable for some! There are even toys out there designed to help. If engaging in pegging, it’s probably best to assume you’ll pleasure the harness wearer in another manner to ensure everyone has a fantastic time.

Femdom Pegging?

Pegging isn’t femdom. While, presumably, pegging has a female-identifying person wearing a strap-on harness and dildo, that doesn’t mean that they’re in a dominating position. As I’ve said time and time again, simply having “the penis” doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re in charge – or that you’re the dominant partner.

So while pegging can be an amazing part of femdom kinks and femdom relationships, the act of pegging, in itself, isn’t necessarily femdom.

Feel free to explore pegging as an activity with equal footing as you explore different ways to be intimate with one another. Pegging doesn’t have to include power exchange – but it certainly can if you want to!

Is Pegging Gay?

Unfortunately, especially by those who are afraid of the “ramifications” of what it means if they end up enjoying pegging, some people stereotype “pegging” as being a gay activity.

We’re not really sure how that works. If you’re enjoying pegging as part of your heterosexual relationship with a woman, there isn’t even another man in that equation. How can pegging be gay?

Unfortunately, though, there’s an entire camp of people who believe that anything related to anal pleasure is “gay” – and pegging happens to fall into the “related to anal pleasure” camp.

Don’t worry, though: pegging doesn’t make you gay any more than eating a banana or touching your own penis does. Enjoying the (seriously orgasmic) sensations an erogenous zone can provide doesn’t change your sexual orientation in the slightest.

Are you still attracted to the opposite sex – with or without a strap-on harness? Well then, you’re probably not gay.

Chastity? Pegging? What Do They Have to Do With One Another?

At their core, chastity and pegging really have nothing to do with one another. Chastity is the act of orgasm denial – occasionally with the help of metal devices that make penis stroking impossible. Pegging is anal sex with the help of a strap-on harness.

However, a lot of people who enjoy chastity also happen to enjoy pegging – so the two kinks get lumped in together pretty often!

Especially since the prostate can lead to hands-free, penis-free orgasms, a lot of people in chastity enjoy foregoing the typical focus on the penis – and using their prostate to provide the orgasms. Since pegging can easily hit the prostate, a lot of chastity players tend to include pegging within their kinky toy box – especially since the penis may be locked out and out of commission anyway!

Pegging Beginner

Are you new to pegging? Is this your first time pegging? If so, I recommend doing a bit of research and reading before hopping right into it. You definitely can jump right in (if that’s your personality!), but since pegging involves interacting with a strap-on harness and the butt (which you may not have done before!), getting a bit of knowledge under your belt can help everything go more smoothly – and pleasurably – when you do it.

Some of the resources I’d recommend: