What would happen if a stunning stranger came upon a diary just brimming with your hottest fantasies, then proceeded to make every one of them come vividly, thrillingly true? That’s the question posed by the film Thief of Hearts, a Feminist Sexpert favorite now available on BluRay.

The first and one of the few softcore romance films aimed and intended for a female audience, Thief of Hearts, a steamy suspensor starring the gorgeous Steven Bauer and the ethereal Barbara Williams, is the story of Mickey Davis, a talented interior designer and everyday married woman whose author husband is preoccupied with his career…to the point that his sweet, quiet wife feels driven to commit her wildest, most forbidden fantasies to the pages of her secret diaries.

When Mickey’s home is robbed by an improbably hawt burglar named Scott, who steals both a portrait of Mickey and her lust-ridden journals, the thief becomes fixated on both her and her forbidden thoughts. He fashions himself her fantasy man, dressing, speaking, and ultimately making love to her just as she desires; based on the knowledge that he has gleaned from her diaries, which speak of her innermost yearnings.

Gawd, this flick is hawt. The Feminist Sexpert first saw this movie as a teen and, despite getting her in tons of trouble with her dad, who was pretty much ready to book her in a long-term Air B&B otherwise known as a convent upon its discovery, this motion picture pretty much formed her future as an erotic author and sexpert.

Steven Bauer shines as the thief known as Scott Mueller, a gorgeous smooth talker who slowly, deliberately unravels Mickey’s inhibitions; treating her to the forbidden romance of a lifetime. Indie actress Williams is effervescent in her role as a refreshingly wholesome beauty with a brain, and a genuinely kind nature. Doing quite well in their supporting roles are the hilarious Christine Ebersole and George Wendt as the best friends of the Davises, and John Getz as Mickey’s actually pretty annoying husband Ray.

A sexy, melodic soundtrack from the legendary Melissa Manchster and others just screams ’80s (just imagine the chorus Thief of Heaaarrrtttts sung repeatedly over a synth and…well, yeah), but still entertains and sets the mood. And the scene in which a topless Bauer lathers his most impressive chest in creamy lotion, and for the pleasure of his lady, is one of the most scorching seductive scenes ever committed to film.

A verified flop at the time of its release, Thief of Hearts is reviled by critics; and, frankly, the Feminist Sexpert would have liked more love scenes and fewer uncomfortable glimpses into Scott’s double life as a criminal thief. The film seems conflicted in its dual purpose as a sultry crime thriller and a soft focus romance; even so, Thief of Hearts remains unprecedented as a softcore film which acknowledges the fact that (gasp!) women have hormones too! We have fantasies, needs and desires; and the man who seeks to fulfill our desires, just might steal our heart….

The Feminist Sexpert Interviews Cinthya LaRose

Although her exotic beauty is more than obvious, model and artist Cinthya LaRose is in all ways an iron rose; a woman with a voice and a purpose, who is making both heard loud and clear in the service of women in need.  

LaRose is offering a special deal for her OnlyFans followers: a FREE one-month subscription to her official model page, OnlyFans when they make a donation to support NARAL Pro-Choice America in the name of reproductive freedom through the star’s group fundraiser on Instagram. 

“I want to publicly offer my support to NARAL Pro-Choice America and encourage everyone to please donate whatever you can in order to continue safeguarding our sexual and reproductive health options,” said LaRose. “My fundraising goal is $1,000 over the next 30 days, and I need everyone’s help in getting there!”

Roe v Wade, a landmark Supreme Court ruling which protects a pregnant woman’s right to choose to have an abortion without government interference or restrictions, is at risk of being overturned; with the issue of abortion rights being transferred to states’ jurisdiction, many states are set to rule in favor of criminalizing the procedure, leading to unsafe, risky and dangerous methods of termination.

At least 22,800 women die each year due to complications from unsafe abortion, reports WHO and the Guttmacher Institute, and two to seven million women each year suffer lasting damage from illegal procedures.

“I was pissed at the news,” said LaRose. “I was so upset. And I wasn’t sure why more people around me weren’t upset. And while I knew that I might lose some subscribers, I can’t lose sight of who I am and what I believe.”

“I am only one person, but I have a platform,” she said. “If I can use it to help people, I’ll do so.”

This latest move from LaRose is characteristic for this empowered woman, who studied psychology at the collegiate level and yearns to become an advocate for women in the industry.

“There’s a huge stigma behind sex work,” she said. “And when they go into escorting, stripping, porn, some aren’t educated about what to expect. And there aren’t a lot of people in our corner, to support us.”

LaRose wants to reach out to both women who face abuse on set, and harassment from those outside the industry.

“We need to reach out to them, to make mental health care more accessible,” she said. “And people need to remember that we’re human beings.”

An avid abstract painter, writer and reader, this Mexican-born stunner takes a creative and highly glamorous approach to her OnlyFans content. Escaping into a world of fantasy in exotic tropical settings to become her ‘alter ego,’ she shoots artsy solo, boy/girl, and girl/girl content with an eye toward expressing her inner desires.

“You get sexy ol’ me,” she said with a chuckle.  And this online party is most definitely not for boys only.

“I welcome women onto my page,” she said. “Overall, there should be more porn for women. More kissing, more sensuality. And I love to see women on my page.”
And she is equally proud to use her page in the service of women.

“Reproductive rights belong to EVERY BODY – access to affordable contraception, safe and legal abortion options and counseling for those who need it is of paramount importance, and we need to make our voices heard and remove any barriers that keep us from our ability to CHOOSE what is best for us.”

I’m the Feminist Sexpert. And I support this message. Let us support The Iron Rose!

Supporters can also visit ActBlue.com to donate directly for the FREEDOM OF CHOICE.

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By Megan Hussey, The Feminist Sexpert

Whereas porn once was considered an industry in which women were seen and not heard, today’s adult industry is–like many professions and life in general–a place of change and evolution, and (dare we dream. Ladies?) actual friggin’ progress. Today more and more women are directing, producing and writing adult films, presenting their ideas, their fantasies, their messages for a new and enlightened audience of all genders, races and sexualities. Also out there–and outspoken–are the performers who demand better treatment on set, and who are unafraid to express their ideas and desires in contribution to the creative process.

And then, of course, there are the female writers, editors, publicists and journalists that also make their views and voices known in today’s adult industry–like, for example, The Feminist Sexpert! And in my role as a writer, columnist and commentator, I shall not rest until every single woman working at every level of the industry has a voice and makes it heard. Loudly. And that includes the customer service representatives who sell adult products.

This message came to me loud and clear years ago, when–in a professional capacity as a marketing rep for a leading feminist porn company, and because I wanted to look at some smut–I visited a small adult store in a working class suburban area of Tampa Bay, Florida.

A sole woman was working behind the counter at this store, which–until the moment of the Feminist Sexpert’s momentous entrance–seemed to be drawing a mostly male clientele on the day of my visit. A lovely young woman in her early 20s, the clerk looked on with wary eyes as a man popped his head out of a corner viewing booth and barked, “The film needs changing!”

“Please,” the young woman finished his sentence for him, rolling her eyes heavenward as she trudged forward from behind the counter to change the ever-lovin’ film so Mister could get on with his own private enjoyment.

Once she was free, I asked if she could show me the shop’s selection of erotic books and films for women. Immediately she brightened, and she happily gave me a tour of the corner of the shop custom made for the female porn fan. I told her that I was an industry writer, and she showed great interest and enthusiasm as she asked about my work and projects.

I reciprocated in kind, handing her the microphone as I asked her about how she–herself an industry professional–felt about the movies she sold.

Immediately her features darkened, and she raised a firm finger as she declared, “Some of these guys who make movies, I simply cannot support.”

“Please tell me who,” I urged her, “I’m in the industry, and your opinion matters to me.”

I’m tellin’ ya; at that point, this gal seized the mic, amped up the volume, and made her voice known. And how.

As the unleashed lioness unloaded verbally on certain directors who–in her estimation–abused and degraded women, I took mental note of the names she mentioned; at the same time also noting the facial expressions of the male customers who filled the shop around us.

To sum up, these expressions pretty much ranged from annoyed to out and out petrified.

“My work here is done,” I summarized.

Of course, not all of my interactions with adult customer service reps have revolved around the negative aspects of porn. I remember back to my early days as a fan, getting home from the late shift and dialing up the Adam and Eve customer service line; ordering the prized femme porn that would relieve the stress of a full day’s work.

Nearly 100 percent of the time, the customer service agents with whom I interacted were women–ladies whom I engaged in lively conversations about their favorite adult films and the hunks of the genre. Soon we enjoyed a phone-based slumber party filled with laughter and warmth–and not once did I order any of these lovely ladies to “Change the film!”

More recently, I saw an enlightening YouTube video about how to act in an adult video store. When I shared my favorable response to the comments of the female clerk who appeared in the video, one male viewer advised me me to “Oh, just shut up.”

Aw, Folks, doesn’t he know he’s only encouraging the Feminist Sexpert? Because my work here is far from done.

Megan Hussey

Feminist Sexpert

Sexpert.Com

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Edging, or orgasm control, has been popping up in mainstream culture more and more recently, but what is it exactly? And, more importantly, how can it be used to not only improve your sex life, but also to turn up the kink?

Why?

The reasons for edging are several: it can be used to prolong the duration of self-pleasure or lovemaking, and many find that when they do eventually orgasm, it’s a much stronger, more intense sensation. Edging also has a much kinkier benefit if you and your partner are into BDSM. ‘Orgasm Denial’ is an extremely common aspect of Dominant/submissive play, where the Dominant will bring their submissive to the edge of orgasm then ‘go back to 0.’ Contrary to what some of the books in the 50 Shades series would have you think, this is actually harder than it seems.

How?

First, let’s talk about edging in terms of controlling your own orgasm. It is easiest to practice this control on your own for a few reasons. It not only takes an intimate knowledge of your body and how it responds to stimulation, but also a great deal of control. Most of us have become proficient at making ourselves orgasm by masturbation.  Because of this, it can take some effort to force yourself out of the practice of doing what feels exactly right and coming as quickly as possible.

To practice, try switching up your usual habits. If you’re used to using a powerful vibrator like a wand, it may be too strong of a sensation when you are just starting to practice, so switch to a lighter speed. Try using your favorite rabbit vibrator on a different pattern, or if you always make counter-clockwise circles on your clitoris with your left hand, try going the other way, using your right hand. It can be frustrating (but that’s kind of the point.)

Many people also find that using deep-breathing techniques helps to relax and center your mind as you concentrate on the phases of your orgasm as it builds. You can practice vocalizing (“I’m about to come”) which may seem silly, but it will be very helpful when practicing with a partner. All this practice with yourself will help you figure out how to control your orgasm, but you will need to help your partner understand your signals as well. Show them! Mutual masturbation is a great way to learn more about each other’s bodies and orgasms, and it’s invaluable if you want to practice edging, orgasm control, with each other.

Once you get to the point to practice on each other, it may be helpful (and sexier) to use restraints to tie them up and then use a powerful wand massager on them to bring them close to climax, back off, and then repeat for as long as they can handle it.

Conclusion

Many men will already be somewhat familiar with edging (or, ‘thinking about baseball’) as a way of making sure they can please their female partners for an extended period of time, but sharing your orgasm signals with each other not only helps you both better understand what the perfect pleasure is for each other, but also opens the door for some pretty kinky play. Have fun!

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