The Sacredness of Sex

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April 4, 2022

By Joyce Modie

I have always looked at sex as a goal-based thing, a physical act for pleasure, to get pregnant and a stress reliever. Then through research I’ve learnt that sex can be a meditative act with the aim of moving sexual energy throughout the body for enjoyment and sensations of the body. This makes sex to be sacred in my view based on this new knowledge I have acquired.

Sex is a sacred connection of openness between two souls that proclaims love for each other. The pleasure and orgasms we should get requires vulnerability between involved parties. Energies are shared in a more spiritual way but not churchy at all. A deep bonding is birthed with possibilities of a deep-rooted romantic love in the hearts of both parties. Igniting the fire of our sexual energy, passions, and desires with our heart, spirit, and a sense of completeness in our life.

What makes us miss the sacredness of such intimacy is the carnal mind we have towards it. We have mostly been raised culturally or even religiously to believe that sex is a very wrong and dirty act to be ashamed of. A secret act to be done behind closed doors to curb the urge and never to be discussed openly. These beliefs cause us to not be open to the sacredness sex could be.

To fully bask in the special experience, we have to know our bodies and communicate it to our partners. This will help us look at ourselves and partners as divine fountains of powerful intimacy energies, intentional energies expressed as the experience leads but not pre planned. At that moment nothing else matters as partners are immersed deeply. Bodies reacts as the energy felt, that allows vulnerability and openness. No thoughts of shame but an explosion of pure love is exchanged.

Culture and religion put aside; sex is a sacred act of humanity to be embraced and explored by us all. We just have to be open-minded to the capabilities of our bodies. This can help us build blissful relationships full of joy and love. Dr Ava Cadell reminds us that, “sex can be a beautiful journey not a destination”. This is a journey to be taken with great trust to help us release the shame and hurt around sex that could be in our heads and hearts to create a bond with a sense of belonging.

To connect with our sexual energy, we need to explore with openness to experience. Being intentional about sacredness of sex through practice will help us be aware of the sexual energies and magnify our dimensions of pleasure in our relationships.

Have You Ever Thought of Planning Your Orgasm?

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Viloshni Moodley

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April 4, 2022

Have you ever thought about planning your orgasm? Well, you go about life planning everything else, so why not?

As humans, we put so much effort into planning; the route we will take to the office, the clothes we will wear, our breakfast, lunch & supper, our bath time, and our choice of recreational activity. All this planning is demonstrated as self-care for oneself. Rightfully, self-care is important and does need planning or will never be prioritized.

Intimate Relationships Require Planning

Intimate relationships take planning too. Planning helps you to thrive and lack of planning can only result in failure. The benefit of planning for your intimate relationship has benefits that will boost your relationship to unimaginable levels. How, you may ask?

An orgasm is when the body experiences a rise in the intensity of sexual arousal, which peaks for a few seconds and then lowers to a normal level. Studies suggest many biological benefits of an orgasm. Including a healthier immune system and reduction of stress. During the peak, the brain releases a cocktail of neurochemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. These are happy hormones, and the benefits are immense as listed hereunder:

Oxytocin is referred to as the love hormone or cuddling drug, as levels increase during orgasm and cuddling. Increased feelings of love, bonding, and well-being are experienced.
Serotonin Improves mood, social behavior, appetite, sleep, memory, and sexual desire.
Dopamine is the ultimate motivator, regulating sensations of pain and pleasure.

It cannot be stressed upon more the need to have a healthy, sexually fulfilling relationship with the natural benefits oozing through yourself naturally. This is where you take control with your partner, knowing that no one else can make that change except you. You may feel overwhelmed by reading this and wonder where you start.

Just like you plan all other activities, bring sex onto the planning platform. Start small with some of the below-listed ideas and expand. Most importantly, attitude and consistency will make the difference. There is no need to be perfect at it. Having the right intent is what makes the difference.

Sit together in silence or watch a movie holding hands
Date night and sex thereafter
Shower together or a luxurious bubble bath
Game night with sex toys or without – all dependent on the comfort level of both individuals
Weekend in bed
Activity that you both enjoy

As humans, if we want something, we go after it. Once we have what we want, complacency sets in and we tend to take each other for granted. We journey into a mode where the relationship is not granted any planning. Instead, just happens as and when there are time and desire.

Have you and your partner discussed how you make each other feel? Perhaps it is a good time to plan a conversation around this.

Both of you may have fantasies about what you like to experience with each other; however, you both hold back and do not talk about it as there never is an opportunity.

Let us face it, when you in the middle of lovemaking, one can move their partner gently into a change of position. However, if you would like to experience something more, it does take planning. For example, you cannot pause the sexual activity and whip out the ropes to experience some bondage if this has not been communicated with your partner.

Communication is essential to planning:

I want – what you want to get you to the level of excitement you require to orgasm
I will – what you will do comfortably. If you are not comfortable in doing these, you will ensure you have terms to how far you will go.
I won’t – a definite no to you currently. You could change your mind at a later stage.

The above is a healthy way to set boundaries with clear expectations which have been defined because of the discussion. It leaves no grey area and if there is an agreement, with caution, you will set safewords during the discussion to ensure there is no violation during sexual activity.

In the intensity of the moment, it is difficult to set boundaries; however, having done so upfront has planted the seed on how far one can go. At all times, it is important to respect boundaries and not be forceful. It can become a gradual journey taken together as comfort levels and trust increases.

It will certainly feel unnatural at the beginning of this process until you and your partner get into the habit of planning and discussing your intimate lives. It will deepen the bond in the relationship and build trust.

You will remove the masks and start communicating openly about what you want to experience and explore with each other. Vulnerability will become the new sexy on this adventure together.

Experiment Explore & Learn Together!

Life is short. Make it wild, crazy, sexy & exciting for each other.

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Originally posted on Brainz Magazine and Ultimacy Online.

What’s Sexy About Easter?

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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April 4, 2022

By Dr. Ava Cadell

Did you ever wonder why Hugh Hefner chose the sexy bunny for his Playboy empire logo?

It wasn’t because he was fond of Easter or chocolate eggs, but it was allegedly because he thought a sexy girl resembled a bunny’s attributes of being playful, curious, shy, and loveable, not to mention the bunny’s reputation for bonking and fertility.

For some people, Easter means time off work, so it’s the perfect time for couples to make intimacy a priority. How about dressing up in your sexiest bunny outfit and doing a striptease for your lover? If you’re not a fan of bunny outfits, then slowly undress each other while making out for extended foreplay. There are lots of creative Easter games, such as the Easter Egg Hunt, but for adults, you can divide plastic eggs in half and place erotic notes with clues inside for your lover. Be sure to give your lover a climactic prize at the end of the treasure hunt.

An alternative to this game is to fill the plastic eggs with Love Coupons, such as French Kissing or Sensual Massage, so that your lover can redeem them.

The Egg Rolling game can be fun by rolling an egg from your lovers’ neck down to their loins to the finish line using only your mouth. If you love chocolate, share a chocolate Bunny with its head in your mouth and its butt in your lover’s mouth as you both nibble your way to meet in the middle with a chocolatey kiss. Give yourself or your lover a sexy Easter basket filled with naughty sex toys like the Satisfyer Men Vibration Sleeve or Rechargeable Vibrating Egg If you’re looking for a sexy Rabbit vibrator, check out the Jack Rabbit or Premium Jack Rabbit Silicone Thrusting.

The egg is an ancient symbol of new life, so if you’re trying to get pregnant, eggs are among the most effective foods for promoting fertility, especially in the yolks. They are filled with fertility boosting protein and vitamins B12 and E as well as Omega-3 fatty acids that may give you the extra edge to conceive. So, you can mold some hard-boiled eggs into hearts and serve them to your lover for an Easter breakfast.

Eggs were also used to predict the sex of a baby by observing the rotation of the egg suspended by a string over a woman’s pregnant tummy, sort of like an egg pendulum, spinning to the right symbolizing a boy and left a girl. Another easier method is to crack a raw egg on the mother’s stomach and if the egg slides to the right she is going to have a boy, and if it slides to the left, a girl. Let us know if this works!

Whatever you do for Easter with your lover, this is an opportunity to make it a memorable one!

Benefits of Kissing

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Erika Jordan

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April 3, 2022

The Kissing Cure

I’m Erika Jordan certified life coach and NLP practitioner. An Oxford University study found that kissing helps us to find and keep the right partner. Yeah kissing is fun. But also kissing might be something we do for answers and to improve our relationship! According to research, kissing allows us to subconsciously assess a potential partner by picking up on “biological compatibility cues.” Kissing was found to be useful for finding a person you want a relationship with long-term. Couples who make it a point to kiss a lot were also found to have higher levels of oxytocin. And had higher levels of relationship satisfaction than couples who don’t kiss a lot. When couples have higher levels of oxytocin between them, they were also found to finish each other’s sentences and touch more. In short, they were very in sync.

That amazing connection you experience in the beginning doesn’t last. This passionate love eventually transitions to the second phase of love, which is attachment love. As you get to know each other better, You lose that “untamed love feeling” because your body shifts from releasing dopamine, adrenaline, and serotonin to vasopressin and oxytocin. “These are believed to play roles in bonding parent to child through breastfeeding, cuddling and kissing. They’re so essential to bonding and creating a lasting relationship that when you suppress vasopressin in animal experiments, parents will abandon their young.” Research has also found that oxytocin helps men in particular stay monogamous. So even with all the options out there, these bonding hormones make it so you stay faithful to just one person. So yeah.. the shift from exciting new love to tried and true is less exciting but necessary to keep you together.

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Erika Jordan

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April 1, 2022

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How Valuable Is A Writer’s Time?

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Ralph Greco

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March 29, 2022

Photo by Quinton Coetzee on Unsplash

I hear that phrase all the time, “Well, your time is valuable.” Actually, mine isn’t. Or, more precisely, it isn’t to anybody else but me. So, if I am putting a price on a writing job and charging by the hour, I need to determine what my time is worth (plus my skills for doing that job) and charge accordingly. I can’t expect someone else to know, care or even agree to the value of my time.

And therein lies the back-and-forth we get into with trying to get what we are worth for the time we spend working. And if you don’t have the price of your time and effort figured out before you start the job, you could be in for a rough time accounting for your payment at the end of it.

Just saying.

It’s the off-work hours’ time where I get my dander up the most about my time, or more precisely, my time being wasted.

Let me give you an example…

I recently was approached by a very good friend to write job for a company she worked for. A very big company. In addition to good pay for what would have amounted to consistent writing work (something a freelancer is always looking for), putting this company on my resume would have gone far in bolstering my reputation in the mainstream space (as a writer for erotica and mainstream content, I am ever aware of increasing my credentials in the non-adult space, since I have plenty in the adult space). So, over the course of a month, my buddy and I went back and forth, I filled out the necessary paperwork, and then got to work.

In the middle of writing my first article for my new employer, I had a question about payment, something I needed to have answered in order to do the job. It might rate as a minor consideration for some, but for me, it is a big deal in my little world and I needed to get an answer to my question.

Now the company has no idea who I am other than I am a new freelancer who will be writing for them, and I was discreet enough not to mention my personal finances to anybody. Through my friend’s urging, I simply went through the proper channels to call and email the company bookkeeper about my question…which I did not even ask on voice mail or in email. And let me just add that in the correspondence I received from the company, that bookkeeper’s name, phone number, and email address were listed with her welcome to contact her for any questions that might arise.

Something did arise, and there I was getting in touch.

That was a week ago as I write this, and nobody has contacted me. My friend has as much contacted the company for me as she needed attention on another matter. And nobody has gotten back to her either. I needed and wanted this job. But if you can’t get the basics right, if you have no care to follow up, and if you don’t see the value in my time, not even time I am working for you, but the small amount of time we need to spend going back and forth on something, then do I really have the time (or energy) to work for you?

Maybe, it’s because they are a huge company, and I am really nobody in their corporate hierarchy? Maybe they just have terrible communications skills? Maybe…I have no idea why nobody got back to me. But I come to say this all the time; in a world where we can communicate faster, better, and on-the-go like never before, we are communicating worse.

So, if you do not have the time for me, in the most basics of the job I am trying to do for you, I fear how you won’t have time for me when more serious stuff arises; questions on style, deadlines, content of what I am writing, etc.

I told my friend not to consider me for the job any further.

BDSM Was Sexier Than I Had Expected

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Goran Radanovic

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March 29, 2022

BDSM was the last thing on my mind when I met my husband.

Dave and I had been neighbours for ten years before we started dating. We had spoken on numerous occasions, but he was slow at asking me out.

In fact, he never did. When Dave needed a date for the prom, his mother came over to the house and asked me if I was interested. I wasn’t because Dave hadn’t asked himself.

We had a great time at the dance. I saw that he wanted to kiss me but was shy. He pecked my cheek when he walked me to the door, and he blushed. I wished I had gotten more.

Our wedding day was a year after we graduated from varsity. He admitted to me on our honeymoon that it was his first time. It was mine as well.

After being married for 23 years, I needed to spice up my life. We were 45 years old with no children and had missionary sex once a week.

Dave was an accountant since graduation, and I had resigned from the administration job eight years ago to be a housewife. The first week at home showed me that I was going to be bored out of my mind.

I took up several hobbies such as hiking and baking cookies, which Dave took to work and handed to colleagues. He bragged to his friends about my baking skills, but I wished that he had bragged to them about my bed performance.

Sex with my husband was like filing taxes – it had to be done and was dull like hell.

After running out of hobby ideas, I went online and joined a group on social media. Some of the events posted included speed dating, art exhibitions and wine tasting. I logged on after giving up hope on my sex life and saw that a member had advertised a BDSM party.

I couldn’t resist a smile. My cheeks felt flushed as I browsed the photos of their previous party. My erotic journey began with watching a couple have sex in the doggy style. Then, some of the recommended videos on the side were BDSM, which I couldn’t resist.

There was something about being tied up and not knowing the identity of my sex master that pressed my buttons. I couldn’t help but slide my hands over my abdomen and rub my pussy while the woman got spanked.

I always imagined being the woman in chains and a slave to a man who knew how to handle me. Something about the sound of a whip got me wet.

Every time I watched a woman get shackled to the wall and spread her legs, I couldn’t resist masturbating. I would’ve given anything to be in her position.

On Tuesday, Dave told me that he was leaving on Friday to his monthly, out-of-town business meeting. The party was on Saturday. It won’t hurt if I call and find out what happens.

I had expected a pervert with a creepy voice to answer, but a lady with a soft tone told me that the environment was safe, and their members were from various backgrounds.

I considered inviting Eva to come with me, but I changed my mind since she would’ve told everyone about it.

My heartbeat sped up as the cursor hovered over the confirm button. I wanted to back out, but my finger pressed the mouse. It was the desire to explore the unknown that drove me to do it.

I had a Brazilian and a massage on Saturday morning because not knowing what to expect at the party made my shoulders tense up.

“What’s your weekend plans, Shannon?” asked the masseuse.

I figured that if anybody would understand my curiosity, she would. “I’m actually checking out a BDSM party.”

“I’ve been to one,” she said.

“You’re kidding?”

“It was great. Everybody was so welcoming, and they teach you the ropes if you’re a beginner. Excuse the pun.”

We giggled. She got me excited and aroused.

I went home and masturbated. After taking a shower, I watched a BDSM video to get myself in the mood. I put on a skirt that reached just above my knees and a blouse that revealed my back.

My heart raced, and I gulped after I parked my car in front of the house. I looked in the mirror.

“You can do this. Just relax. Nobody is going to judge you. They’re there for the same reason as you, and everybody will be friendly.”

My shoulders slumped as I exhaled after ringing the bell. A woman in a long dress and with tied hair answered. See? Everybody here is normal as you.

“Hi, I’m Shannon.”

“I’m Jackie. Wonderful to meet you.”

She was the organiser, and she showed me the way to the dressing room. Candles replaced the lights in the Victorian mansion that had Renaissance art on the wall and rose pebbles sprinkled on the furniture and the floor.

‘Whoosh.’ ‘Whoosh.’ The whipping sound pervaded down the corridor. I got horny.

The women wore ballroom masks, and the men had leather ski masks.

“The men are limited to wearing a leather speedo and masks, and the women have to be in lingerie,” said Jackie.

Butterflies flew around my stomach at the thought of exposing so much skin in front of strangers.

My ass and breasts were sticking out when I looked at myself in the mirror, but I didn’t care. Feeling free to express myself sexually for the first time felt empowering.

Jackie said that I looked great before stepping into the corridor so I could have privacy. I needed a moment to gather my thoughts. Can’t believe I’m at a BDSM party. I put the mask on but forgot to read the rules on the pamphlet that Jackie had given me.

Jackie smiled at me as I stepped out of the room and grabbed my hand before escorting me to the master bedroom. A man was standing next to the bed and holding a whip.

“This is Jinxx,” said Jackie. “He’s been a regular for five years, and he just recently got promoted to bondage master.

I liked the sound of that. “Hi, I’m -.”

“No real names,” interrupted Jackie. “Our members value discretion. It’s on the pamphlet I gave you.”

“Sorry. I’m Mystery.”

Jackie closed the door on her way out. Jinxx pointed at the wooden board on the wall. I leaned my back against it so that Jinxx could shackle me. He spread my legs and rubbed them, then stood up and squeezed my tits.

Oh, God. Wonder what Dave would think of me. How could I let a stranger fondle me like that? Those thoughts vanished when Jinxx whipped the wall. I flinched.

“Is this your first time at a BDSM party?” he asked. I nodded. “I’m gonna show you a good time.” Please do.

He smacked me twice and grabbed my crotch. I smiled. Then, he chocked me and licked my face. Jinxx grabbed my tits and ravaged my chest. I loved every second of it.

After clutching my hair, he snapped my head back and shoved his tongue into my mouth. He took a smaller whip off the bed and pressed it against my face.

“Lick it,” he said.

He smacked me as I licked the whip, then unshackled me and pushed me onto the bed. He flipped me onto my stomach and cuffed my hands behind my back.

My feet touched the floor as I bent over the bed, and Jinxx spanked my ass with the whip.

“You like that?” he asked.

“Yes.”

“Yes, what?”

“Yes…bondage master.”

“I’ll show you BDSM, you little skank,” he said and pressed my head into the pillow to suffocate me.

He pulled my hair to permit me to breathe before dunking my head into the pillow. I was out of breath after he did that about ten times.

After smacking my ass, he pressed his boner against it. I was ashamed of desiring it to be inside me.

As Jinxx ripped off my lingerie and stuck his fingers inside my pussy, I said, “Wait. I’m married. I shouldn’t be doing this.”

He flipped me onto my back and opened my legs before he said, “The hell with your husband. Tonight, I’m the only man in your life.”

My eyes closed, and I moaned as he stuck his dick inside me and rode me like I had never felt before. He choked me while hovering over me and smacked me a few times.

I flipped onto my stomach after he instructed me, and he stuck his dick into my ass. The stretching forced me to clench my teeth and emit a few grunts. The corners of my eyes creased, and I screamed as he thrust. After he banged me for fifteen minutes without easing up, Jinxx squirted his load onto my back. I turned around and saw him pant.

My face was covered in sweat, so I raised my mask to wipe it off my forehead, not realising that I had broken rule number 1.

Jinxx’s eyes widened, and he gaped. “Shannon.”

Oh, my God. That’s it. Everybody at the church is going to know that I went to a BDSM party. My life is ruined.

Jinxx removed his mask.

“Dave.”

The “5 Steps to Become A Certified Relationship Coach”

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Tamara Bell

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March 25, 2022

Have you ever thought about helping people find love? What about expand their love life to the next level?

I decided to become a coach back in 2008. I took the certified Love Coach program and it changed my life and started me on a career that allows me to help singles, couples and all types of relationships. I have over 14 years under my belt and it was the best investment I could have ever made.

I have been practicing over 14 years and work with clients all over the world, most on zoom, phone or email. I have my own practice in Yuma, AZ and online at Lady T Coaching

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Scientific Study Says “Sex Unleashes Your Tongue.”

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Anka Radakovich

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March 24, 2022

A new study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, says that when people get sexually excited by someone they just met, they “self disclose” and tell personal things about themselves to total strangers. According to the study, sexual attraction can result in TMI moments. (“You’re really cute; let me tell you about my boobs!”)

The mouthful study is called “Sex Unleashes Your Tongue,” Sexual Priming Motivates Self-Disclosure to a New Acquaintance and Interest In Future Interactions.”

The study looked at the “mechanisms of social connection” when it comes to romantic love, pair-bonding, and the dopaminergic reward system.” Researchers were interested in studying how “activation of the sexual system affects relationship-initiation processes.” In other words, do humans talk about themselves and reveal personal things about themselves to get laid? Hell yes! But since its subconscious, they have no idea they’re doing it.

“In Study 1, participants were “subliminally exposed to sexual stimuli (vs. neutral stimuli), and then disclosed over Instant Messenger a personal event to an opposite-sex stranger.” Results showed that merely thinking about sex, even without being aware of it, encouraged self-disclosure.” So in the future, if you’re not sure whether someone “like likes” you, they will let you know by talking about themselves.

“Study 2 replicated these findings in relatively naturalistic conditions (live face-to-face interactions following supraliminal video priming”). The “video priming” was a sexy sex scene from the movie “Original Sin” where Antonio Banderas and Angelina Jolie are gettin’ it on. The “placebo” group had to watch a cat video.

Subjects were then asked to self-disclose an embarrassing personal event to another participant during a face-to-face interaction.”Following this interaction, subjects rated the extent to which they self-disclosed to the other person, and reported if and where they wanted to spend a first date, such as a bar or a restaurant.” (This was to access compatibility and attraction.)

Study 3 extended these findings, indicating that sexual priming facilitated self-disclosure, which, in turn, increased interest in future interactions with the stranger. Together, these findings suggest that activation of the sexual system encourages the use of strategies that allow people to become closer to potential partners.” Being vulnerable and disclosing personal stuff creates intimacy, like the convos you have with your closest friends.

The study furthers the idea that “sharing of private aspects of the self with another person is a well-documented way for people to increase interpersonal intimacy and enhance relationship formation.” So tell me more about your privates…

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What is happening to your body during orgasm

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Debra Shade

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March 10, 2022

You know the feeling… butterflies, waves of pleasure, toes curling, involuntary noises and a racing heart? All these things are happening during orgasms. But have you ever thought, what is happening with your body? What is the brain doing? What role is anatomy playing? While there has been a history of research in human sexuality, studying orgasms is new. It was not until 1953 that a female orgasm was recognized. Before that, it was believed that woman received no pleasure from sex, and it was meant to be pleasurable for the male. We have used magnetic resonance imaging to determine what the brain does during orgasms. Based on a set of determinates, the test showed that the logical part of the brain shuts down during sex.

Multiple spatially remote brain regions are involved in the sexual response cycle. The hypothalamus, thalamus, substantia nigra, sensory cortex and motor areas go into overdrive during the big ‘O’. This allows the body to react to touch, fantasies, and sexual memories. The hypothalamus is producing oxytocin, which is the snuggle, feel good hormone increasing arousal thus pleasure. Another hormone the brain releases is a surge of dopamine. The purpose of dopamine is to allow for feelings of pleasure, desire, and motivation in the prefrontal cortex. Prolactin is also released at orgasm. It is the overall feeling of satisfaction that comes with the orgasm and not for nothing, it also produces milk. This is mainly because of the increase of blood flow and release of hormones. Serotonin is released after an orgasm. This hormone promotes a good mood and relaxation maybe even a little sleepy.

Basically, the brain before, during and after orgasm is the same as the reactions of doing drugs or listening to your favorite song. The brain does not tell the difference between sex and other pleasurable experiences like eating ice cream at 9pm. It also sends off chemicals that can lessen pain. That’s right, orgasm can cure a headache. The pituitary gland releases endorphins, oxytocin and vasopressin which promote pain reduction, bonding and intimacy.

If you think the brain is busy, check out what your anatomy is doing in the process. The internal organs composing the sexual anatomy of the male include the epididymis, vas deferens, seminal vesicles, prostate gland, Cowper’s glands, and urethra. The most prominent part of a male’s sexual anatomy is his penis. The penis has three primary functions: Initiating orgasm and transporting semen and urine from the body. It is made of the base, shaft, and glans. The base and shaft are where the erectile tissue and muscles are. In addition, there is the scrotum and the testicles. The scrotum is the sac of wrinkled skin behind and below the penis that contain the testicles. For vulvas owner, the process is more complex. This makes orgasm depend upon development in the womb. It’s called the CUV Complex. It stands for Clitoral-Urethra-Vagina with the cervix and perineal sponge. The vulva is the most obvious part of the clitoris. There is the clitoral hood which is either attached to the inner lips or not attached at all. There is the shaft that is located near the pubic bone.

The pelvis bone is V-shaped, and the clitoral legs run down them. If you press against your pubic bone and move upward, you will be able to activate these legs. Hence why grinding feels so good. The vestibular bulbs connect to the clitoral legs swell with arousal and can cause the outer lips to swell. The bulbs are known as the Skene’s Gland which are connected to the urethral sponge and holds the fluid that is ejaculated. The urethral opening is a part of the inner lips that sit below the clitoris and above the vaginal opening.

Often, we see the cervix as something used in pregnancy, however it holds a pleasurable punch for some as well. It is essentially the opening to the uterus, but you don’t want to enter it. Simply touching the cervix activates the pelvic nerve that sends pleasurable signals in the uterus, cervix, and upper vagina. This can result in deeper cervical orgasms. The P-spot and is located between the vagina and the rectum. When engorged with arousal and massaged you can experience an orgasm. The Bartholin’s glands cause the vagina to lubricate. Lubrication is crucial when penetrating. The brain and body are going through a lot all at once before, during and after an orgasm. Knowing this information can help you create your best experiences.