Why Do Men Cheat?

Let’s find out…

1. Variety is the number one reason men cheat even if their partner is beautiful,
sexy, smart, nurturing and his ultimate fantasy woman. He may still want to have
sex with someone completely different. You can blame it on the biological
programming that makes a man’s brain crave sexual variety or his primitive
instinct to go hunting, but you cannot change it if he wants variety.

2. His Ego swells when stroked by an attractive stranger. He loves the thrill of the
chase and the hunt before the conquest that feeds his masculine ego especially
when it’s been neglected. A man thrives on praise and compliments but if he
doesn’t get them from his partner, he’s an easy target for a loose lover.

3. Fantasies with lovers who are willing to make all of his wildest sexual fantasies
come true from role-playing, domination, sex slave, golden showers, swallowing,
anal and group sex. He may be too ashamed to share his fantasy with his partner
for fear of rejection, judgment or even ridicule.

4. Boredom is a common reason that men cheat, especially if his partner has let
herself go, is too lazy to make herself attractive for him or has put on too much
weight. For a married man who is unhappy at home, cheating is cheaper and
easier than getting a divorce. For an unmarried man, cheating is easier than
confronting his partner because he doesn’t find her desirable.

5. Emotional Connection that he is not getting at home may motivate him to cheat
with a co-worker who listens to him, nurtures him, dominates him, babies him or
just make him feel good about himself when he is with her. That’s why many men
cheat with secretaries or someone close to them at work, apart from the fact that
it’s also very convenient.

6. Revenge when a man finds out his partner has been cheating on him, cheating
on her is the quickest way to heal his hurt feelings. Instead of arguing, seeking
professional counseling or forgiving his partner, he would rather have angry sex
with a one night stand or several depending on how easy it is for him to get laid.

7. Better Sex and more sex with someone who is willing to do the things he wants
to fulfill his sexual needs. Oral sex and anal sex are top contenders, so if he has
a disinterested partner who rejects his advances or won’t try to please him, then
he is going to look elsewhere until he finds someone who likes the same sexual
activities he does.

8. Addiction to love, romance or sex can be an excuse men will use to get a free
pass when they are in a relationship and they don’t know how to get out.
Whether it’s for financial reasons or because of the children, he chooses to cheat
with as many women as he can for fear that he may be missing out on love,
romance and sex, but he is too chicken to be honest with his partner. He would
rather be labeled with a disease or an addiction than face his own insecurities.

9. For Fun to see if the grass is greener on the other side. He is comparison
shopping and having fun being sneaky to see if he can get away with cheating. If
he gets away with it the first time, he may keep doing it unless his cheating
experiences are disappointing or too expensive.

10. Stress and anxiety about work, health, family and finances can lead to cheating
as a quick fix. This may seem like an unlikely form of stress management, but to
a man with a high sex drive, it can be the best form of stress release especially
with someone who he has no strings attached.

What Women Want

If you want to get started pleasing your woman in and out of the bedroom, try these sexy tips!

• Give unexpected massages, hair stroking or other physical affection
• Only if sincere, tell her how much she means to you during lovemaking
• Compliment her with “just because” notes or phone calls
• Plan romantic evenings that will fill her with anticipation of what is to come
• Lavish her with oral sex and let her climax first
• Share romantic feelings
• Experiment with role-playing

However, if you want to really satisfy your woman and protect your relationship, read on
for more details.

It’s no secret that women are known for being sensitive and more in touch with their
emotions than men. However, they still place much importance on intimacy, the physical
characteristics of their significant others, as well as themselves, and sexual gratification.
There are many important qualities that women look for whether it be in bed or simply in
a lover. Below are some of the most common qualities to read over and make note of
how many you have and how many you can improve after reading through this e-book.

Sex is an art that requires awareness and knowledge of a woman’s needs and desires. I
will share just what it takes to please a woman in every way possible and will give you
the basic tools to acquire more information about women and what they want
in bed.

What Women Look for In A Lover

Listed below are many things that a woman wants in a lover:

• A Lover who communicate openly
• A Lover who take initiative
• A Lover who can provide undivided attention
• A Creative and inquiring lover
• A Sexually, emotionally, and mentally intimate lover
• A Lover who care about their appearance from their clothing to their scent
• A Lover who can read their desired communication style (i.e. verbal or visual)
• A Lover who finds pleasure in satisfying their partner
• A Confident and courageous lover
• A Lover who know the art of kissing and the techniques of foreplay
• A Lover who know exactly where her erogenous zones are located
• A Lover with the ability to control their ejaculation to lengthen their love making
• A Lover willing to provide a sensual massage without any agenda
• A Lover who know how to give positive feedback as well as receive it
• A Lover who enjoy giving women what they want in bed as well as what they want outside of bed.

Be More Sexy Outside of the Bedroom

Make your lover the center of your attention. Turn off the television, radio, computer or
any other distractions if you don’t want to turn off your woman. Bring home little trinkets
for no special reason. A single flower or some chocolates will let her know that you were
thinking about her.

You can also do a lot to set the mood for a woman by stimulating all five of her senses.

Some ways you might do this include:

• Listen to music, initiate love-talk before, during and after you make love.
• Let her get olfactory cues from flowers, incense, scented candles and cologne.
• Add sensual ornaments, pillows and accessories to your bedroom.
• Create new touches with oils, lotions and powders.
• Consider giving her satin sheets and silk lingerie.
• Order in a gourmet dinner or buy favorite snacks and drinks (never make love on an empty stomach).
• Let your lover know that she’s making a positive difference in your life. And show her
  how much you appreciate her by making her breakfast in bed. Write her love letters.
• Give her lots of compliments; physical, emotional and appreciative ones.
• You can’t really get too romantic or too old-fashioned when it comes to winning a
  woman’s heart. Take her on romantic walks or surprise her with a picnic lunch and you
  can’t go wrong. Always kiss her goodbye and give her a big welcome home. Don’t miss
  an opportunity to kiss her at unexpected times in unexpected places.
• Let her know what you love about her the most. Phone her in the middle of the day just
  because you want to hear her voice. Take her on a fantasy date once a week. Record a
  message of love for her to listen to at home or in the car.

In the Bedroom Try These Tips!

• Learn how to give your lover a slow, sensual massage. Such a time is also good for helping you discover all of her erogenous zones from her toes to the top of her head. Simply ask her to rate your caresses and kisses from 1 to 10 and remember that she is not rating you, but her erogenous zones. Make a mental note of where key spots are that she rates 8 and above.
• Learn how to undress a woman slowly and appreciate every part of her skin before
  making love to her. Sex should not be a race. Go slowly and make love to each part of
  her. Be gentle and touch her so lightly it will leave her wanting more.
• Try using ice, whipped cream or strawberry jam for foreplay. The key is to build sexual
  anticipation and take her slowly toward her orgasm. And always wait to have your
  orgasm last (more on how to prolong your ability to extend this time in a moment).

Women Want Intimacy

To better understand what a woman needs or wants, it is imperative to understand the
importance of intimacy. It is often assumed that intimacy is a single aspect of a
relationship, e.g. the physical part. People mistake intimacy in this way so having sex
automatically would mean two people were intimate. Although there is some truth
behind the physical perspective, alone it doesn’t encompass the full range of emotional,
intellectual and spiritual intimacies

What is intimacy?

Let’s start by breaking down the word intimacy and look at it phonetically. Into sounds very inviting doesn’t it? When you get into something, it means you really want to be there, right? What about Me See? You’re saying “This is ME. SEE me, all of me, because I have nothing to hide.” It’s like having a long zipper from your head to your toes, opening it and saying “Here I am.” Intimacy is about getting rid of protective layers and facades by revealing yourself to someone you truly love.

Intimacy is not a wild, rapid passion, but a slow burning passion. Intimacy doesn’t have to be serious; it can be fun like a Monopoly game. Your goal in Monopoly is to own expensive hotels on Park Place, but you can’t do that until you have purchased some less expensive properties on Baltic Ave.

It’s the same with intimacy. Your goal is to connect with someone mentally, emotionally and sexually, but you have to work your way up to it. You can do so by taking your time, getting to know your partner, exploring non-sexual areas and work up to primary erogenous zones.

For intimacy you need to be 100% present and enjoy the journey as much as
the destination.

When a woman feels intimate with her partner, she feels safe and she will
surrender to ultimate pleasure and satisfaction without any inhibitions.

It is beneficial to first grasp the meaning of intimacy and discover all five approaches to
helping free your inhibitions and soon achieving it. With that knowledge, you can
improve your communication also.

Intimate Communication

Communication is a process. To communicate effectively with your partner means
listening, interpreting and providing feedback. This will bring you closer to any partner.

Your most important sex organ isn’t between your legs but rather between your ears. This is where all sexual behavior begins. It’s what you do with it that counts. Use it, or lose out on having all the sex you’d like.

More than a few lovers have discovered that a whispered suggestion, especially when
it is in the ear of a woman, can be very arousing. Learn what the “secret password” to
your gal is and you will make your life more entertaining and be started on the road that
will lead to her satisfaction, adoration, and loyalty as well.

Understanding Cheating by Dr Ava Cadell

Considering that humans are a non-monogamous species, modern Western society’s
expectations regarding relationship fidelity can be especially hard for men. They are
biologically wired to respond to variety and to sow their seed in as many places as
possible, and by places I mean between women’s legs☺

When Romeo and Juliet conveyed their dying love for each other (literally), most people
didn’t live beyond middle age. Now with the advent of modern medicine and sanitation,
our lifespan has been extended, making it less and less likely for long-term couples to
remain monogamous; men’s need for sexual variety is so understood that a huge porn
industry has emerged. And when porn isn’t enough, well then there’s cheating.

The Top 10 tell-tale signs your man is cheating include:

1. He starts spending less time with you, but always comes up with last minute
excuses that he has to work late or take sudden trips out of town.

2. He no longer gives you long juicy kisses, but replaces them with short pecks on
your lips or face.

3. He starts requesting that you change things about your body such as shaving
your pubes.

4. He makes noticeable changes to his physical appearance such as adding
highlights to his hair or going on a diet and working out regularly.

5. Inside his car is unfamiliar with a new radio station and the passenger seat has
been changed, so you know someone else has been sitting in your seat.

6. His aroma is different because he is now wearing a new cologne or you can
smell another woman’s perfume that has rubbed off on him.

7. He is constantly on his cell phone texting, talking in code or he leaves the room
whenever it rings.

8. He spends more time with his computer than he does with you, especially at
night when you go to bed.

9. He says that he doesn’t have enough money to buy you the things that you need
because he is short of cash.

10. He suddenly starts bringing you little trinkets and acts uncharacteristically nice to
you without any explanation.

The Power of Everlasting Love

Love is a give-give proposition, and everlasting love becomes 100% give on each side. The nature of love is to pour out, it wants to give. Love is being flexible. Couples who have achieved everlasting love don’t tuck each other away in an ivory tower until it is convenient to be together. I know of one sad pair who only made love at 4 o’clock on Sunday afternoons because it suited one spouse’s schedule. Do you think they stayed together?

Eventually one began to play around on the other until it looked as though infidelity broke up their marriage. When two people are bound by everlasting love, they care enough
to consider each other’s needs and bend a little. To paraphrase a well-known allegory, the trees that can bow with the strongest breeze will survive any storm.

What love is not.

Love is not handed to you on a silver platter. It is not automatic. If it were, it wouldn’t be love. The very nature of love is that we grow into it. Love has a high value because it is an investment.

Love is not to be taken for granted. All too many couples give up trying when they have won each other; that’s the very time to continue courting in new ways. Love is a precious gift that we earn, and anything we earn is all the more dear to us. You would not take a new car for granted; no, you keep up the maintenance for as long as the car lasts. Your everlasting love will need the same upkeep if you don’t want to lose it.

Love is not a fleeting moment. It is not something you have one day and lose the next. We quest so for love because of its enduring quality and its ability to grow if nourished.

The Ingredients of Everlasting Love.

Like a good soup, love is made of many ingredients that blend just right. No one single element can serve as the whole meal. And it’s hard to find a good soup recipe, isn’t it? It needs special spices and maybe an unusual ingredient or two, like lotus root or exotic mushrooms. Even everyday potato soup has carrots, onions, garlic, salt; just the
right seasonings.

Let’s look at the ingredients in our love-potion soup. If you went to a sorcerer to help you find everlasting love, you would ask the magician to cook up the following:

Friendship.

If you cannot rely on the person you love, then that person is not worthy of your love. And if your partner cannot count on you, you are not in everlasting love. Friendship means being able to say anything to your partner because you have that ease of “best buddies”. Best friends never take advantage of each other; they are there to help one another.
Any good partnership includes the same love you have for a best friend.

Trust.

I am fond of an old — and trusted — axiom, that goes like this: “People who cannot trust should not be trusted”.

Distrusting people are often deceitful. I have found this to be a reliable measuring stick on the trust issue. But my rule-of-thumb is to give people the benefit of the doubt unless they prove otherwise. You cannot truly be connected to someone you cannot trust. That warm, mellow feeling we experience when we trust each other is a large part of everlasting love. Peace-of-mind in a relationship is vital to its stamina. And trust, like anything worthwhile, is something we earn over time, gradually.

Respect.

As with trust, respect must be earned as well. It isn’t automatic, although the seedlings of it may be there in the beginning of your relationship. Whether it can grow and blossom will determine the depth of your involvement. Respect can also diminish over time, and it is one of the most common reasons for ending a relationship. You must also respect yourself
before someone else will respect you.

Passion.

Yes, that all-consuming feeling of pure lust, euphoric, overwhelming, distracting, beautiful thing we call passion can be spontaneous or it can come on gradually, too. Passion either grows or it dissipates. Passion grows when you can be uninhibited with each other. And you break down any barriers by communicating. Passion fades when you have resentment,
anger or contempt for your partner. Once again, here is an area that cannot be neglected or taken for granted in a relationship. Keep it alive by constantly creating new and exciting things to do together.

Communication.

You cannot feel safe in a relationship without communication. You have to know where you stand, and you owe it to your partner to tell him or her the same. Knowing each other is the prerequisite to happiness in all areas. Communication is like that magic spice that brings out the flavor of all the other ingredients. Hey, that includes sex! Let your partner know it is safe to talk about fantasies and to explore them. Good communication can unleash strong creative energy between you and your partner. And with good communication, you can let your hair down and talk about anything. Not only does it enhance your partnership, it takes a big chunk out of everyday stress.

Love.

Growing with the power of love. Love heals. It can heal you, and it can heal your partner. Then the two of you together are like a new being, free to experience the present and future in all its possibilities, unhampered by the wounds of past relationships. Let’s take a closer look at three domains of love.

Self love.

The love of self is not conceit; conceit can be a lack of self-love or delusion about one’s self in relation to others. I like what spiritual author Deepak Chopra says about love, because it fits into the meaning of loving and valuing one’s self and self- worth: “You know that you have fully experienced love when you turn into love.” You become love by first loving yourself.

What we often don’t realize is that no reason exists for not loving yourself. It ultimately doesn’t matter what you were told as a child by others. You can work through your past and let go of it or you can hang on to it. But on your deathbed, it will be how much you have loved yourself and others that counts.

Self-love issues account for crime, misery, poverty. No one should be without his or her own love. You are first your own best friend and your own support. You couldn’t do anything without your own love and support to back you up.

It pays to take your needs seriously. Do special things for yourself that you may have postponed until you are in a relationship. Buy yourself candy or special treats. Give yourself a bubble bath each day, go to the beach, rent classic movies, or get a massage. Get to know you and how to pamper you. Any love you experience beyond that will only be greater. You must love and care enough about yourself to begin healing your own wounds.

Then the right partner can work together with you on bringing out more of your own love, just for you.

Loving your partner.

When you have invested in you and in loving yourself more, you have that commodity to bring to a relationship. Loving your partner is ongoing. Everlasting love means continuing to demonstrate your affection and devotion from day one until the end of time. Show each other that love is the meaning of life. One young man, a college student named Bob, said to his girlfriend Anne: “You know I love you, you shouldn’t have to be told.” To the contrary, you and your partner cannot tell each other often enough how much you care for each other. It has taken Bob a few months to realize that love is about expression: saying it, showing it, acting it out. One of the best ways to communicate love is through giving
emotional and appreciative compliments.

Loving each other.

Everlasting love is a give-give relationship. And two givers have to be two receivers, also. If two “takers” enter a union, they will only drag each other down and beat each other up. And a “taker/giver” union won’t last either. It may work for a while, but eventually the giver will run dry and resent not having his or her needs met as well. But two givers going into a relationship will have unity. They know the balance of giving and receiving. Take something as simple as giving a compliment. Compliments are vital in a relationship. It can make a world of difference in your day when your partner looks at you and says: “I desire you as much as the day I met you.”

And giving is an ongoing thing. For instance, it can be just as important to give each other trinkets, for no particular reason, than it is to lavish your partner on holidays, anniversaries or birthdays. People love to be surprised, especially with little things that mean so much. One friend of mine collects unusual rocks for a garden the way some people grow flowers. She loves it when her husband brings home a crystal or mineral for her collection, especially if he takes the time to learn something about it. Most important of all, giving of your time to each other has a priceless value on it. Our allotted time on this planet is so precious.

And when that time runs out and we are ready to move on to the next dimension, it is the memories we have created here on earth that we will be thinking about. It is never too late to begin creating more loving memories with the people we care most about. At the end
of your life, you won’t be thinking about your bank account, the stock market, or business competition. But you will want to hold loving relationships and their memories close to you.