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Top sex education for adults featured posts and sexuality articles from our sex experts, sex coaches on everything from female orgasms, sexual pleasure, alternative lifestyle topics, couples sex advice and dating advice, masturbation and sexual empowerment, sexual health and wellness including men’s sexual problems like premature ejaculation and how to last longer in the bedroom.

Our Sex Ed featured articles include all the tips and techniques you need to know to make you a better lover such as the ultimate guide to anal sex, BDSM and kinky sex, oral sex, how to have the best orgasms, sexual relationship topics on how to spice up your love life, as well as female sexual anatomy and the erogenous zones including the clitoris, the cervix and cervical orgasm, all about the g spot, female ejaculation and g spot orgasms, the vagina and the vulva, penis facts and more.

Sexpert.com is an all-inclusive sex education site for adults and has many empowering articles on gender and sexuality, as well as articles for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgender, sissies, and alternative lifestyles including cuckold and hotwife relationships, threesomes, polyamory and swinging. See our sacred sexuality topics including Tantra sex, yoni yoga, sexy goddess rituals, energy orgasms and more.

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Sexpert Panel: COVID: Love, Relationships and Sex

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Dr. Ava Cadell
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Join Loveology University’s Sexpert Panel–COVID: Love, Relationships and Sex

The Sexpert Panel will talk candidly, as if you were meeting face to face over drinks and discuss fully and openly the most intimate details of topics you are interested in.

Best of all, renowned Sexperts will share their wisdom to help ease your concerns, lower your inhibitions and transport you to sexual empowerment.

Just in time for Valentine’s Day, give yourself the gift of love with a special panel in February 2021. 

Playmate Pickup PodcastMODERATOR Erika Jordan, Host of Playmate Pickup Podcast
is an internationally published relationship expert, who has a web series answering sex and dating questions which has been running for 10 years.

She is a Certified Relationship Coach, Master Sexpert and Love Coach, as well as an NLP Practitioner and ACE Certified Health Coach and Fitness Trainer.

Erika is currently in the process of getting her Masters in Clinical Psychology.

Meet Tamara Bell who was one of the first Loveology University graduates in 2008, now she’s the Student Ambassador & Mentor, ready to help coach you to a successful career! Tamara is also a master networker and an industry leader helping grow positive businesses. She founded The Home Pleasure Party Plan Association (HPPPA) in January 2005 to establish a network between pleasure party company owners, distributors and manufacturers. Tamara said, “Our goal it is to be one voice to our distributors and manufacturers and continue to be viewed as a strong entity in this growing industry.”  Now a Certified Loveologist & Love Coach working with couples, singles and business owners in developing positive relationship enhancement techniques, Tamara is loved and admired by all who work with her.

Dr. Hernando Chaves is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a clinical focus on individuals, couples, or families of unique erotic/sexual communities such as LGBTQQI, QUILTBAG, kinky, fetishistic, alternative sexual expression, unique identity and orientations, and members of non-traditional erotic communities.
He also works clinically with sex therapy concerns focusing on anxiety reduction, mindfulness, challenging sexual comfort, sensate focus, pleasure education, using insight-oriented psychotherapy methods for a variety of sexual concerns such as anorgasmia, vaginismus, low desire, early & inhibited ejaculation, erectile concerns, dyspareunia, performance anxiety, intimacy difficulties, partner communication, & partner relational difficulties.

Viloshni Moodley is a Certified Sexpert practicing as an Online Intimacy Coach. She is the founder and owner of Ultimacy Online, since leaving her over 25 years of management experience within Corporate. Her passion for empowering individuals with positive sex education and breaking the cycle of negative conditioning has influenced her change in career path. She believes relationships are the most important factor to overall wellbeing, and thus passionate about making a change to ensure people have more fulfilling relationships. Having a happy, healthy relationship provides balance in individuals and couples. Her work specializes in coaching individuals or couples who wish to achieve certain goals in the bedroom and short courses in different areas of sexuality.

Dr. Diana Wiley is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed MFT for more than 30 years.

As a licensed marriage & family therapist and board-certified Sex Therapist, she provides counseling services for couples and individual adults to help them with relationship and sexuality issues. She is also the author of “Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine” (C4C, 2020, available as a paperback or e-book on Amazon). The book covers ten of my most useful strategies for couples to explore a more sensual and sexual connection with their partners to relieve stress and strengthen their relationship. She also writes the online advice column “Dear Dr. Diana” and has a weekly podcast, Love, Lust and Laughter. Dr. Diana has graciously bestowed her book to Loveology University students and alumni, so we thank her very much!

Last but not least, Dr. Ava Cadell, is a Clinical Sexologist, past faculty at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, AASECT Certified Sex Counselor, Author, global speaker and Founder of Loveology University. “My mission is to contribute to the betterment of human rights in the world through my work and to promote the benefits of sexual health and pleasure.”

The Sexpert Panel will have new participants with new topics to edify and entertain you, so be sure to join us in March for Open Relationships and in April for Sexual Healing.

Register for the event below:

Why You Need a Ginger

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Erika Jordan
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I was raised with old-fashioned values so in an attempt to keep my numbers down I had a ginger. I’m going to tell you what a ginger is and why you need one..

No, I’m not talking about a redhead! I’m talking about the ginger you eat in between sushi rolls to cleanse your palette!

Your relationship ends you’re dealing with sadness, disappointment, anger. After some time goes by you know you’re not entirely ready to fall in love but you’re lonely and horny. After a relationship ended I had a guy I called and he knew damn well to break into the “I’m sorry it didn’t work out. You need a drink”. We would go on a trip together and have amazing passionate sex and then go back to our respective lives. It doesn’t become a thing it is what it is. I call it a ginger because it’s like cleansing the pallet between entrees.

For me I found that it helps to prevent some of the issues from the previous relationship to follow you into the next. If you go straight into your next relationship you’re likely to be triggered by things that remind you of your ex and occasionally have trouble separating this new person from your last. It might not be for everyone but it’s definitely worked out for me.

For life on the wild side check out Erika Jordan with Carol and David on the Playmate Pickup Podcast.

Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence, and get them to want you!!!! Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, Playmate Pickup is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

What Did You Say?-Making Money Via Audio Books

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Ralph Greco
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Photo by YURI MANEI from Pexels

Just as eBook came to print, audio comes to eBook (and yes, print) as both another way to enjoy a story or 300-page tome and as a separate revenue stream for a writer. And the beauty of audiobooks, at least so far in my experience (albeit I’m not the kind of a writer where a publisher is signing me exclusively or wants to gobble up all my output), is that in many cases, the writer can set a separate deal for an audio version of his or her book that doesn’t impinge on the deal he or she has on the print or eBook version.

Yes, many a publishing house does it all, but there are plenty that only publish eBooks (especially in the erotica field) as there are lots now that are trying to carve out a niche only in audiobooks. As I have said time and again, if you can manage to grab a publisher interested in your naughty little tales and they only will publish you in eBook and print-on-demand (which is mainly how my deals are set up with the publishers I have books with) but give you free reign to scout out and scare up an audiobook publisher for the same book, I say take those freaking reins and go get another deal for the same book!

The publishers I work with see no harm in ‘spreading the wealth’ this way, as I have mentioned in previous columns. The overall thought here (and one I agree with) is that the more of my titles that are out there, in any way that they are out there, the better my chances are that one person will stumble across an erotic audiobook version of one of my books, enjoy it, and not only go a’searching for more audiobooks from yours truly, but might stumble across other titles of mine, from other publishers, and even if not audiobooks, might give one or two of my written or eBooks a try. Or somebody comes to one of my audiobooks from the reverse kind of searching, having read me in print or eBook first. 

Especially with erotica, many people find a whole new way to enjoy what I have scribbled when it is read by some professional who can breathe life into my words and scenarios, providing a thrill in a manner just reading the written word can’t. So, yes, audiobooks indeed work for me.

One of the people I work with in the audiobook world (although they publish print-on-demand and eBook) is WORDWOOZE (here is their submissions page). I was just alerted, via their CEO, to a podcast they have been running, having recorded 172 episodes this year alone. You can find them here: Audiobook Test Drive • A podcast on Anchor. I’m letting you in on this podcast, less to sell my wares as to conclude this column assuring you that audiobooks are out there, a viable way to get your stuff published (and heard), and could provide another way for you to sell your book even if you have that book already published in eBook or print form.

So, go out and get your stuff heard!

Swingers Podcast – Swinging with Carol and David

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Erika Jordan
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Playmate Pickup Podcast

Many of you are curious about the swinging life and want to know what it entails and if it’s for you. SO, Erika Jordan brought on Carol and David, the king and queen of swinging!

There are certain terms you should become familiar with right away. Phrases like “hard swap” essentially denote couples who are open to having full-on sexual relations with another couple. Or, a “unicorn” refers to a woman who attends swingers events alone – yes, this isn’t just for couples. Other terms to know are “soft swap,” which is basically the opposite of what a hard swap is and that everything is on the table except for sex. And, last but not least, the phrase is “the lifestyle” refers to the – you guessed it – the swinger lifestyle.

For life on the funny side check out Erika Jordan and Tenere Williams in The Girlfriend Experience Zoom Style. For the very creative this may work for swinging also.

Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence, and get them to want you!!!! Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at Virtual Sexpert.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

Erika Jordan Certified Love Coach, NLP Practitioner

Become a Sexpert in Three Steps

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Dr. Ava Cadell
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by Dr. Ava Cadell

Have you always been interested in finding out more about love, sex, and relationships?

Are comfortable talking about intimate topics?

Do you want a better sex life?

Would you like to help others to have more intimacy?

If you answered yes to at least three of these questions, then you’ll love the three steps to becoming a Master Sexpert.

Step One

What is your story?

What do you want to do to help make the world a more loving and sexier place?

What are the things you enjoy doing and are good at that can help improve the quality of people’s lives?

Empower yourself by identifying all of your unique qualities that will make you a successful Sexpert!

First begin with your story: For example, my story started with a revolution in my country, so I was smuggled out and left in an orphanage where nuns filled my head with guilt and shame about my body, so I had low self-esteem and that led to abusive relationships. It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom that I realized I needed to learn about love, relationships and sex so that I could find a healthy relationship for myself.

After I did learn about sex positivity and I felt more confident, it led me to finding true love. Feeling empowered, I knew it was my mission to help people to overcome their guilt and shame, and I began my career as a Sexpert by earning a Doctorate in Sexology from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. After my graduation, I decided to open up my own online university at www.LoveUniv.com and created the Master Sexpert Certification program with courses that I wished I had learned more about, such as Fantasies and Role-Playing, Boundaries and Taboos, Erotic Massage and the G-spot.

My qualities included non-judgement and empathy, both mandatory if you want to become a successful Sexpert!

Step Two

Visualize your ideal clients.

Who is your target audience?

What are some of the problems you can help them with as a Sexpert.

What can you talk about passionately?

You have a lot of options to pursue as a Sexpert, including an exciting career as a sex blogger and author, media Sexpert, global speaker, pleasure party consultant, researcher, producer of instructional sex educational videos and pleasure products, spokesperson for adult toys and a private coaching practice.

For me, I knew my clients would include people who needed help learning how to love themselves, and people looking for healthy relationships so they could experience sexual satisfaction. I also felt confident I could help couples with their issues because I was married, and they could relate to me. So, I started my private practice, then I built my website sexpert.com, wrote blogs and books, and began my speaking career by lecturing at the Learning Annex.

Step Three

The Sky’s the limit.

Once you have your Master Sexpert Certificate, anything is possible! Share your talents and help change the vibration of the planet to make the world a more loving place. LU offers personal mentoring for students who need help with their career from Tamara Bell, a graduate from 2008 who is now the Ambassador of Students. She is available to help students before enrollment, to them find the best program for them, during studies to help students pass their final exam and after graduation to help students reach their goals.

I surpassed my career goals as a Sexpert with eleven published books, a sex column in Penthouse magazine, wrote and narrated 13 instructional videos, invented an adult toy called the TriGasm and a Tantric game for lovers, I lectured in four continents and did masses of media. If I can do it, from my humble beginnings, so can you!

Many graduates of Loveology University have thriving careers, such as Erika Jordan, a Certified Love Coach, NLP and ACE Certified Health Coach with her own course for men, entitled The Art of Pickup. https://www.playmatepickup.com/

The sky is the limit if you want to be in the public eye, as I experienced with my career. And the good news is that there’s room for all of us. The world needs more love!

I did two TV pilots called Sexperts, the first one was with Dr. Diana Wiley and Sharon Mitchell.

The second one was with my friend and colleague Dr. Hernando Chaves.

In 2015 I become Sexpert of the Year, which I was proud of as it validated my work!

 

Sexperts Dr. Cat Meyer, Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce, Miyoko Fujimori and Symon Murray attended the Sexual Health Expo, where I gave Dr. Ruth Westheimer a lifetime achievement award and we promoted our Sexycises for Intimacy video and workshops: https://sexycises.com/

If you’re ready to take the next step in working towards a successful Sexpert career watch Erika Jordan’s video below:

Enroll in Loveology University now Loveology University’s Master Sexpert course

 

Dr. Ava’s Top 11 Quickie Tips for Couples to Spice it Up!

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Dr. Ava Cadell
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Photo by Anastasiya Lobanovskaya from Pexels

Happy New Year 2021!

As with any new year, we often make resolutions to create new practices and healthy habits to follow for the coming year. This year, why not make your love life with your significant other a priority by adding some of my quickie tips as a part of your new year’s sexual wellness practices!

1. Share Your Desires With Your Lover

Do you know how to share your favorite sexual activities with your partner?

TO DO: Make a list of 10 sexual activities, then prioritize them in order of arousal and show the list to your lover. For example: kissing, receiving oral sex, mutual masturbation, using sex toys, quickies, role-playing, watching porn, missionary position, 69, anal. If you don’t already know what turns you on, you won’t be able to communicate your needs, wants and desires to your lover. They can’t read your mind, so turn it into a sexy revelation.

2. Please Your Lover’s G-spot

Both men and women have an internal erogenous zone that can lead to mind blowing orgasms when stimulated. To stimulate her G-spot, insert a lubricated finger and curl it upward in a “come here” motion with your palm facing upward. Imagine a small clock inside her sacred space and aim your finger up between 11 and 1 o’clock (with 12:00 pointing towards her navel), then gently tap, tap, tap and ask your lover for feedback. Use the same directions for finding the male G-spot, also known as his prostate, but insert your finger into his back door and feel for a chestnut-sized gland. Please your lover by exploring all of their internal and external erogenous zones to heighten sexual arousal and satisfaction.

3. Find His Million Dollar Point

Do you know how to make your man feel like a million dollars?

TO DO: Find his Million Dollar Point by slowly sliding your fingers up and down the perineum (the landing strip between his anus to his testicles). Feel for a small indentation the size of a pea midway and gently press inward with your thumbs. This area is called the Million Dollar Point in Taoism and many men are able to feel their prostate gland through this point. Stimulating it can result in an earth-shattering, mind-blowing orgasm for him!

4. Don’t Forget the Feet!

Do you know how to worship your lover’s feet?

TO DO: Incorporate foot play into lovemaking, as it can foster intimacy and trust. Feet are an important erogenous zone with a tremendous number of very sensitive nerve endings. Pay attention to your lover’s feet with an erotic foot bath and massage, adding your favorite aromatherapy oil or lotion to keep things lubricated.  Kiss, caress, lick or suck their toes to discover sensitive spots. Toe worshipping is known as “Shrimping.”

5. Steal A Kiss

It’s sometimes hard to find time alone with your partner during the holidays. Whether it’s the kids home from school or your in-laws hanging around for too long, kisses from your partner can be hard to come by! It’s also true that kissing is the first sexual activity to diminish when couples are growing apart. This is usually because resentment sets in and sexual chemistry turns off. Keep the juices flowing with a daily dose of kissing!

Kiss your lover at least twice a day in the morning and at night but make your smooches last for at least 12 seconds! This is a sure way to maintain passion and intimacy in your relationship. You can get away from the crowd for 12 seconds, right?

6. Scents That Boost Your Sex Drive

You can rev up your sex drive with the help of certain sexy scents such as the aroma of cinnamon, popcorn, pumpkin pie or doughnuts for your man.

Women get turned on by the smell of melon, chocolate, oranges and fresh bread. So, prepare some of these aphrodisiacs before you make love to enhance your sexual experience. There is scientific evidence that they can increase blood flow to the sexual organs.

7. Risky Sex Can Boost Your Sex Drive

Do you know that having sex in risky places can boost your sex drive?

Surprise your lover by making a date to have sex in a new place like the pool, on a secluded beach, in the woods, in the backseat of a car, on a boat, in a store dressing room, in the highest seats at a sports game, in a restaurant restroom, on the kitchen counter or even during a thunderstorm, just so long as it’s exciting and erotic.

If you are in public, be careful not to get caught, as public sex is illegal.

8. Sexy Video Gift Idea

Are you stumped for a perfect gift for your lover this year?

Make a personalized video for your lover to watch of you expressing all the things you love about him/her physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually and even spiritually.  You can share your feelings by describing the best day you spent together or reveal some of the fantasies you would like to do with your lover in the future. Believe me, this will be the most memorable gift they get!

9. Sexy Wish Exchange

Exchange your wish list of three things that could heighten a romantic, sensual and sexual experience for you with your lover.

Start by saying, I wish you, I wish we, or I wish I

For Example:

“I wish you would give me one of those sexy massages you do so well.”
“I wish we could have more quickies during the week.”
“I wish I could have my orgasm first while you give me oral.”

Then make each others wishes come true by choosing one wish from each others list right away, make another wish come true within 7 days and make the third wish come true within 30 days.

10. Never Negotiate Naked

I’ve been saying Never Negotiate Naked for years now, but I must have picked it up somewhere along the way in my sexological journey.

When we’re in the heat of the moment – clothes are flying off, kissing, touching, heavy breathing – it’s delicious. Everything is so intense. It has to happen RIGHT NOW or you will burst. It’s also a time when we aren’t thinking very clearly. Which is why it’s helpful to negotiate before the action begins. State your intentions. Talk about your safer-sex practices and preferences. Perhaps a Yes-No-Maybe sort of boundaries and limits discussion. To really reduce the pressure, do this in a completely non-sexual setting. Sure, it might get you all hot & bothered as you talk (That’s great!), but this way you can be as clear-headed as possible while negotiating your play.

11. An Orgasm A Day

Do you know an Orgasm a Day Keeps the Doctor Away?

TO DO: For your optimum health, have sex or masturbate at least 2 times a week! For men, regular orgasms may help prevent prostate cancer and for women, orgasms increase blood flow to their sexual organs keeping them in good working order. Orgasms can also relieve stress, help with a good night’s sleep as a natural tranquilizer and release feel good endorphins that can alleviate pain.

Final Words!

I hope you enjoyed these easy “quickie” tips that you can implement in your relationship and time of the year!

 

 

There Are More Than Two Genders

By
Erika Jordan
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Newsflash! There are more than 2 types of gender.

I felt the need to clarify after encountering numerous videos pointing to text that says, “there are only 2 genders.” This misinformation is dismissive of real live human beings who just happen to not fit into our societal gender norms.

There are many different gender identities. Such as male, female, transgender, gender neutral, non-binary, agender, pangender, genderqueer, two-spirit, third gender etc. But first let’s talk about your definition of gender?

What’s a male? Anyone who has a penis? What 1s a person who was born with ovaries and a penis?

Some people conclude XY chromosome means male and XX chromosome means female. Well then what about XXY chromosomes or XXXY?

Whatever your definition of male or female it is simply your interpretation. It is wrong to not accept something simply because you do not fully understand it. Our societies need to force people into male or female is not universal. Australia recognizes a third gender, in South Asia they call the third gender hijra.

Intersex is a term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with sexual anatomy or a reproductive system that doesn’t ft the typical definition of male or female. 1-2 out of 100 people are born intersex. There are more intersex individuals than red heads and we would not think to deny their existence. Our closed mindedness not only refuses to acknowledge the existence of over 70 million people in the world. But we shame them and attempt to force them into choosing male or female. In an attempt to make their child “normal” some parents even opt for surgery that can create irreversible physical and psychological harm.

If a person is born with XXY chromosomes or XXXY it does not necessarily result in a condition where there is discrepancy between internal and external genitalia. There might be problems with sex hormone levels, sperm count, overall sexual development, or altered number of sex chromosomes. A person could go their entire life not knowing they do not fit into the gender norm.

The people who deny the existence of a third gender, often consider themselves conservative and religious implying that God has a plan. And yet somehow messed up with anyone who does not fit neatly into the male or female category. Other cultures celebrate the third gender. Perhaps they have a perspective that the average person can’t understand. Whatever the case may be at the very least we should all acknowledge that there are more than two genders. This is not an opinion this is based on facts. People that don’t fit into the gender norm deserve to be acknowledged and accepted the way they are.

If this is still confusing time to go back and let Erika Jordan help. Let us explore the differences in the two most common genders in Men and Women Are Different.

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

Erika Jordan

Certified Love Coach, NLP Practitioner

Men and Women Are Different: How to Communicate About Sex

By
Erika Jordan
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Men and women are so different they seem to come from different planets. Or at least that is what John Grey the author of the New York Times best seller, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus claims. Embracing and accepting our differences will help us maintain healthy relationships.

But what does this mean? Men are able to focus on narrow issues while blocking out unrelated information and distractions. Women naturally see everyday things from a broader, “big-picture” vantage point. We can all recall walking by a couple where the woman is chatting away and guy is seemingly staring into space. The man might really care for her but just can’t tune in to all the mind numbing details. Men prefer to get to the point quickly instead of walking around the point in circles.

Instead of getting into the complex mind of a female, I will simply point out five major points. That if employed will help you communicate much better with women.

1: I don’t know, what do you want to do? We all hate this question but it is one that is asked quite often. When she asks you a question, it is best to always have an answer. Even if you have no preference where to eat just say the first place that pops into your mind. Always having an answer sets a tone and creates a pattern that has her seeing you as the solution man and a man who cares. Don’t pretend to know more than you do. A lie is visible from space. I will look into that is a viable answer. I have heard many times that a woman’s favorite three words is some form of “I’ve got this”.

2: Communication not interrogation. You have heard people say if you get her talking about herself she will feel like she is having a good time and connecting with you. This is true but it doesn’t mean interrogate her. Asking her a steady stream of questions makes her feel like you are genuinely interested in her. Contribute to the conversation and make sure you relate to her and evoke emotion. Make sure that you ask open ended questions that require more than one word as a response and can turn into a conversation. “What do you like about living in Los Angeles?”

3: Learning to drive a woman. If you want something to change in the relationship it is going to require time. Take time as you sit together, cook together, eat together, travel together to voice your dissatisfaction with certain aspects of the relationship. Just do it in a calm fashion. Tone of voice is about half of the communication so pay attention to your tone. Reassure her that you are happy (if you are) with the overall relationship. You just want one or two things to change. When she has the mic be an active listener, don’t look around or just sit there, and don’t say “uh uh” every few seconds. Watch her body language, tone and proceed like they taught us in drivers ed. IPDE. Identify, predict, decide and execute.

4: No unnecessary apology. Most women I know think a man comes off as a wimp when he starts every sentence off with “I’m sorry.” Don’t apologize for not agreeing with her. Don’t apologize for wanting to watch the game (unless it’s during her grandmothers funeral). Not only will you over-use “sorry” but it will not have the same impact when you really mean it.

5: Don’t argue with crazy. When I say “Don’t argue with crazy.” I mean that to a woman, she’s not being crazy at the moment. Even though every other person on this earth would clearly side with your opinion.  They are what they are and you attempting to rationalize or solve the problem isn’t always the right thing to do. If she starts crying during a cat commercial because the cat is “just so fluffy,” the smart thing to do is simply put your arm around her and attempt to put yourself in her shoes. Is she suffering from PMS, did her cat just die, or did she forget to take her meds? Regardless of where she is on the crazy scale the right way to deal with something you see is illogical or “crazy” is to sympathize with it and bring some humor into the situation if possible to lighten the mood.

Since much of communication is listening time to review the previous post from Erika Jordan, How To Listen To A Woman.

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

 

How To Listen To A Woman

By
Erika Jordan
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Let’s talk about listening.

I know men are often overwhelmed when listening to a female. They feel obligated to fix all of her problems. Sure it would be great if you could fix all of her problems however most women see conversation as a productive end in and of itself. What does that mean that means that if she feels sufficiently heard she doesn’t necessarily need to take it any further. The fact that she has been listen to soothe her anxieties and dolls the pangs of negative feelings.

Sharing with someone who understands and loves her heels her from the inside. This equips her with the emotional tools necessary to handle the trials of the outside world. Women tend to understand the emotional parts of messages more effectively than men. This is probably because research indicates that women process messages on both sides of the brain more so than men. So men tend to process more on the left side of the brain and emotional information is processed on the right.

Here are a few listening tips:

1. Women feel the need to express everything, I mean everything, in order to provide you with the most information about the situation, please be patient. Women often feel that men don’t care about what they are saying due to the lack of reaction, so be involved. Don’t assume what they are saying is not important because the subject is not important to you. If she is taking the time to talk about it, she wants you to take the time to listen to her.

2. Find the perfect balance between logic, empathy and our emotions. What is really happening? Why is she telling you to do the dishes. Does she feel disrespected or unappreciated? Put yourself in her shoes.

3. Check your emotions. Why are you so angry that she’s asking you to do the dishes. Why did you react that way. Taking a moment to rise above the situation and view it neutrally will transform your world.

Communication is the most important thing in any relationship. Improving your communication skills will improve every area of your life. From making you more successful in business to improving family relations and increasing intimacy with your significant other.

It requires work  to keep your relationship strong. After the initial serotonin and oxytocin rush wears off you’re left with feelings of boredom. It’s a normal transition because everything seems boring compared to that new relationship energy. You might not be able to maintain the excitement you felt during the first few weeks but much like cocaine you can continuously pursue that initial buzz but no amount of cocaine will get you there. You have to find a buzz you can sustain (like eating healthy and getting adequate sleep.) If you want a relationship to last you have to be aware of the inevitable ups and downs and be able to adjust accordingly.

Communication and listening is a primary skill for a successful relationship. For more on needed skills let Erika Jordan guide you with Advice For Men Skills.

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

 

Safe Sex With Erika Jordan: Condoms, & STDs

By
Erika Jordan
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Let’s have an orgy! Now that i have your attention let’s talk about safe sex! Having sex with only one partner who only has sex with you when neither of you has a sexually transmitted infection is believed to be safe. However many health care professionals believe there really is no such thing as safe sex. They believe the only way to be truly safe is not to have sex because all forms of sexual contact carry some risk.
Now that may be true but there’s risk involved each time you drive a car but we’re still going places, am I right?
Kissing is thought to be a safe activity, but herpes can be spread that way.
Condoms can protect against stis however. They aren’t a sure thing, so, it is safer to limit your sexual activity to only one partner who’s having sex with only you to reduce exposure. to disease-causing organisms.
Follow these guidelines which may provide for safer sex:
  • Think twice before beginning sexual relations with a new partner.
  • Discuss past partners history of stis and drug use use condoms every time you have sex
  • Choose a male condom made of latex or polyurethane condoms instead of natural material condoms.
  • Use polyurethane if you’re allergic to latex.
  • Female condoms are made of polyurethane.
  • The CDC recommends that latex condoms to help prevent sexual transmission of hiv.
  • For oral sex help protect your mouth by having your partner use a condo
  • Women should not douche after intercourse it does not protect against stis and it could spread an infection further into the reproductive trac
  • Have regular pap tests pelvic exams and periodic tests for stis.
  • There’s a reason for foreplay and it’s not just to get your partner in the mood! Explore your partner’s body look for signs of a sore, blister, rash or discharge!
  • Check your own body frequently for signs of an STI.
You might be thinking about fluid bonding.

It might not be fun to talk about but it definitely is necessary. Today world renowned love coach, Erika Jordan dives into safe sex and what you need to do to ensure you enjoy yourself while keeping safe! Today staying safe has a new hurdle. Erika Jordan can help with How Dating Will Be Forever Changed By Covid-19.

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