Swingers Podcast – Swinging with Carol and David

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January 11, 2021

Many of you are curious about the swinging life and want to know what it entails and if it’s for you. SO, Erika Jordan brought on Carol and David, the king and queen of swinging!

There are certain terms you should become familiar with right away. Phrases like “hard swap” essentially denote couples who are open to having full-on sexual relations with another couple. Or, a “unicorn” refers to a woman who attends swingers events alone – yes, this isn’t just for couples. Other terms to know are “soft swap,” which is basically the opposite of what a hard swap is and that everything is on the table except for sex. And, last but not least, the phrase is “the lifestyle” refers to the – you guessed it – the swinger lifestyle.

For life on the funny side check out Erika Jordan and Tenere Williams in The Girlfriend Experience Zoom Style. For the very creative this may work for swinging also.

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Become a Sexpert in Three Steps

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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January 11, 2021

by Dr. Ava Cadell

Have you always been interested in finding out more about love, sex, and relationships?

Are comfortable talking about intimate topics?

Do you want a better sex life?

Would you like to help others to have more intimacy?

If you answered yes to at least three of these questions, then you’ll love the three steps to becoming a Master Sexpert.

Step One

What is your story?

What do you want to do to help make the world a more loving and sexier place?

What are the things you enjoy doing and are good at that can help improve the quality of people’s lives?

Empower yourself by identifying all of your unique qualities that will make you a successful Sexpert!

First begin with your story: For example, my story started with a revolution in my country, so I was smuggled out and left in an orphanage where nuns filled my head with guilt and shame about my body, so I had low self-esteem and that led to abusive relationships. It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom that I realized I needed to learn about love, relationships and sex so that I could find a healthy relationship for myself.

After I did learn about sex positivity and I felt more confident, it led me to finding true love. Feeling empowered, I knew it was my mission to help people to overcome their guilt and shame, and I began my career as a Sexpert by earning a Doctorate in Sexology from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. After my graduation, I decided to open up my own online university at www.LoveUniv.com and created the Master Sexpert Certification program with courses that I wished I had learned more about, such as Fantasies and Role-Playing, Boundaries and Taboos, Erotic Massage and the G-spot.

My qualities included non-judgement and empathy, both mandatory if you want to become a successful Sexpert!

Step Two

Visualize your ideal clients.

Who is your target audience?

What are some of the problems you can help them with as a Sexpert.

What can you talk about passionately?

You have a lot of options to pursue as a Sexpert, including an exciting career as a sex blogger and author, media Sexpert, global speaker, pleasure party consultant, researcher, producer of instructional sex educational videos and pleasure products, spokesperson for adult toys and a private coaching practice.

For me, I knew my clients would include people who needed help learning how to love themselves, and people looking for healthy relationships so they could experience sexual satisfaction. I also felt confident I could help couples with their issues because I was married, and they could relate to me. So, I started my private practice, then I built my website sexpert.com, wrote blogs and books, and began my speaking career by lecturing at the Learning Annex.

Step Three

The Sky’s the limit.

Once you have your Master Sexpert Certificate, anything is possible! Share your talents and help change the vibration of the planet to make the world a more loving place. LU offers personal mentoring for students who need help with their career from Tamara Bell, a graduate from 2008 who is now the Ambassador of Students. She is available to help students before enrollment, to them find the best program for them, during studies to help students pass their final exam and after graduation to help students reach their goals.

I surpassed my career goals as a Sexpert with eleven published books, a sex column in Penthouse magazine, wrote and narrated 13 instructional videos, invented an adult toy called the TriGasm and a Tantric game for lovers, I lectured in four continents and did masses of media. If I can do it, from my humble beginnings, so can you!

Many graduates of Loveology University have thriving careers, such as Erika Jordan, a Certified Love Coach, NLP and ACE Certified Health Coach with her own course for men, entitled The Art of Pickup. https://www.playmatepickup.com/

The sky is the limit if you want to be in the public eye, as I experienced with my career. And the good news is that there’s room for all of us. The world needs more love!

I did two TV pilots called Sexperts, the first one was with Dr. Diana Wiley and Sharon Mitchell.

The second one was with my friend and colleague Dr. Hernando Chaves.

In 2015 I become Sexpert of the Year, which I was proud of as it validated my work!

Sexperts Dr. Cat Meyer, Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce, Miyoko Fujimori and Symon Murray attended the Sexual Health Expo, where I gave Dr. Ruth Westheimer a lifetime achievement award and we promoted our Sexycises for Intimacy video and workshops: https://sexycises.com/

If you’re ready to take the next step in working towards a successful Sexpert career watch Erika Jordan’s video below:

Enroll in Loveology University now Loveology University’s Master Sexpert course

Dr. Ava’s Top 11 Quickie Tips for Couples to Spice it Up!

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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January 6, 2021

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Happy New Year 2021!

As with any new year, we often make resolutions to create new practices and healthy habits to follow for the coming year. This year, why not make your love life with your significant other a priority by adding some of my quickie tips as a part of your new year’s sexual wellness practices!

1. Share Your Desires With Your Lover

Do you know how to share your favorite sexual activities with your partner?

TO DO: Make a list of 10 sexual activities, then prioritize them in order of arousal and show the list to your lover. For example: kissing, receiving oral sex, mutual masturbation, using sex toys, quickies, role-playing, watching porn, missionary position, 69, anal. If you don’t already know what turns you on, you won’t be able to communicate your needs, wants and desires to your lover. They can’t read your mind, so turn it into a sexy revelation.

2. Please Your Lover’s G-spot

Both men and women have an internal erogenous zone that can lead to mind blowing orgasms when stimulated. To stimulate her G-spot, insert a lubricated finger and curl it upward in a “come here” motion with your palm facing upward. Imagine a small clock inside her sacred space and aim your finger up between 11 and 1 o’clock (with 12:00 pointing towards her navel), then gently tap, tap, tap and ask your lover for feedback. Use the same directions for finding the male G-spot, also known as his prostate, but insert your finger into his back door and feel for a chestnut-sized gland. Please your lover by exploring all of their internal and external erogenous zones to heighten sexual arousal and satisfaction.

3. Find His Million Dollar Point

Do you know how to make your man feel like a million dollars?

TO DO: Find his Million Dollar Point by slowly sliding your fingers up and down the perineum (the landing strip between his anus to his testicles). Feel for a small indentation the size of a pea midway and gently press inward with your thumbs. This area is called the Million Dollar Point in Taoism and many men are able to feel their prostate gland through this point. Stimulating it can result in an earth-shattering, mind-blowing orgasm for him!

4. Don’t Forget the Feet!

Do you know how to worship your lover’s feet?

TO DO: Incorporate foot play into lovemaking, as it can foster intimacy and trust. Feet are an important erogenous zone with a tremendous number of very sensitive nerve endings. Pay attention to your lover’s feet with an erotic foot bath and massage, adding your favorite aromatherapy oil or lotion to keep things lubricated. Kiss, caress, lick or suck their toes to discover sensitive spots. Toe worshipping is known as “Shrimping.”

5. Steal A Kiss

It’s sometimes hard to find time alone with your partner during the holidays. Whether it’s the kids home from school or your in-laws hanging around for too long, kisses from your partner can be hard to come by! It’s also true that kissing is the first sexual activity to diminish when couples are growing apart. This is usually because resentment sets in and sexual chemistry turns off. Keep the juices flowing with a daily dose of kissing!

Kiss your lover at least twice a day in the morning and at night but make your smooches last for at least 12 seconds! This is a sure way to maintain passion and intimacy in your relationship. You can get away from the crowd for 12 seconds, right?

6. Scents That Boost Your Sex Drive

You can rev up your sex drive with the help of certain sexy scents such as the aroma of cinnamon, popcorn, pumpkin pie or doughnuts for your man.

Women get turned on by the smell of melon, chocolate, oranges and fresh bread. So, prepare some of these aphrodisiacs before you make love to enhance your sexual experience. There is scientific evidence that they can increase blood flow to the sexual organs.

7. Risky Sex Can Boost Your Sex Drive

Do you know that having sex in risky places can boost your sex drive?

Surprise your lover by making a date to have sex in a new place like the pool, on a secluded beach, in the woods, in the backseat of a car, on a boat, in a store dressing room, in the highest seats at a sports game, in a restaurant restroom, on the kitchen counter or even during a thunderstorm, just so long as it’s exciting and erotic.

If you are in public, be careful not to get caught, as public sex is illegal.

8. Sexy Video Gift Idea

Are you stumped for a perfect gift for your lover this year?

Make a personalized video for your lover to watch of you expressing all the things you love about him/her physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually and even spiritually. You can share your feelings by describing the best day you spent together or reveal some of the fantasies you would like to do with your lover in the future. Believe me, this will be the most memorable gift they get!

9. Sexy Wish Exchange

Exchange your wish list of three things that could heighten a romantic, sensual and sexual experience for you with your lover.

Start by saying, I wish you, I wish we, or I wish I

For Example:

“I wish you would give me one of those sexy massages you do so well.”
“I wish we could have more quickies during the week.”
“I wish I could have my orgasm first while you give me oral.”

Then make each others wishes come true by choosing one wish from each others list right away, make another wish come true within 7 days and make the third wish come true within 30 days.

10. Never Negotiate Naked

I’ve been saying Never Negotiate Naked for years now, but I must have picked it up somewhere along the way in my sexological journey.

When we’re in the heat of the moment – clothes are flying off, kissing, touching, heavy breathing – it’s delicious. Everything is so intense. It has to happen RIGHT NOW or you will burst. It’s also a time when we aren’t thinking very clearly. Which is why it’s helpful to negotiate before the action begins. State your intentions. Talk about your safer-sex practices and preferences. Perhaps a Yes-No-Maybe sort of boundaries and limits discussion. To really reduce the pressure, do this in a completely non-sexual setting. Sure, it might get you all hot & bothered as you talk (That’s great!), but this way you can be as clear-headed as possible while negotiating your play.

11. An Orgasm A Day

Do you know an Orgasm a Day Keeps the Doctor Away?

TO DO: For your optimum health, have sex or masturbate at least 2 times a week! For men, regular orgasms may help prevent prostate cancer and for women, orgasms increase blood flow to their sexual organs keeping them in good working order. Orgasms can also relieve stress, help with a good night’s sleep as a natural tranquilizer and release feel good endorphins that can alleviate pain.

Final Words!

I hope you enjoyed these easy “quickie” tips that you can implement in your relationship and time of the year!

There Are More Than Two Genders

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Erika Jordan

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December 13, 2020

Newsflash! There are more than 2 types of gender.

I felt the need to clarify after encountering numerous videos pointing to text that says, “there are only 2 genders.” This misinformation is dismissive of real live human beings who just happen to not fit into our societal gender norms.

There are many different gender identities. Such as male, female, transgender, gender neutral, non-binary, agender, pangender, genderqueer, two-spirit, third gender etc. But first let’s talk about your definition of gender?

What’s a male? Anyone who has a penis? What 1s a person who was born with ovaries and a penis?

Some people conclude XY chromosome means male and XX chromosome means female. Well then what about XXY chromosomes or XXXY?

Whatever your definition of male or female it is simply your interpretation. It is wrong to not accept something simply because you do not fully understand it. Our societies need to force people into male or female is not universal. Australia recognizes a third gender, in South Asia they call the third gender hijra.

Intersex is a term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with sexual anatomy or a reproductive system that doesn’t ft the typical definition of male or female. 1-2 out of 100 people are born intersex. There are more intersex individuals than red heads and we would not think to deny their existence. Our closed mindedness not only refuses to acknowledge the existence of over 70 million people in the world. But we shame them and attempt to force them into choosing male or female. In an attempt to make their child “normal” some parents even opt for surgery that can create irreversible physical and psychological harm.

If a person is born with XXY chromosomes or XXXY it does not necessarily result in a condition where there is discrepancy between internal and external genitalia. There might be problems with sex hormone levels, sperm count, overall sexual development, or altered number of sex chromosomes. A person could go their entire life not knowing they do not fit into the gender norm.

The people who deny the existence of a third gender, often consider themselves conservative and religious implying that God has a plan. And yet somehow messed up with anyone who does not fit neatly into the male or female category. Other cultures celebrate the third gender. Perhaps they have a perspective that the average person can’t understand. Whatever the case may be at the very least we should all acknowledge that there are more than two genders. This is not an opinion this is based on facts. People that don’t fit into the gender norm deserve to be acknowledged and accepted the way they are.

If this is still confusing time to go back and let Erika Jordan help. Let us explore the differences in the two most common genders in Men and Women Are Different.

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

Erika Jordan

Certified Love Coach, NLP Practitioner

Men and Women Are Different: How to Communicate About Sex

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Erika Jordan

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November 27, 2020

Men and women are so different they seem to come from different planets. Or at least that is what John Grey the author of the New York Times best seller, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus claims. Embracing and accepting our differences will help us maintain healthy relationships.

But what does this mean? Men are able to focus on narrow issues while blocking out unrelated information and distractions. Women naturally see everyday things from a broader, “big-picture” vantage point. We can all recall walking by a couple where the woman is chatting away and guy is seemingly staring into space. The man might really care for her but just can’t tune in to all the mind numbing details. Men prefer to get to the point quickly instead of walking around the point in circles.

Instead of getting into the complex mind of a female, I will simply point out five major points. That if employed will help you communicate much better with women.

1: I don’t know, what do you want to do? We all hate this question but it is one that is asked quite often. When she asks you a question, it is best to always have an answer. Even if you have no preference where to eat just say the first place that pops into your mind. Always having an answer sets a tone and creates a pattern that has her seeing you as the solution man and a man who cares. Don’t pretend to know more than you do. A lie is visible from space. I will look into that is a viable answer. I have heard many times that a woman’s favorite three words is some form of “I’ve got this”.

2: Communication not interrogation. You have heard people say if you get her talking about herself she will feel like she is having a good time and connecting with you. This is true but it doesn’t mean interrogate her. Asking her a steady stream of questions makes her feel like you are genuinely interested in her. Contribute to the conversation and make sure you relate to her and evoke emotion. Make sure that you ask open ended questions that require more than one word as a response and can turn into a conversation. “What do you like about living in Los Angeles?”

3: Learning to drive a woman. If you want something to change in the relationship it is going to require time. Take time as you sit together, cook together, eat together, travel together to voice your dissatisfaction with certain aspects of the relationship. Just do it in a calm fashion. Tone of voice is about half of the communication so pay attention to your tone. Reassure her that you are happy (if you are) with the overall relationship. You just want one or two things to change. When she has the mic be an active listener, don’t look around or just sit there, and don’t say “uh uh” every few seconds. Watch her body language, tone and proceed like they taught us in drivers ed. IPDE. Identify, predict, decide and execute.

4: No unnecessary apology. Most women I know think a man comes off as a wimp when he starts every sentence off with “I’m sorry.” Don’t apologize for not agreeing with her. Don’t apologize for wanting to watch the game (unless it’s during her grandmothers funeral). Not only will you over-use “sorry” but it will not have the same impact when you really mean it.

5: Don’t argue with crazy. When I say “Don’t argue with crazy.” I mean that to a woman, she’s not being crazy at the moment. Even though every other person on this earth would clearly side with your opinion. They are what they are and you attempting to rationalize or solve the problem isn’t always the right thing to do. If she starts crying during a cat commercial because the cat is “just so fluffy,” the smart thing to do is simply put your arm around her and attempt to put yourself in her shoes. Is she suffering from PMS, did her cat just die, or did she forget to take her meds? Regardless of where she is on the crazy scale the right way to deal with something you see is illogical or “crazy” is to sympathize with it and bring some humor into the situation if possible to lighten the mood.

Since much of communication is listening time to review the previous post from Erika Jordan, How To Listen To A Woman.

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How To Listen To A Woman

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Erika Jordan

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November 13, 2020

Let’s talk about listening.

I know men are often overwhelmed when listening to a female. They feel obligated to fix all of her problems. Sure it would be great if you could fix all of her problems however most women see conversation as a productive end in and of itself. What does that mean that means that if she feels sufficiently heard she doesn’t necessarily need to take it any further. The fact that she has been listen to soothe her anxieties and dolls the pangs of negative feelings.

Sharing with someone who understands and loves her heels her from the inside. This equips her with the emotional tools necessary to handle the trials of the outside world. Women tend to understand the emotional parts of messages more effectively than men. This is probably because research indicates that women process messages on both sides of the brain more so than men. So men tend to process more on the left side of the brain and emotional information is processed on the right.

Here are a few listening tips:

1. Women feel the need to express everything, I mean everything, in order to provide you with the most information about the situation, please be patient. Women often feel that men don’t care about what they are saying due to the lack of reaction, so be involved. Don’t assume what they are saying is not important because the subject is not important to you. If she is taking the time to talk about it, she wants you to take the time to listen to her.

2. Find the perfect balance between logic, empathy and our emotions. What is really happening? Why is she telling you to do the dishes. Does she feel disrespected or unappreciated? Put yourself in her shoes.

3. Check your emotions. Why are you so angry that she’s asking you to do the dishes. Why did you react that way. Taking a moment to rise above the situation and view it neutrally will transform your world.

Communication is the most important thing in any relationship. Improving your communication skills will improve every area of your life. From making you more successful in business to improving family relations and increasing intimacy with your significant other.

It requires work to keep your relationship strong. After the initial serotonin and oxytocin rush wears off you’re left with feelings of boredom. It’s a normal transition because everything seems boring compared to that new relationship energy. You might not be able to maintain the excitement you felt during the first few weeks but much like cocaine you can continuously pursue that initial buzz but no amount of cocaine will get you there. You have to find a buzz you can sustain (like eating healthy and getting adequate sleep.) If you want a relationship to last you have to be aware of the inevitable ups and downs and be able to adjust accordingly.

Communication and listening is a primary skill for a successful relationship. For more on needed skills let Erika Jordan guide you with Advice For Men Skills.

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

Safe Sex With Erika Jordan: Condoms, & STDs

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Erika Jordan

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November 7, 2020

Let’s have an orgy! Now that i have your attention let’s talk about safe sex! Having sex with only one partner who only has sex with you when neither of you has a sexually transmitted infection is believed to be safe. However many health care professionals believe there really is no such thing as safe sex. They believe the only way to be truly safe is not to have sex because all forms of sexual contact carry some risk.

Now that may be true but there’s risk involved each time you drive a car but we’re still going places, am I right?

Kissing is thought to be a safe activity, but herpes can be spread that way.

Condoms can protect against stis however. They aren’t a sure thing, so, it is safer to limit your sexual activity to only one partner who’s having sex with only you to reduce exposure. to disease-causing organisms.

Follow these guidelines which may provide for safer sex:

Think twice before beginning sexual relations with a new partner.
Discuss past partners history of stis and drug use use condoms every time you have sex
Choose a male condom made of latex or polyurethane condoms instead of natural material condoms.
Use polyurethane if you’re allergic to latex.
Female condoms are made of polyurethane.
The CDC recommends that latex condoms to help prevent sexual transmission of hiv.
For oral sex help protect your mouth by having your partner use a condo
Women should not douche after intercourse it does not protect against stis and it could spread an infection further into the reproductive trac
Have regular pap tests pelvic exams and periodic tests for stis.
There’s a reason for foreplay and it’s not just to get your partner in the mood! Explore your partner’s body look for signs of a sore, blister, rash or discharge!
Check your own body frequently for signs of an STI.

You might be thinking about fluid bonding.

It might not be fun to talk about but it definitely is necessary. Today world renowned love coach, Erika Jordan dives into safe sex and what you need to do to ensure you enjoy yourself while keeping safe! Today staying safe has a new hurdle. Erika Jordan can help with How Dating Will Be Forever Changed By Covid-19.

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

Go Out And Get That Writing Job, Bucko!

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Ralph Greco

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November 4, 2020

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I am the last guy to toot my own horn or even go so far as to let anyone know I exist. This is why I get such a kick out of playwrighting (this theatre in NJ being my favorite spot where my plays have been produced). I can watch other people say my words, saunter around the stage in a world of my creating and sit back (usually in the booth with the sound and light crew) enjoying from afar. Unless there is an author Q&A, all anybody knows about me is the very brief bio blurb I allow in the theater’s nightly program.

I just ‘do the words’, which is perfectly fine by me.

In my other life, I am a recording and occasional performing musician. Also, as you know, M. Christian and I teach at kink conventions now and again. So, I have no problem, and in fact, enjoy getting up in front of folks to occasionally making an ass of myself if this situation or work warrants it.

It’s just that I’m not so good at self-promotion or even pursuing work… although, as a freelancer I know I damn well should be.

Years ago, for the website, www.shortandsweet.com, I interviewed the fantastic actor, Frankie Faison, a nicer guy you’d never meet. He was promoting a movie at the time, and I was allowed about fifteen minutes with the guy. Besides playing “Barney” in various Silence of The Lambs, movies, he was also in one of my favorite all-time flicks, the Keith Gordon directed film version of dearly-departed Kurt Vonnegut’s Mother Night. In talking with Mr. Faison, he told me that although he was a working actor with a good amount of work to his credit and more coming, he was always looking for more.

Let that be a lesson to you and me.

I think I’m getting better at pushing myself, though. I don’t rightly know why or even when a sudden burst of hutzpah will take me, and I wish it took me more often, but I do know I am getting better at putting myself out there.

Just recently, I landed a client in Ukraine, far from my wild NJ suburban environs, by cold calling (cold emailing actually). I have never actually done this before, but desperate times and all that… although, again, as a freelancer, all times are desperate. In this case, I reached out because I happen to receive a weekly newsletter email from this adult toy company and figured, how could it hurt to just say hello and introduce myself, see if, indeed, they might be looking for copywriters.

It took months though to get an interview/consideration/manage a Skype call with the woman who I was emailing back and forth with, and the CEO of the company. As it probably happened for a lot of us, and might still be happening for a lot of us, the pandemic shut these good folks down for a bit, or at least for considering any new employees. Since I had inserted myself unsolicited into their world, and there had been a slow courtship of ‘Do we need this guy?’ ‘Maybe we do indeed need this guy?’ ‘How do we facilitate even considering this guy?’ I waited patiently over the two-months it took to manage that Skype call. Sure, I checked in via email, and I readied further links had they wanted them, but it really came down to the proverbial ‘Don’t call us, we’ll call you.’

The lessons I learned?

1.) Do indeed reach out, even if there is no actual job posting. You might just hit someone at the very moment they are looking for what you do, without maybe, even them truly considering needing someone to do what you do.

And 2.) Stay persistent but do not cross over into annoying. Admittedly, this is not always a balance you can manage or even determine the parameters of. Still, these days with email, Skype, and digital carrier pigeon, you can maintain a respectful ‘just-checking-in’ distance.

The application of these lessons worked for me in this one instance, and I think they might work again.

I’ll add to this advice for those jobs you already have or those people you do occasional work for… keep on them as well. I am lucky to have seen a few articles published here, at Hot Movies. I hope to keep writing for them for a long time to come, and as long as I do, I will keep in touch with my contact there, as much for the work as to… well… keep in touch.

Sure, it makes it easier when your contact person, employer, editor, etc. happens to be a very nice person (as my contact at Hot Movies is,) but it’s good business to touch base every so often, stay on your contact’s radar, to say ‘hi, how you doin?’ in these times when it so easy to keep in touch.

There’s a line from the movie Glengarry Glen Ross I have morphed to fit my philosophy when it comes now to looking/pursuing work. In the film, Alex Baldwin’s character berates the insurance salesman with “Always be closing,” I feel, for us freelance writers, we should “Always be looking.”

I just have to learn to do this more. Maybe you should too?

Geeky Games for Sexy Nights: Role-Playing Done Right!

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The Frisky Fairy

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October 28, 2020

Geeky Games for Sexy Nights: Role-Playing Done Right!

With Halloween just around the corner, now is the time people start thinking about the sexiest ways to bring something fun to your bedroom. When it comes to your role-playing, whether you’re a Friday night lover, or a Saturday gamer, take some Do’s and Don’ts from the geek community and be prepared to role-play like you never have before!

Do brainstorm with your partner(s).

Find out what makes your partner tick! Do they have a particular character they would love to have in the bedroom? Does the idea of a sexy role-play scenario make them tremble? Brainstorm some props, roles, and costumes you want to try, and make yourself a shopping list! Be sure to also talk about the things that you don’t want to try, and make sure that you are letting your partner know if something is off limits. For some suggestions, check out this fantasy Halloween post!

Don’t let yourself get stuck into one role!

Many times, people who enjoy role-playing, can get stuck in a specific role. The beauty of fantasies, is that they become an excellent way to try new things, and to encourage a switching of roles. So feel free to try experimenting with your roles. Perhaps you are typically equal with your partner(s), maybe you can experiment with a little soft dominance and submission. Make sure you do your research with books like BDSM 101! If you like, you can even try playing with gender roles and exploring things that are out of the norm for you. Role-playing can be an excellent time to start toying with the idea of pegging, or acting out fantasies!

Do play around with costumes, props, and toys.

If you’re playing a naughty housekeeper, dress the part with a feather duster. If you have one that is clean, you can even use it to tickle your partner(s). Are you playing a sexy cowhand? get a little bit of rope to lasso your partner(s) in. You can even use that rope later to practice your bondage skills! Don’t be afraid to role-play with costume pieces you didn’t think of! Clark Kent’s tie can easily become a blindfold when he’s Superman. You can absolutely make use of old costumes, new costumes, and even your own closet for role play!

Don’t allow your body type or gender to decide what you role-play.

If you’re feeling sexy in what you’re wearing, or you are enjoying your fantasies and role-play with your partner(s) don’t allow your body to get in the way of that! If you want to be a male bodied Wonder Woman, do it! Feel free to rock that Lara Croft costume regardless of your body type. The best thing about role playing is that it doesn’t have to be for anyone else but you. You can enjoy the fantasies, the acting, and the scenarios without needing approval from anyone. So go ahead and pick up that pirate hat, and enjoy yourself!

Do act out your favorite fantasies!

Role-playing is an excellent way to try out new things without a lot of commitment. Are you feeling a bit more submissive, and want your partner to take the reins? Ask them! If you want to role-play that you’re a naughty school student, and your partner is a teacher, don’t be afraid to enjoy it. Between consenting adults, the taboo can include extraordinary pleasure. It is important though to respect your partner’s boundaries of comfort, and don’t push them into trying something that makes them feel uncomfortable!

Don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do.

Just because you have a specific fantasy doesn’t mean you want to act it out, and that is okay! It’s okay to have boundaries regarding what you’re willing to or not willing to do. It’s also okay to allow those boundaries to change. Sexuality is fluid and flexible, and allows for change and growth. If you were okay with something and then change your mind, that is absolutely allowed. Making sure you check in with your partner regularly to ensure that they are also enjoying themselves is important too. I recommend trying a Yes/No/Maybe list with your partner to outline things that you like, dislike, and want to try! Check out this Yes/No/Maybe list for some ideas!

Do get into the mindset.

If getting into a dominant character for your means painting your nails black and layering on the dark eyeliner, do it. If in order to really role-play a character you need to act like that character all day, give it a shot! There’s no script to follow in erotic role-playing, and no one to tell you that you’re doing it wrong. You get to decide how your role-play scenes go and what makes you feel good when playing them! Make sure you are in the right space for a role-play, and if you’re not feeling it that night, let your partner know that you’d rather try something else.

Don’t be afraid to go all out.

If you fantasize about giving a sexy massage with a happy ending? Pick up some of your favorite massage oil (may I recommend Southern Butter) and set up your room. Making the bed, setting out towels for your partner to lay on, and playing relaxing music. Really make sure to set the mood for your scene. If you’re Role-playing an office assistant and an employer, clean up your desk, and make sure you dress the part!

Whatever you’re doing, whether you’re role-playing a character, a part, a role, or simply dressing up in a costume, give it your all. Try to explore new things, but at the end of the day, make sure you don’t get so wrapped up in the role-play that you forget to have fun!

Top 10 Easy Sexy Halloween Costumes

By

Janet Lovelace

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October 20, 2020

We’re more than halfway through October, and you little hot thing might have completely forgotten about Halloween! Dressing up might sound like something only trick-or-treaters might do, but attending a party in a very adult costume could prove for some equally very adult fun! (Wink!)

For anyone who’s scrambling for a last-minute look or just taking the easy sexy way, these ten hot Halloween looks from our friends at Yandy.com are a must-add-to-cart! Maybe this time, buy more than one so you’ve got a go-to for next year, too.

Fine Like Wine

Fancy being subordinate to a monarch? This sequin romper is gorgeously detailed with gold trimming, and adorned all over with deep purple sequins and mesh. To top it all off, Yandy’s Fine Like Wine comes with a sophisticated crown of the best grapes that money can buy. Shoes aren’t included, however, so make sure you pair it with a lovely metallic stiletto for a finishing touch. This costume might not be taking anything from pop culture, but it sure will be an iconic look even centuries after that Halloween party.

Cara Mia Mistress

Nothing says sexy more than leather. Channel your inner Morticia Addams and go on the prowl for the mon cheri to your cara mia on Halloween night. The costume turns you into a macabre Victorian lady of the house, featuring a high-slitted dress that accentuates your curves and elongates your figure. Yandy also updates it with a little bit of kink, adding some leather crisscrosses here and there to make it a little more delicious and dangerous. (The one right on the cleavage of the deep neckline is exceptionally so!) Complete the look with some styling details, from the hair, the makeup, the red nails, some quaint rings, and oh, throw in a red rose as a prop, too!

Little Red

Black not your thing? Go looking for the big bad wolf in this classic red costume. Fairytales can definitely be sexy, especially with a sweetheart neckline and a short ruffled skirt that makes you look good enough to eat. The embroidered detailing on the black bodice really steals the show, making it a step up from your typical off-the-rack Halloween costumes, but Yandy makes it a big deal to keep it well within sexy lingerie with the design and materials. The costume comes with the red satin cape, but the shoes and stockings aren’t included. Match it with cute thigh-highs and some school shoes, and a picnic basket full of condoms… You know, for fornicating frolicking through the forest.

French Maid

Here’s a four-piece lace-trimmed costume that’s sure to get anyone in the mood. The French maid has gone down as one of the most recognizable sex symbols, and you can live out your international sex kitten dreams for a night thanks to Yandy. It features the maid outfit adorned with lace trimming, with matching accessories like the choker, black leg garter, and the feather duster. The headpiece, however, isn’t included, but you can easily swap in a headband with some lace detailing to match.

Bad Habit Nun

The Bad Habit Nun is equal parts forbidden fruit, slutty, and badass. If you’ve been binging on the Warrior Nun, you might get inspired to go as a hot nun for Halloween. With cross details in black and gold all over, you’ll definitely get them to confess all their secrets to you. The high-neckline features a keyhole to show off two of your best assets, and the tulip skirt paired with the pure white stockings highlight your heaven-sent thighs. The fingerless gloves are also a great addition, making it a little more on the chic side thanks to Yandy.

Beetle Bombshell

For the film geeks, you know what to do: say her name three times, and the bombshell trickster will appear! This costume from Yandy is just as fun as it is sexy, with a chic blazer in black and white stripes accented with luminescent moss and beetle details. The black-tie and purple collar also help draw attention to the neckline! To make sure it doesn’t go full-fledged Halloween costume, try to tone down on the makeup. You can even style your hair a little differently, maybe with a modern twist since platinum white is always in fashion.

Wicked Vampire

Another classic costume that Yandy put a lingerie spin on is the Wicked Vampire costume. It mixes lace with luxurious velvet, showing all the skin that your vampire fellow can bite into. The deep neckline also features your neck and cleavage with criss-cross straps. The matching waist cincher isn’t all aesthetic, it’ll also help you curve out your body for that immortally stunning look. Oh, and don’t forget to complete the look with a vampy red lipstick and prosthetic fangs!

Sailor’s Delight

If you’re more into looking cute while being sexy, cop this adorable Sailor’s Delight from Yandy. It’s a no-frills, no-fuss outfit: a red, white, and blue mini-dress with some anchors and stars printed on. The red bow on the neckline is the cherry on top!

All Jazzed Up

Take it back to the Roaring 20’s with an extremely sexy flapper girl costume. Yandy’s All Jazzed Up costume comes with a navy blue stretch sequin romper with a fringe skirt to put some oomph into your dance moves. The plunging neckline is trimmed with faux gold diamond, ending in a criss-cross straps below the bust line. It also comes with a sequin feather fascinator to go on top of your finger wave bob! Other accessories aren’t included though, so you’ll have to be getting that pearl necklace in another way…

Boarding School Flirt

You don’t have to be a bad student to be a naughty one, but if you’ve gotten a school-girl crush on a hot young teacher before then this costume is perfect! The Boarding School Flirt is a three-piece outfit, including a dress that mimics a plaid-pleated skirt school uniform, plaid necktie, and matching plaid hair bows. Pair this classic costume from Yandy with thigh-high white socks and black high-heels to elevate it to sexy student. They also have quite a number of variations of this, so you can check out what fits your body best!

Whatever you end up choosing from Yandy’s awesome collection of easy and sexy Halloween costumes, make sure you’ve got the moves to back all that sexiness up in bed! Check out our sex advice and sex education articles to make sure you have as much fun dressing up as you do getting naked.

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The lessons I learned?

Do brainstorm with your partner(s).

Don’t let yourself get stuck into one role!

Do play around with costumes, props, and toys.

Don’t allow your body type or gender to decide what you role-play.

Do act out your favorite fantasies!

Don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do.

Do get into the mindset.

Don’t be afraid to go all out.

Fine Like Wine

Cara Mia Mistress

Little Red

French Maid

Bad Habit Nun

Beetle Bombshell

Wicked Vampire

Sailor’s Delight

All Jazzed Up

Boarding School Flirt

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