Best Oral Sex Tips on a Vulva

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March 25, 2021

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In some ways, this is the hardest thing for me to write since I’ve never gone down on a woman, but oral sex is one of the best things in life … when it’s done right. I’ve had some bad oral sex, too, but I don’t want to knock those guys. After all, it’s not like there are classes on cunnilingus (or at least none that I know of) and I know how you guys are about asking for directions. Even if your woman tells you what she likes, sometimes verbal communication is the furthest thing from your mind when hormones have taken over.

Build Anticipation

In most cases, the pussy is the last thing you want to play with during foreplay. I know, most men would be thrilled if a woman comes right up to him, unzips his pants, and immediately gets to the business of sucking his cock. But most women need to have their minds and bodies warmed up before you plunge your tongue down below. Build anticipation by leading a trail of kisses from her lips and down her neck, sternum and belly. Take your time teasing her by swirling your tongue in her belly button. If you start from the bottom, caress, kiss and lick your way slowly up the insides of her thighs.

Start Softly and Slowly

Whatever you do, don’t rip into her labia majora (the outer lips) and the labia minora (the inner lips) like a bag of potato chips. The inner lips are very delicate and packed with nerve endings. Short, slow licks with the tip of your tongue will get her wetter and feel tingly quicker than devouring her like Larry the Cable Guy at an all-you-can-eat country buffet. Gradually work up to giving her longer and broader strokes with the palate (flat end) of your tongue. Pay attention to the way she moans, squirms between your cheeks, and raises her hips before you start with more aggressive tongue and mouth action.

Licking Her Clit

Just because her clit can get as hard as a pebble doesn’t mean that it can take a pounding. Suck on it softly. Flick it lightly and quickly with the tip of your tongue as if it’s a wing of a hummingbird. Barely part your lips and blow on it. Blowing on it up and down and back and forth is even better.

Match Your Mounts

Make sure your mount is properly placed on her pussy. A man’s (or woman’s, if she’s giving) mount is the area of his upper lip just above his teeth. A woman’s mount is the center of the pubic bone. You’ll know when you have it right; it’s a natural fit and it allows you to get to all the places you need to be.

Getting in Deep

In some ways, a man’s tongue can feel more exciting than his penis. Don’t just stick your tongue inside of her vagina; play with it. Push it in and out like you’re fucking her. Dart it in as far as it can go. Swirl or circle your tongue around her inner walls. Wiggle the tip of your tongue around as if you’re tickling her when you’re lapping up her love juices.

Change Things Up

Don’t just stick to one area or one technique. Change things up between clit, labia and vaginal play. Go faster. Go Slower. Don’t forget to let your fingers to some of the caressing, fondling and prodding some of the time. Rub her clit in a circular motion.

Other Techniques

Cup your mouth over her vulva when you’ve got your tongue inside of her. Suck on it as if your mouth is a giant suction cup.

Place the flat end of your tongue on her vulva and over her labia and let her ride your tongue.

Pull your tongue back and then lick her senseless with long and fast diagonal strokes with quick bursts of energy. Pull your tongue back again and return to her pussy with a still tongue until she pants and begs for more.

Invest in a vibrating tongue ring.

Savor; Don’t Gnaw

Whatever technique you’re using, use finesse. Think of eating pussy like licking an ice cream cone or sucking on a marshmallow. It’s not a hamburger, and it’s certainly not beef jerky. And teeth have no role in savoring this delicacy.

Stay Hydrated

Keep your mouth, lips and tongue moist by keeping a glass of water on the nightstand in case you need it, especially if you have been drinking alcohol or smoking weed. Dry mouth can be a real deal breaker both for her and you.

Show Your Enthusiasm

Even if you don’t say how much you enjoy going down on her, she can tell by the way you are totally into the act. If you’re going down on her just for the sake of getting it over or just to get her wet enough to fuck, she’ll sense that and chances are that you’ll be cheating yourself out of ultimate pleasure.

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Previously published in- http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/female-oral-sex-what-your-wife-or-girlfriend-probably-isnt-telling-you/

Dungeon Etiquette: How To Behave In A BDSM Playspace

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M.Christian

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March 24, 2021

Sure, things might be a tad … well, let’s call it what it is: scary right now, but we homo sapiens are quite the durable species and before you know it we’ll be all exiting our virus-induced isolation and once again be getting together for all kinds of group social interactions.

Including those, of course, of the sexual … and particularly kinky variety.

But whether it’s your first-time visit to your local BDSM party space or deciding to dip your leather or latex-clad toes into attending a kinky event you should be familiar with the etiquette of the scene: in short, how to behave yourself.

Before I get into that, though, I want to take a brief detour to explain why this is so important. Absolutely, being the best person you can be—polite, respectful, conscientious, and all that—is never a bad idea but in the BDSM world that’s even more important as the community prides itself on being quite good at self-policing.

While far from perfect, they actually do a pretty good job at it, too: calling out bad behavior and individuals both because they reflect purely on the community as a whole but more importantly because not to do so could put kinksters at risk—emotionally as well as physically.

Sound scary—particularly for newcomers? Well, kind of, but only in the best way as it’s in place for those extremely good reasons. But while you might be a bit nervous venturing into your first public dungeon or playspace don’t fret too much as being on your best behavior is actually quite easy.

To begin with, be upfront and direct about your kink experience level—or lack of one. There’s nothing ever wrong with telling people that you are new to this whole BDSM thing and, most of all, you are willing to listen and learn. What is wrong is pretending to be skilled when you aren’t or, worse yet, trying to hide ignorance behind an arrogant disguise.

A perfect example of this is wearing your dominant or submissive role outside of play. Until a scene actually starts, publicly or privately, everything beforehand should be done on nothing but an equal power level to make communication, and especially negotiation, as easy and comprehensive as possible: so, leave your persona at home until you actually get an opportunity to play and beforehand just be yourself.

Confused? Well, don’t be because the whole point of this is that if you don’t know something, or don’t know how to act appropriately, say so. Folks in the scene often love nothing better than to take a new person under their kinky wing and show them the ropes … and chains, and whips, and etc.

In fact, I personally recommend making some kinky friends who are familiar with the scene and how it operates before venturing into public play. That way, you can have someone there to help you out and also give you their own take on how to act appropriately.

While many dungeons and the like have their own unique rules, most of them have a few standards they ask their members to adhere to. The biggest of these has to be that you should never touch anyone, or anything, without clear permission to do so. This means no hugs, casual touches, or anything else involving contact without a clear sign that it’s okay.

And if you do accidentally touch someone or something then immediately apologize. Consent in the BDSM community is huge and if you can’t accept that, then you have no place in the community.

Also do try to at least dress for the part when you attend an event. No, I don’t mean the $5,000 leather outfit you’ve been itching to try out but don’t, for instance, show up in jeans and a t-shirt. Black, even if it’s just a simple top and a good pair of pants or skirt, is perfectly fine.

Another common faux pa newcomers commit when visiting a playspace is to wander through the play area and/or disrupt the scenes that are going on. While it is perfectly fine to take a brief stroll through the space to check it out, do not linger or come to close to anything happening. Similarly, speak no louder than a whisper—if you have to say something at all. Respect, again, is the watchword here: and lacking it could get you either sneered at or even kicked out of the space.

It’s also worth mentioning that you should leave your phone at home though if you have to have it nearby turn it off or mute it—and never check it while in the space.

This brings up another important point: one of privacy. Many people have to keep their BDSM activities out of their public lives and because of it the scene completely respects everyone’s right to privacy. This means that what you see at a party stays at a party and should never be discussed afterward unless it’s with someone who was also there. This is also extremely true should you encounter a person in “civilian” life you saw at an event: keep your yap shut.

Back to personal recommendations, I strongly suggest that if you are interested in public BDSM play you take things nice and slow: don’t come to your first event or space and expect to play but rather just to scope things out and get the lay of the land and, by all means, come with your kinky support friend who could help show you how things are done.

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Then, once you’ve got a handle on how things are done, you can think about actually getting into your own scene sometime. Libidos can definitely get into overdrive during your first outing but try to always keep in mind that there will be other events, other parties, other dungeons, and other opportunities to play unless, of course, you get over-eager and do something really stupid so the BDSM community door gets slammed in your face.

Summing up: there’s nothing wrong with being a newbie to the scene and it’s far better to be open about that than trying to be someone you are not. So ask polite and respectful questions, try your best to be kind and conscientious, listen when people give you advice and when you make a mistake, which everyone will do at one time or another, don’t get defensive or argumentative but instead sincerely apologize to those involved and, best of all, learn your lesson and move on.

Do this and the gates to the BDSM community will open wide and welcome you in with open arms: for parties, events, play spaces, and dungeons but, best of all, for the really fun adventures that often lay in more private areas.

Kink 101: A Beginner’s Guide to Creating Your Own BDSM Fantasy

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Domina Doll

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March 19, 2021

Welcome to this beginner’s guide to creating your very own BDSM fantasy. If you are curious (and excited!) about exploring different types of KINK activities, but don’t know where to start, this guide will give you lots of sexy ideas, tips and techniques to create your own “Fifty Shades” experience.

I know, you can thank me later 😉

The “Fifty Shades” Phenomena

Until quite recently, BDSM was something only for kinky folks, done in some scary dungeon in the middle of suburbia with a bunch of sexual deviants dressed in leather corsets wielding cat o’nine tail whips! (Okay we weren’t all deviant, just a bit perverted!).

But, BDSM is nothing new. People have been exploring their kinky fantasies since, well… like forever. And, while they may have been a bit taboo and done behind closed doors, kinky fantasies have always been a popular pastime, at least in our collective imaginations.

According to Nancy Friday, author of My Secret Garden (1973), women entertain many secret kinky fantasies, the most popular of which include: The Surrender of Control, Dominance & Submission and Spanking. For men, their top kinky fantasies range from Women in Authority (yes, those ladies in wielding the whips) and Cuckolding, to Dominance & Submission.

We’ve come a long way since 1973, and with the release of E.L. James popular erotic trilogy Fifty Shades in 2011, BDSM has become even more mainstream, taking hold of popular culture’s imagination. It is no wonder then that “vanilla” peeps worldwide have had both their curiosity and libidos piqued, desiring to bring the Fifty Shades fantasies into their own bedrooms to create their own “Red Room” of pain and pleasure.

The problem with that however, is that what you see and read in mainstream media is only fantasy, and while it may have been sexy onscreen, trying some of those activities at home may not turn out the way you expect. Bummer!

Let’s just say there is a right way to explore BDSM, and a wrong way. So, hopefully this guide will put you on the right track of exploring your kinky fantasies in a safe, sane and consensual fashion.

What is BDSM?

As you probably already know, BDSM is an acronym for Bondage & Discipline / Domination & Submission / Sadism & Masochism, which incorporates the type of activities that go into BDSM play. RACK (another kinky acronym), which means Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, is an alternative to the Safe, Sane and Consensual creed, meaning, you only do activities that are considered safe, sane, and consensual.

What is Consensual in BDSM?

In BDSM, all activities you do with your play partner must be consensual.

RACK’s principles sum this up best:

Risk-aware: All partners are well-informed of the risks involved in the proposed activity.
Consensual: In light of those risks, both or all partners have, of sound mind, offered preliminary consent to engage in said activity.
Kink: Said activity can be classified as alternative sex.

Therefore, at most BDSM play groups doing drugs or drinking alcohol is not permitted, as you can’t really consent when you are under the influence. Also, there are many activities that are off-limits including blood play, scat, asphyxiation, and sometimes even sex. However, these types of “edge-play” activities do take place in private settings, and everyone involved knows the risks.

Negotiating A Scene and Safe Words

To consent, partners negotiate what activities are permitted and which activities are hard limits. This is called “negotiating a scene”.

While it is not necessary to have a written contract (although many BDSM Kinksters do create a “Slave Contract”), a BDSM Checklist can inspire you to add different elements to your play you may not have thought about, as well as learn about activities you may want to avoid.

Here is an example of a BDSM checklist (MSWord Doc or Printable PDF) you can download and fill out for free courtesy of Loveology University.

Once you have your list of kinky things you want to try and your limits established, the boundaries for play are set… But, not in stone. Either partner can decide to stop play at any time if they feel it is crossing their limits, becoming unsafe, or for any other reason. They do this usually by using a Safe Word.

A safe word can be any word that stops all activities during a BDSM scene. Often, players will use the stop light method: Green for Go, Yellow for Slow Down or Check In, and Red for Stop. When a person says “Red”, play must be stopped immediately, and it is important to check in with the person to see if everything is okay. Sometimes this will end the scene, or, more often, players will switch to another activity.

In cases where a partner is gaged, other non-verbal cues can be used such as a safe drop: like dropping a set of keys, or using a dog clicker, hand signals, and other signs.

Respect Your Partner Boundaries

Of course, some things that top your kinky bucket list are going to be no-go zone, off-limit activities for your partner. What is important is that you establish boundaries early on in the relationship and stop when either of you feels uncomfortable. It is also important to go slow, especially at first, and check in often with your playmate to make sure everything is okay. This also allows you to tune into how your partner is feeling, learn what turns them on and how you can increase their pleasure.

Which, of course, is kind of the point.

Types of Kinky Activities

Kink includes a wide spectrum of activities that are almost always eroticized by the participants in some fashion. Many types of kinky activities can include — but are not limited to — forms of dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, bondage, sexual role-playing, sexual fetishism, sadomasochism, and power exchange, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream sexual interactions.

Dominance and Submission

Dominance and submission (or D/s) is essentially a powerplay dynamic between two people where one person is the dominant (taking the active role—a Dom or Domme or Top) and the other person is the submissive (taking the passive role—called subs or bottoms). A switch is someone who plays either role. D/s partners may engage in psychological, emotional, and/or physical dominance.

D/s activities may include bondage, giving and taking orders, punishment, forced chastity, cuckolding, breath control, puppy play, humiliation, objectification, forced servitude, kneeling, begging, wearing a collar and other activities. These activities do not necessarily involve pain, which is the realm of sadomasochism or SM.

Sadomasochism

Sadomasochism is giving and receiving of pain for pleasure. A Sadist enjoys inflicting pain, while a masochist enjoys receiving pain, often for sexual gratification. Activities that fall under the SM umbrella include spanking, whipping, percussion play, biting, scratching, CBT, breast torture, pussy torture, trampling, electrical play, play piercing and other similar activities.

Role-playing

Role-playing is when each partner takes on a usually complementary, but unequal, role in which they enact personas and sexual fantasies. Typically, one is the Top and one is the bottom, but these roles and activities are also interchangeable. Specific types of erotic role-play include age play, Doctor/nurse, Master/slave, Teacher/schoolgirl, puppy and pony-play, Goddess/worshipper, Punisher/victim, Boss/secretary as well as many others.

There is no limit to the types of roles you can play in BDSM scenes, so let your imagination be your muse.

Bondage

If you have ever had your arms held down during sex, then you have engaged in a type of bondage. Anything used to restrict you, could be considered bondage. The term “Bondage” describes the practice of restraining for pleasure. Types of bondage restraints include rope, handcuffs, spreader bars, collars and even suspension.

Another more “extreme” type of bondage is mummification in which someone is wrapped in plastic wrap or placed in bondage bags. Muzzles, hoods and even ball gags are also considered bondage because they are in some way restrictive.

People enjoy being bound because it gives them the freedom, kind of like a permission slip, to let go and surrender into pleasure and into their innermost secret, dark desires. Many people also enjoy the feel and smell of the ropes as a sensory experience.

Another type of bondage, is mental bondage, in which the bottom is told not to move, or told to sit in a corner, and thus they are bound verbally to submit.

Blindfolds

Blindfolds are considered “light” bondage and are quite popular with many couples who may not be interested in other kinky activities. Removing the sense of sight allows all your other senses to become heightened and erotically charged. Blindfolds let you escape your inhibitions and delve more into the fantasy. Blindfolds are perfect for playful foreplay and bring an element of suspense to your lovemaking.

Sensation Play

Sensation play is a sensual way of touching your partner that is a wonderful form of erotic foreplay. It can consist of tying someone up and tickling them with a feather, rubbing fur or silk over their flesh while blindfolded, pouring warm candle wax on your partner’s skin to turn up the heat, using ice cubes to awaken and entice, or applying a pinwheel to add an element of danger and excitement. Sensation play can add a level of eroticism that can bring your arousal to new heights of pleasure and passion.

Spanking

Spanking is also another popular kinky practice that has made its way into mainstream vanilla sex. Spanking is a form of percussion or impact play that can include anything from light, playful spanking to flagellation with whips and paddles, to caning, flogging and everything in between. One person’s pain is another person’s pleasure, and many people find spanking wildly erotic.

People who enjoy percussion may have spanking fantasies they’d love to fulfill. Many men and women enjoy the fantasy of being punished for real or imagined “bad behavior”. Some people enjoy being put into a submissive position, while others enjoy the physical sensation of getting their backside (or other sexual parts) warmed up.

Flogging

Flogging, whipping or lashing in BDSM is a type of flagellation which is the act of lashing the human body with special implements such as whips, switches, the cat o’ nine tails, crops, birches and paddles.

Beginning enthusiasts should be careful using any impact toy for the first time. Make sure not to hit the spine while “whipping” your lover into submission, and try to hit your target directly rather than allowing the fronds to wrap around the body as this can cause a nasty sting. The buttocks, breasts, upper back, genitals and inner thighs are ideal places to flog, but do so gently, and always monitor your partner’s responses. Make sure to mix up the rhythm of the strokes as well as pressure to heighten sexual pleasure.

Medical Play

Medical play can involve any combination of the Nurse/Doctor/Patient dynamic of roleplaying where participants make-believe playing “doctor” in which the patient undergoes an intimate physical examination. Often the patient is restrained while their body parts are poked, prodded and played with using various medical type instruments such as a speculum, Wartenberg wheel (or pinwheel), sounds (the insertion of a steel rod or tube into the urethra), pussy clamps, enemas, as well as play piercing, and the use of cupping sets.

Age Play

Age play is another type of roleplay in which one partner undergoes age regression, playing the part of a baby, child, or teen to a Mommy, Daddy or babysitter. Infantilism is a form of age play, and sometimes incest fantasies are also played out.

Often, players will have many equipment, props and clothing including diapers, cribs, soothers, and kid’s toys. Age play is not pedophilia, and players are not interested in children, rather, it allows the Dom to assume the role of caregiver, or teacher, while the submissive can relinquish control.

Forced Oral

Forced oral in BDSM is the act of forcing oral sex on the submissive. Often, the dominant will hold the submissive’s head or hair and force their penis into their mouth, or sit on their face and smother them with their vagina or ass (called Queening). Keep in mind, the act is consensual, with the submissive taking pleasure in the act of being forcefully used.

Butt Play

Forced butt play is a sexual BDSM activity in a D/s dynamic, where the submissive may be made to wear a butt plug (anal training), or may be penetrated with anal beads, a dildo or vibrator, and of course a penis. This may also include bondage, humiliation, and other activities such as spanking.

Pegging

Pegging is a type of butt play in which the female partner “pegs” her male partner up the butt with a strap-on dildo. Sometimes it is just for pleasure and for exploring prostate orgasms, and other times there can also be a power dynamic with her in charge and him playing a more submissive role.

Nipple Play

Many people enjoy nipple play during foreplay and sex. Nipple clamps can add extra sensation hands-free and a naughty sense of excitement. Adjustable nipple clamps, such as Bull Nose or Alligator clamps are the best ones to use, as they allow you to adjust the pressure and therefore the sensation. Nipple suckers and breast pumps are also used in nipple and breast play fantasies.

Chastity Play

Forced Chastity may take the form of male or female chastity, where the submissive partner abstains from sex and masturbation, and often orgasm control or denial is used. This could be a mental form of bondage, or a chastity device like a chastity belt, or cock cage that is used to lock up the genitals. Sometimes, the sub is sexually teased and told they are not allowed to orgasm as well.

Pussy Torture

Pussy torture sounds kind of scary, but it is more about intense pleasure than pain. While pussy spanking or flogging can be used, often, the submissive is bound and sexually stimulated with a powerful wand massager, until they orgasm uncontrollably. Often the stimulation goes on even after they climax, leading to multiple orgasms, where the intense pleasure is used as torture.

CBT

Cock-and-ball torture (or CBT) is the BDSM practice of inflicting pain on the penis and testicles. This may include flogging, slapping, squeezing, pinching and trampling. Often, cock cages, spiked cock rings and ball stretchers can also be used.

Edge Play

Edge play is a list of extreme activities within BDSM play, which are considered risky, dangerous, taboo, or require a lot of skill. Activities include fireplay, play piercing, cutting or knife play, branding, erotic asphyxiation, golden showers, scat, fluid exchange, and sex without the use of condoms. None of these activities should be performed by a novice, and the Top should be highly trained, as this type of play done wrong can lead to permanent physical and mental damages.

Creating a Scene

In BDSM, a scene is a container or space where BDSM activities and rituals are performed. Like a drama, a scene has a beginning, middle and end, and is planned ahead of time, and then played out by the Dom and sub. Other participants may also take part in the scene if given permission by all parties.

Scenes can include any of the types of activities I’ve already explained, as well as many other scenarios. Some ideas include an Interrogation scene, a gang rape fantasy, or an abduction fantasy.

A scene usually follows an arch, with a climax of intensity in the middle. Communication is key to a successful scene with both partners checking in with each other. Once the scene has ended, aftercare is performed.

Aftercare

Aftercare in BDSM is the time when the scene has ended and the play partners check in with each other. Snuggling and holding each other is a good way to reaffirm a loving connection. Drinks and snacks are often shared and players may need to rest and relax.

Often, elements of the scene are discussed: what was hot, what didn’t go as expected, is there anything you need right now, and other nurturing inquiries. Aftercare helps to alleviate sub drop and return both partners equilibrium. Aftercare focuses on the physical, emotional and psychological effects that a scene may have on the participants.

Final Word

Exploring BDSM can be an exciting, scary, and thrilling experience. It is important to remember to take it slow, that communication, negotiation and consent are key, and to respect each other’s limits. Getting training, instruction or mentoring is very useful, especially with advanced play techniques.

If you are interested in getting more serious about BDSM play, try to find a playgroup near you where you and your partner can take workshops on what interests you.

You can also take courses online, either together, or by yourself, like this Kink 101 Package for Loveology University, that features four courses: Boundaries and Taboos, BDSM Power Play, Fetishes, and Group Sex & Swinging.

And, finally, remember this is about pleasure and making your sex life sizzle, so to get the most out of your erotic adventures, play safe and have fun.

It’s time to get orgasmic!

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How to Prevent Your Sex Drive Plummeting in Your 40s With Tantra

By

Valeriam Vincent

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March 17, 2021

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Sex in your 40s often goes downhill. A busy life, stress, low self-esteem and poor diet can lead to a low libido. Don’t worry! Help is at hand. If middle-aged sex is getting you down, there’s an ancient technique which can get things moving again.

Tantra is all about delaying orgasm which leads to better sex, enhanced intimacy and improved body confidence. Improving your sex life in your 40s doesn’t need to be a chore. Tantra or tantric massage is a technique which aids relaxation and awakens your sexual being.

This erotic massage is a form of holistic therapy, taking you down a path of spiritual enlightenment to give your more intense orgasms and more passionate sex.

How to perform a tantric massage on your partner

Start with a long, hot shower with your partner. You can then move to comfortable surroundings – music, candles, hot oil and dimmed lights will get you in the mood for lovemaking.

Begin the tantric massage by rubbing warm oil over your partner’s body, gently moving your hands over their body. Start with large, circular movements on the chest before slowly moving to the genital area. Your partner can then begin to massage your body as you both become aroused.

Look into each other’s eyes as you perform playful touches. Give long, lingering kisses. Sit on your partner’s lap if you feel comfortable. Gently rock with each other and start to make love. Focus on the sensations you feel as you caress each other – smell, touch, taste!

How does tantra boost your sex life?

Improved confidence

Both couples and individuals will relish the confidence tantra brings into your life. You’ll start to feel comfortable with intimacy and have the self-assurance to express what you like and what you don’t like in the bedroom.

Tantric massage uses the movement of sexual energy throughout the body to build a connection with the mind and body. Using breathing techniques, touching and eye gazing, you’ll build an intimate bond with your partner. You’ll find new ways of pleasure and adore feeling seductive and playful in the bedroom.

Control

Tantric massage is beneficial for men with premature ejaculation issues. Tantra helps you to ride the wave of arousal, taking you to the edge of orgasm and back again. This improves your sex life and you’re able to control ejaculation.

By learning to respond to your sexual energy, you’re able to gradually build up this energy throughout the body until an explosive happy ending occurs. With your new found confidence and the ability to control your orgasm, you’ll last longer in the bedroom for endless hours of lovemaking with a partner.

Better orgasms

A sensual massage like tantric massage promotes relaxation. Additionally, tantra gives you the sexual freedom to experience new erotic pleasures which allows you to awaken your sexual appetite. Both these aspects give you the potential for better orgasms.

Breathing techniques that you perform with your partner, alongside teasing touches, will give you hours of pleasure.

Tantra isn’t about having a quickie – it’s a slow form of lovemaking which focuses on the spiritual connection. However, most people find they experience enhanced orgasms with this ancient technique.

Improved intimacy

Relationships in your 40s can be at different points. Some couples have been married for years and find their sex lives dwindling, whiles others may be divorced and looking to start a new relationship. Whatever situation you find yourself in, intimacy can be uncomfortable for many.

Luckily, tantric massage offers a way of healing your intimacy issues. Both you and a partner are able to enjoy being naked together in a stimulating and exciting manner. The pleasure you give and receive brings contentment, and you’ll learn that sex is an amazing part of a relationship.

Sexual awareness

Tantric massage is the spiritual awakening you need in your life. You’ll enjoy being sexually pleasured once again and you’ll love watching your partner being stimulated.

Everything goes in tantra – you can try different types of positions, enjoy role play and uncover your fantasies. Give your sex life a boost by sharing an intimate moment with your partner.

This nude massage is a steamy delight. Feel the erotic energy running through your body until you explode with a mind-blowing ending.

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About the author:

Erica Suarez-Hillingdon is a sex therapist and expert on everything related to tantra, tantric sex, and tantric massage. She is the editor at Karma Tantric, London’s premier tantric massage agency and writes about how tantra can help men, women, and couples improve their sex lives.

Sexpert Panel: Open Relationships: Understanding Polyamory, Monogamish & Unicorns

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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March 15, 2021

By Dr. Ava Cadell

Did you know that there’s a spike in Open Relationships and Polyamorous Marriage?

Much of it may be due to the Covid quarantine, as couples are calling it quits after spending so much time together that they’re getting on each other’s nerves. Even newlyweds are separating, but there’s a new alternative approach that’s becoming popular and that is adding a consensual person or people to your relationship.

This event has passed, but you can watch the replay below.

I will be moderating this esteemed panel of Sexperts and taking questions from viewers, so think about what you would like to ask on the topic.

When you register, you will also automatically get put into our raffle for free gifts, like an adult toy basket from Lelo and you will get a link to a fabulous yoga video donated by Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce. She is a Clinical Sexologist and Yoga Therapist with a Degree in Nursing. Her background as a registered nurse, health educator, sex & relationship author, radio talk show host and yoga therapist all enhance her passion as an International speaker and sensuality educator. Dr. Nancy’s counseling practice includes giving guidance and advice to singles for dating in a socially distanced world. Dr Nancy also hosts Exotic Lifestyle Retreats, intimacy oasis at Hedonism Jamaica, where she teaches couples about Conscious Living Sexuality, promoting good communication so that you can share your wants and desires with your partner and enjoy a healthy connection together. If cruising is more your style, you can join Dr. Nancy on a Bliss Cruise for adults.You can join Dr. Nancy for her upcoming event in Jamaica for singles and couples at 26th https://drnsp.com/exotic-lifestyle-retreats/

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff will share her vast knowledge an Academic & Legal Expert on Polyamorous Families with Children. Dr. “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology (University of Colorado, Boulder, 2005) and certification as a Sexuality Educator from the AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, 2012), Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 20+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. Currently lecturing at the University of Tennessee in Chattanooga, Sheff has also taught at the University of Colorado, University of Montana, Georgia State University, Oglethorpe, Emory, and the University of Zurich. In her book, When Someone You Love Is Polyamorous, she describes the personality of people who are best suited for Open Relationships and on the panel, she will share her bonding project survey to find out if you are a good candidate for an Open Relationship https://www.bondingproject.com/. Dr. Eli is a prolific writer and speaker, so check out her website.

Carol & David, Radio Hosts of The Sexy Lifestyle

Carol and David are the hosts of The Sexy Lifestyle on VoiceAmerica radio, a leading provider of Internet talk radio. Each week Carol and David, A fun-loving swinger couple, share their own personal experiences with sex, love and marriage. Their show aims to help listeners have stronger, more meaningful relationships through clear communication, pushing boundaries, exploring limits, and fulfilling fantasies. Through uncensored and honest discussions about great sex, passion, and intimacy, gain insight into a sex-positive and female-centric view of the modern-day couple. The show airs every Thursday at 4pm PT on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. Tune in for their sex tips, wild stories, and live call-in advice about living a happy, healthy, and horny life! They will give us insight on how their Swinging has improved communication, boundaries and sex in their relationship. They are also giving away a free gift of their Tom Waterproof Blanket to one lucky raffle winner.

Dr. Carol Queen is an Award-winning author, activist and sex educator with a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, Carol Queen has been a part of Good Vibrations since 1990. She currently serves as both Staff Sexologist and Chief Cultural Officer. Queen curates Good Vibrations’ Antique Vibrator Museum. In 1975, Carol Queen co-founded GAYouth, one of the first LGBT youth organizations in America. In 2000, she became the Founding Director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit organization that provides sex-positive educational classes, as well as a sexuality library and archive accessible to the public. As a presenter, she is offering Sex Positivity classes at https://renegadeuniversity.com/product/sex-positivity/. She is also the author of eleven books.

Erika Jordan is a Certified Love and Relationship Coach, author, media personality and leader in the field of Digital Romance and Online Dating. Well known as a personal trainer for dating, she helps men and women maneuver through the ups and downs of dating and helps them find the love of their lives. Erika has created a renowned 6-week course, entitled The Art of PickUp, designed to help men acquire the skills to approach women with confidence. Erika hosted a show for Playboy TV called, ‘Totally Busted’ and she has had starring roles in various movies on SyFy, HBO, Cinemax. Erika is giving away her 6-week Dating Course for Men, The Art of Pickup. http://erikajordan.net/ and you can listen to her podcast here.

Tamara Bell who was one of the first Loveology University graduates in 2008, is now the Student Ambassador & Mentor for LoveUniv.com ready to help coach you to a successful career! Tamara is also a master networker and an industry leader helping grow positive businesses. She founded The Home Pleasure Party Plan Association (HPPPA) in January 2005 to establish a network between pleasure party company owners, distributors and manufacturers. Tamara said, “Our goal is to be one voice to our distributors and manufacturers and continue to be viewed as a strong entity in this growing industry.” Now a Certified Loveologist & Love Coach working with couples, singles and business owners in developing positive relationship enhancement techniques, Tamara is loved and admired by all who work with her. Her website is https://ladytcoaching.com/ and she hosts a Podcast with LU graduate, Viloshni Moodley, called Real, Raw & Uncut on YouTube.

Please don’t hate me, Grammarly, but I really don’t give a f***

By

Ralph Greco

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March 15, 2021

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I just hit a “Centenary Superhero” milestone with Grammarly (don’t worry, I didn’t know what it was either). In using the basic grammar program, which I do indeed recommend, I get reports on my writing from the company all the time. In addition to this new milestone, I am presently 82% more productive, 29% more accurate, and use 93% more unique words than the rest of Grammarly’s users.

Well, whoopie for me, huh?

Actually, between you and I, I don’t rightly give a rat’s dingus. If I could stop Grammarly’s insidious checking in and reporting on me, I would. I don’t need their tickling of my taint. I don’t rightly care how I measure up against others. I don’t even want to keep score on what I’ve managed to do.

This writing thing, penning naughty words, and mainstream stuff, is my livelihood. I am not in a competition or along for the ride of social media approbation. Sure, I want an audience. Sure, I love it when people connect with a story or come back to me and tell me how something they read of mine gave them a nice warm feeling (just as long as I don’t have to help them wipe up). And I especially like when I give forth on a class of would-be writers, as my buddy and fellow writer M. Christian and I have done on a few occasions at the kink conventions we have presented at… and hopefully will present at again with all this COVID b.s. is over. But I don’t care a whit about the opinion of some algorithm.

This Grammarly update speaks to a more significant dilemma of our modern world, and one I shan’t really dive into here. But generally, because of social media infecting our lives as it has (or more precisely how we have infected ourselves with it), people find it very hard to do anything without a response. People sign-up for exercise programs and eat well campaigns, enjoy Zoom instructions, pretty much get together across digital platforms consistently.

Sure, I’ll give you the pandemic. I know that has pushed us into isolation more than anything we have ever experienced on the planet. But why do we need confirmation so bad, the return tweet, and the ‘like,’ the fellow dieters? And why would Grammarly think I’d give a… well… a rat’s dingus, that I surpassed one of their milestones?

I’m too busy writing, which you should be too!

Endometriosis and Sexual Health

By

Debra Shade

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March 10, 2021

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March is Endometriosis Month.

Endometriosis is when the uterine inner lining develops outside the uterus. Endometriosis affects your sexual life. Sex can become extremely painful. But let me tell you, you may have to go through hella testing before it is appropriately diagnosed. Delightfully we have a month dedicated to bringing awareness around endometriosis. The pain felt from the disease can be severe, especially during your cycle and sex.

The thicken lining breaks down and bleeds with each menstrual cycle, however the excess tissue has no way to exit the body. It grows and spreads and can affect the ovaries. Scar tissue and adhesions cause pelvic tissue and organs to stick to each other. Untreated, eventually you will experience fertility issues. Because there is limited information about the disease, we do know that doctors are quick to suggest a version of a hysterectomy to rectify the matter.

This is a very common issue among vulva owners. The bladder and intestines can develop complications as well. Treatment is a necessity; it will not go away on its own. Vulva owners between 18 and 35 are most susceptible.

What Are the Signs of Endometriosis?

What signs are you looking for to help you suspect endometriosis? Each of us is different so watch for what you know does not feel right for your body.

Some symptoms include:

Experience painful periods (dysmenorrhea)
Pelvic pain and cramping that begin before and goes several days into your cycle
Lower back and stomach pain
Suddenly start to experience pain during sex
A huge sign is excessive bleeding
Infertility and fertility issues
Other symptoms may include fatigue, diarrhea, constipation, bloating and nausea, especially during menstrual periods.

Sometimes, endometriosis is first diagnosed when you seek treatment for infertility. Many times, vulva owners find it hard to conceive, and this could be because of the thickening of the lining that prevents an egg from uniting with the sperm. Something to keep in mind is that endometriosis is sometimes mistaken for other conditions that can cause pelvic pain, such as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) or ovarian cysts. It may be confused with irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), a condition that causes bouts of diarrhea, constipation, and abdominal cramping.

When to Seek Treatment

So, when should you see a doctor? Immediately, when you feel that your cycle is not ‘right”, and pain is severe enough to disrupt your daily activities. The sooner you seek a doctor’s care, the better your chances of beating the disease. An early diagnosis by a multidisciplinary medical team will result in great management of your symptoms and to develop a game plan to treat the disease.

What Causes Endometriosis?

You may be thinking what causes endometriosis? While it is not certain, there are a few explanations such as retrograde menstruation. This is when menstrual blood flows back through the fallopian tubes and into the pelvic cavity. Transformation of peritoneal cells suggest that hormones or immune factor’s promote transformation of peritoneal cells that line the inner side of the abdomen. The transformation of embryonic cells such as estrogen may transform embryonic cells into endometrial like cells during puberty. After a surgery, surgical scar implantation can cause cells to attach to the surgical incision. The lymphatic system may transport endometrial cells to other parts of the body known as endometrial cell transport.

Other Risk Factors

Finally, an immune system disorder may make the body unable to recognize and destroy endometrial like tissue that grows outside the uterus. Bear with me as I list risk factors. If you know them, you can better manage your health.

Things like:

Never giving birth
Going through menopause at an older age
Short menstrual cycles
Starting your cycle at an early age
Heavy cycles that last longer than 7 days
Having higher levels of estrogen in your body
Low body mass index
And even having one or more relatives with endometriosis can be a risk factor for you.

Any medical condition that prevents the normal passage of your flow out of the body and lastly any reproductive tract abnormalities are all risk factors.

What Happens If I Go Untreated?

The dreaded diagnosis of cancer is a possibility if you leave endometriosis untreated. Ovarian cancer does occur at higher than expected rates in those with endometriosis. The more you know, the better.

Use this month to find out more about endometriosis. As a vulva owner, you should do what you can to protect yourself, as early detection can let you take control of this health issue that affects your sexual health.

Remembering Playgirl: Entertainment for Women (No, Really!)

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Megan Hussey

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March 10, 2021

By Megan Hussey, The Feminist Sexpert

As we celebrate Women’s History Month in March (Happy Women’s History Month by the way—huzzah!), we also pause to remember those who time has forgotten—those women who, whether individually or as a group, have been omitted from history books and deleted from popular culture.

I know something about those women, and women’s groups—because I’m one of them.

I’m Megan Hussey, Feminist Sexpert at Sexpert.Com, erotica author, journalist and feminist activist. And in the early 2000s, I was the leader of the Playgirl Posse, Playgirl’s fan club.

Upon reading this information, some readers may have done such a swift double take that they now suffer from whiplash. Sorry about that! This is because, at least once every few months, I read online that Playgirl was a gay magazine read only by gay men. Oh, and for good measure, they say all of the models were gay too.

I have nothing against gay people or gay porn. What I do have something against is the total cultural erasure of Playgirl’s initial mission and female readership. It kinda sucks to be told that one doesn’t exist, ya know?

I was a woman who strongly responded to the message, mission and models of Playgirl, counting it as that single tool that helped get me through lonely nights, bad breakups, and even college! Because aside from being a feminist since birth (I often joke that I came out of the womb with the sole intention of overthrowing the patriarchy by preschool), I just really loved seeing hot men with little to no clothes. And how.

As a magazine, Playgirl was created in the early ‘70s for women as a feminist response to Playboy–and for most of its run, the magazine’s readership was split down the middle between gay men and straight women. Aside from centerfolds that were romantically shot, far less graphically than those featured in gay beefcake magazines, Playgirl magazine featured erotic fantasies and photo layouts featuring female/male couples, interviews with female celebrities, articles about issues like feminism, women in the workplace, dating violence, and reviews of erotic books and films.

The PlaygirlTV hardcore DVDs, introduced in the early 2000s, showed heterosexual couples and showcased male stars like Jean Val Jean, Evan Stone, Niko, Marcus London, etc. And the PlaygirlTV cable/video on demand service showed these same scenes online and on cable.

I first read about Playgirl on a pop culture message board. Immediately I thrust a defiant fist in the air and issued a Sally-like (“I’ll have what she’s having”) cry of “Yesss!!!”

OK, so—during college, I actually created a model channel guide for a PlaygirlTV channel—that’s how freakin’ badly I wanted, no needed PlaygirlTV. So when I wrote to the Playgirl marketing department to congratulate them profusely on the realization of a women’s erotic network, I made an immediate friend in the wonderful Heda Eisenberg, marketing specialist for Playgirl.

Soon they brought me on as a spokeswoman and as the head of the Playgirl fan club, the Playgirl Posse. I became a Playgirl writer and was suddenly corresponding with people like world-renowned sexpert Jayme Waxman and legendary femme porn director Candida Royalle. I had a Playgirl column and blog, and was on the programming review board for PlaygirlTV.

The Playgirl Posse was 95 percent female and featured members such as Heth Mares, the female marketing manager of Wicked Pictures, sexperts/adult models like Tara Tainton and Sassy Vee (host of the “Sex with Sassy” show), Amy Co Accessories owner and Vegas party planner Amy Miller, renowned adult journalist Cyndi Loftus, many erotica authors and publishers, adult commentators like short filmmaker Jana Cleveland, sex toy expert Stephanie S., and female adult film critics Ravyn Riccio and Mistress Liss. We also boasted grandmas, nurses, homemakers, breast cancer survivors, adult toy saleswomen, strippers, and career women. Selena Kitt, whose book “Babysitting the Baumgartners” was made into a movie by Adam and Eve, was a Posse girl.

The Playgirl Posse were ladies on a mission; representing Playgirl at the AVN show one weekend and at the Playgirl male revue show plenty of weekends. We flowed through the doors of adult video and bookstores, demanding more Playgirl. I wrote fiery letters to news outlets who claimed that Playgirl wasn’t really for women, because women just weren’t visual. This despite the fact that handsome hunks are used to sell everything from romance novels to soap operas intended solely for a female audience. And I lived every gal’s dream, receiving a birthday phone call from adult video actor/PlaygirlTV star Jean Val Jean, my big crush. He was a total sweetheart who sang me “Happy Birthday” in French and sent me a swoonworthy autographed picture—one I treasure to this day.

Our club did include a handful of gay men, also straight men who wanted to model for Playgirl. And yes, many of the men who posed for Playgirl were indeed straight.

Towards the end of Playgirl’s history, the direction of the magazine changed to acknowledge more of its gay male audience—steering away from the Posse in the process. Even before then, I was stung when Tina Fey, one of my idols, joked on Saturday Night Live that “PlaygirlTV was the channel made for women, but watched by gay men.”

Really, Tina? Well, let me let ya in on a little secret. The gals of the Playgirl Posse were the same women who buy tickets to your movies and comedy shows, in an effort to stand by you and other strong women. They stood by me when my first erotic book was published, and when my father passed away. And I made sure to honor them when they got jobs and degrees, when they married and had children, when they needed a listening ear.

We are women, and boy, did we roar. Or should I say—Playgirl, did we roar.

Playgirl closed its pages as a print magazine in 2016, but relaunched again in 2020. It is still available at Playgirl.com.

5 Tips for Discussing Your Sexual Fantasies With a Partner

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Megan Harrison

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March 6, 2021

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If the idea of sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner makes you squirm, I feel you. But fear not, I’ve got some tips that’ll make the sharing experience more comfortable than ever before.

Some tips when discussing your sexual fantasies with a partner: communicate openly, start the conversation outside of the bedroom, tell them about the fantasy at an appropriate time, not mention the names of anyone you are fantasizing about, and take it slow.

This article will go over five helpful tips that’ll prevent you from cringing every time you try to share your fantasies with your partner!

Open Communication Is Essential

Sexual fantasies can be a lot of fun if both partners are on the same page. However, not being clear can leave you both feeling awkward, insecure, or even upset.

To avoid this, you should be open with your partner about the fantasies you’d like to try with them. If they have any questions, answer them as clearly as you can. Additionally, you’ll need to take the time to discuss why, when, and how you’d like the fantasy to go down. If your fantasy isn’t fully formulated, that’s ok! Just communicate your feelings and desires with your partner, and you can work through the fantasy together.

After telling your partner about your fantasy, they may tell you that they are uncomfortable with some aspects of it. While this may be a letdown for you, it’s crucial to be open and only try things you’re both comfortable with. Even if they aren’t excited about one of your fantasies, they may be really into another!

Don’t just assume your partner won’t be interested without finding out for sure! Your partner might totally be into something such as daring public orgasms with vibrating panties. Open communication gives you the chance to talk it out until you find a fantasy you are both enthusiastic about.

Start the Convo When You Aren’t Between the Sheets

While you may think the best time to bring up your sexual fantasies is when you and your partner are all hot and bothered, it’s actually better to start the conversation outside of the bedroom.

During the heat of the moment, your partner may agree to try fantasies they aren’t comfortable with or something they haven’t had time to contemplate fully. Or, they may react negatively to the request and shut down sexy time altogether. Therefore, you should discuss your fantasies when you are both calm (and clothed) so that you and your partner don’t rush into doing something you’ll regret later!

Perhaps you could bring up your sexual ideas such as your pegging fantasy over breakfast one morning or while you guys are on an evening stroll. Bringing them up when you guys are calm and collected will allow everyone to think rationally and only participate in fantasies they genuinely want to try.

Timing Is Key

Make sure to explain the fantasy to your partner when everyone is relaxed, calm, and ready to communicate. Sharing your fantasy with your partner after they’ve had a long day at work is unlikely to go well. Even if they are interested in trying the sexual fantasy, they may respond negatively or be unresponsive because they aren’t in the right mental state.

Additionally, you’ll need to consider what’s going on in your partner’s life and how that relates to your fantasy. Your Choosing an appropriate time to share your fantasies with your partner is key to making the experience more pleasurable for both parties.

Don’t Mention Anyone’s Name

If your fantasy involves your partner roleplaying as a sexy stranger or as the guy you had a crush on in high school, it’s best to leave the details in the dark. Just give your partner the gist of the situation and do not, for god’s sake, say the name of the person you are picturing them as.

While you should always follow this rule if you are roleplaying as people you know, you may also want to follow it when you are roleplaying as people you don’t know, depending on how sensitive your partner is. If they will be hurt by you asking them to be Channing Tatum or Jennifer Lopez during your sexual fantasy, then it’s best not to make that request.

Instead, give them a general role to play, such as a “sexy Hollywood actor” or a “powerful boss.” General roles aren’t hurtful, yet they still allow you to have the fantasy experience you seek!

Take It Slow

After you tell your partner about your sexual fantasy, you may think that the only thing left to do is put it into action. However, this isn’t true! Sometimes the experience will go more smoothly if you go slow and take the fantasy one step at a time.

You and your partner could spend some time picking out new sex toys, selecting outfits, BDSM furniture, and other sexy props for the fantasy, for starters. Then, once you’re in the bedroom, you may want to start by watching porn related to fantasy. Or, maybe your partner’s dirty talk during sex will be focused on the fantasy topic.

After trying out these lesser forms of your fantasy, you guys may realize that you don’t want to go all the way. Or, you may be chomping at the bit to put the entire fantasy into action! Either way, taking it slow will give you both time to get more comfortable with the fantasy and recognize your likes and dislikes.

Conclusion

When you are sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner, you should:

Communicate clear and openly about your fantasies.
Start the conversation outside of the bedroom.
Tell them about the fantasy at an appropriate time.
Don’t give them specifics about who the fantasy is about.
Go slow and stop if anyone gets uncomfortable.

I hope this article has helped make sharing your fantasies with your partner more effortless and pleasant than before!

10 Tips for Better Sex & Overall Health

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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March 5, 2021

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Numerous Health Benefits of Having Sex

by Dr. Ava Cadell

I believe that regularly occurring and frequent sex will produce certain emotional and physical health benefits.

It has long been established that there are numerous health benefits related to sexual activity, an awareness that has been recorded in our culture for centuries in the form of such old wives’s tales as “use it, or lose it.” Just as if you don’t use your household appliances regularly, they become rusty and break down.

There has been an enormous amount of psychological research focusing on the relationship between sexuality and mental health. Recent medical studies by the American Heart Association have confirmed the physical benefits of an active sex life. The American Association of Urologists and significant medical school studies at the Universities of California and Indiana, just to name two, has documented studies about the health aspects of sexual activity. The Touch Institute in Florida has evidence that touch is the most powerful form of communication and maintenance of good health, physically and emotionally.

Now you can tell your lover, spouse, significant other, or even yourself what you’ve hoped to hear for years! Not only is sex fun and exciting – it’s healthy. “Sexercise” your body and see the benefits. Do it alone or with someone you love (try Sexycises!), but do it. Some of the same physical benefits you seek by working out at the gym are literally right at your fingertips.

Are you tired of waiting in line to use the barbells? Is the treadmill tearing up your kneecaps? Does that personal trainer show no mercy – no pain, no gain? Tone those muscles, improve your health, and give your body a boost with Dr. Ava’s Sexercise Tips.

Tip 1: Change sexual positions to stimulate different muscles.

If you think you’re overweight and need to lose a few pounds, there’s no more fun way to do it than with increased sexual activity. It won’t counteract the effects of overeating, but it does burn up calories and can also help turn fat into muscle more quickly than other forms of exercise; plus, working on that muscle tone can’t be more fun then while having sex. The natural tensing of your muscles while engaging in sex can work on the shoulders, neck, biceps, thighs, abs, stomach, and buttocks. The relaxation that follows helps work as a natural sedative.

Use your core muscles during missionary to strengthen you abs by thrusting and lifting your pelvis. While you’re at it, include some glut squeezes to tone up for a sexy bottom.

Doggie style is perfect for an arm workout, as you push yourself backwards into the thrust with sexy push-ups.

Ride em Cowgirl engages your legs, highs, butt and core. Depending on how fast you bounce on top of him or slowly grind will depend on the type pf workout you get. Bouncing gives you strength and stamina, while grinding engages the muscle longer for muscle building. Switch it up for interval training.

Pump up your love muscles doing kegels and the world will look a whole lot brighter.

Tip 2: Exercise your mouth and tongue

This is a hot oral sex trick! Use the tip of your tongue to write the alphabet or even love letter on your lover’s body. Get real intimate as you lick her clit or the tip of his penis in various patterns.

Make out with a sexy kiss to keep our lips, mouth and face in shape and contoured. Pucker up for the perfect pout!

Tip 3: Have Sex to Cure Headaches

By enjoying ourselves sexually we can actually improve our bodies both physically and mentally. Did you know that during sex, the flow of blood throughout the body not only improves circulation but also eliminates headaches? The improved flow of blood along the spinal column to the brain that results from an orgasm may just be the right thing to get rid of that migraine.

No more cliche excuses! The next time your partner says, “I’ve got a headache,” you can say “Good, let’s make love and get rid of it.”

Even that heavy breathing with someone you love is healthy as you regulate and exercise your respiratory organs.

Tip 4: Have Sex to Cure Insomnia

Having trouble sleeping? Well, take Dr. Ava’s advice. There is no better cure for insomnia than good sex. You feel so relaxed that it naturally leads you into a deep sleep. Wrap your arms around your special someone and cuddle them off to dreamland. Imagine the magic of waking up in the morning by lovemaking at dawn. It gets both your hearts and minds racing and it’s healthier than caffeine anytime.

Tip 5: Sex Can Work as a Laxative

Believe it or not, sex can also work as a laxative, toning and controlling the lower abdominal muscles. The muscle relaxant post-orgasmic state has so many benefits that it can solve a host of problems, even constipation.

Tip 6: Stressed? What better cure than sex?

If you’re feeling tense, set aside some quiet time and shut out the deadlines and pressures, if only for a “quickie.”

You will find that many of the symptoms of stress will disappear with a little loving. Not only will you feel a lot looser, you’ll breathe better, and some of those other problems relating to stress – poor judgment, short temper, or a sense of helplessness, will begin to fade into oblivion.

Tip 7: Sex Improves Self-Esteem

Feeling good sexually is a natural high that helps make all those little problems of the day seem a little less important. The physical and emotional aspects of sex can, and do work together in improving self-esteem and adding to a sense of well-being. The unique sense of intimate connection with your lover cannot be duplicated by any other activity.

And you don’t even need a partner to enjoy their sexual boost! The next time you need a little relief and there is no one else around, masturbation is as good alternative. While my “sexercise” prescriptions are a lot of fun for couples, use your most erotic organ (your brain) and all the same physical benefits I’ve mentioned can be yours alone.

Tip 8: Explore the G-spot for More Powerful Orgasms

Women have a multi-orgasmic capacity that may remain untapped without a little help from a “friend”. Explore that illusive G-spot area and you might discover a longer, deeper, more powerful orgasm then you ever imagined.

Regular orgasms help keep your libido healthy and active, by engaging your PC muscle on a regular basis, keeping the vagina muscles toned, and helping maintain vaginal lubrication.

An orgasm a day will also keep menstrual cramps away by providing a natural decongestion, resulting in less of the pain that can be so… well, irritating.

Tip 9: Fantasize for Better Brain Function

Since sexual fulfillment also involves your brain, it can improve your concentration and contribute greatly to your powers of imagination and creativity. If your work is getting you down, close your eyes and think about that ideal lover. I assure you, when you finish fantasizing, your mind and body will be ready to tackle the challenge that moments before seemed impossible.

If you trust each other implicitly, and love your partner with abandon, nothing will embolden your relationships more than the sharing of fantasies. What safer way for you single people to begin to share sexual intimacy than watching each other masturbate or helping each other to reach an orgasm without intercourse.

Experiment when that live partner isn’t around. This is the time to let your fantasies run rampant; use sex toys, erotic audios, or videos to stimulate your senses and heighten your arousal.

Tip 10: Tantric Sex for Healing

The ultimate “sexercise” to practice with your lover may be Tantric sex. A sacred kind of love, Tantric sex helps you concentrate on both the healing and energizing effects of harmonious breathing. While making love in the lotus position, you breathe out as your lover breathes in, hypnotically relaxing, it aids in the exchange of yin and yang (male and female energy).

One of the oldest Tantric exercises which combine a physical, mental, and spiritual way of life is the Venus Butterfly Technique which was first practiced in India around 3000 B.C. By simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and tapping on the G-Spot (located approximately two inches inside, on the upper wall of the vagina, between the opening and the cervix), it is possible for the woman to reach both an internal orgasm and an external one which may result in multiple orgasms.

Tantric exercises share a deeper ability to communicate. It is the purest way of sharing the best prescription for health – SEX!

Conclusion:

The emotional fulfillment that comes from a healthy sex life results in the relaxation of your muscles and your brain. Sex is good for your heart and lungs. Orgasms can alleviate certain headaches, the pain of menstrual cramps, act as a laxative, and help to burn calories, keep muscles toned, and organs healthy. It can have the effect of an anti-depressant, a mild sedative. Better Sex can stimulate creativity, improve concentration, and reduce stress. And… most importantly, it feels good!