Sexual fantasizing, what does it mean? It is the indulgence in daydreaming about something one desires. Fantasizing is done by men and women and it is totally normal. Boys and girls typically start to fantasize between 11 and 13 years of age, according to a study by the California State University.
WedMD has studied these activities also and found that women between 27 and 45 years of age had more intense sexual fantasies than other groups. More often than not, men will fantasize about a complete stranger whereas a woman tends to fantasize about someone she knows. For example, a man might fantasize about a woman he sees across the gym for the first time while a woman might fantasize about her gym trainer.
In this article we will be looking at the eight most common sexual fantasies and what percentage of men and women like which particular fantasies. After you read this, you should have a realization that you are more normal than you thought, no matter what society or culture says.
Please keep in mind that all cultures, religions, and societies have different perspectives on these activities. What is not accepted in one part of the world may be totally normal and acceptable in another. With that in mind, it really is normal to have thoughts and feelings of fantasies.
This is why it can get tricky and cause problems if you let an individual make you feel like something is wrong with you. Do not do that. There is nothing further from the truth. It is important that one focuses on the fact that we are all humans at different stages in our lives and we will all be experiencing different desires.
In a Psychology Today article of November 18, 2019, Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller reported on research which discovered the Most Common Sexual Fantasies.
8 Most Common Sexual Fantasies
Multi-Partner Sex Fantasies are reported by:
- Men 95%
- Women 87%
Multi-Partner might include the following:
- Threesomes
- Group Sex
- Orgies
- Gang Bangs
BDSM means Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism Fantasies and are reported by:
- Men 93%
- Women 95%
BDSM might include the following:
- Being Dominated
- Dominating Someone
- Bondage
- Sensory Deprivation
Novelty, Adventure, and Variety Fantasies are reported by:
- Men 97%
- Women 97%
Novelty, Adventure, and Variety might include the following:
- Sex in Public
- Sex in an Uncommon Location
- Sex with a Celebrity
- Sex with a Stranger
- Role Play
- Cosplay
Sexual Taboo Culturally Forbidden Fantasies are reported by:
- Men 87%
- Women 72%
Sexual Taboo Culturally Forbidden might include the following:
- Oral Sex
- Anal Sex
- Sex with Someone Younger
- Sex with Someone Older
- Exhibitionism
- Voyeurism
Passion, Romance, and Intimacy Fantasies are reported by:
- Men 99%
- Women 99%
Passion, Romance, and Intimacy might include the following:
- Cuddling
- Hand Holding
- Spend Time Together
- Masturbating
- Penetration
- Making Out or Kissing
- Humping
- Fingering or Hand Movements
- Sexual Fetishism
- Sex with Emotion
- Sex with Trust
- Sensual Massage
- Sexual Massage
Non-Monogamous Fantasies are reported by:
- Men 91%
- Women 80%
Non-Monogamous Relationship might include the following:
- Open Relationship
- Swinging
- Polyamory
Alternative Sexual Behaviors Fantasies are reported by:
- Men 59%
- Women 49%
Alternative Sexual Behaviors might include the following:
- Gender-Bending
- Homoeroticism
- Cross dressing
- Becoming the Other Sex
- Sex with a Transgender Partner
- Gender Swap
- Pegging
Heterosexual and Homoeroticism Fantasies are reported by:
- Men 26%
- Women 59%
Heterosexual and Homoeroticism might include the following:
- Heterosexuals desiring same sex activities
- Gay Pornography
Fantasizing can and often will change with your age and desires. Sometimes what we wanted in our twenties is different than what we want in our forties.
Another factor is health. It has been proven that when a human, or robot, physically touches our heart or our brain, it can cause changes in our personality. That change can be as simple as no longer liking a certain food, but it can also be as complex as to change your sexual desires.
Fantasizing is not talked about openly and when it is, a lot of times the topic is met with hostility. This is because to the individuals talking, it is a taboo subject and they think it is wrong, even though they are likely partaking in some of the same fantasies. In reality, there is nothing wrong with you. It is simply normal human behaviors. As always, have fun and keep it consensual.
