The Goddess Spot
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“The illusive G-spot is definitely not a myth but a treasure, which when explored can result in a deeper, longer orgasm.”–Dr. Ava Cadell
The G-spot has many fun phrases associated with it; great-spot, glory-spot, go-ahead spot-but I like to call it the Goddess spot. It is located inside the woman’s vagina about a third of the way, in between the vaginal/Yoni opening and the cervix. The G-spot has a ridged texture to it and responds to gentle stroking. In many women, once properly stimulated, it can provide a very powerful orgasm. It also may produce an ejaculation (an expulsion of milky looking fluid) which they refer to as Amrita or ‘divine nectar’ in Tantric terms.
The individual differences and responses to G-spot stimulation are so varied that women should not feel pressured into finding their G-spot. However, if you decide to embark on this quest, consider it a treasure hunt. You may or may not find the treasure you expected, but the hunt can be a great source of adventure and personal knowledge. Many women have reported that they have difficulty locating and stimulating the G-spot by themselves, but they have no difficulty identifying the erotic sensation when a partner stimulates the spot.
Exploring the G-Spot
Gynecologist Ernest Grafenberg, who published research results about sexual pleasure being derived from the urethra, first identified the G-spot area. Dr. Beverly Whipple did further research on G-spot orgasms. The results are available in her book The G-spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality by Dell Publishers. She indicates the G-spot area swells when stimulated and may lead to orgasm. Some women claim that the G-spot can be a longer, deeper, more powerful orgasm than a Pearl/clitoral orgasm.
For most women, stimulation of the 8000 nerve fibers of the Pearl/clitoris, especially by a talented tongue, results in orgasm. Then there are those who swear the G-spot orgasm is the ultimate orgasm.
The illusive G-spot is definitely not a myth but a treasure, which when explored can result in a deeper, longer orgasm. Some women are even capable of ejaculating from it.
Stimulating your Lover’s G-Spot
1. Have your lover empty her bladder before you start in order to lessen the possible feeling of needing to urinate.
2. Both of you should get into comfortable position; preferably with the woman on her
back with her pelvis raised by a pillow.
3. Put your thumb on her pubic mound or Pearl/clitoris and insert the middle or forefinger
of your hand, palm up, in a “come hither” motion inside the vagina.
4. Push gently in the outer third of the Yoni’s top region, between the opening and the cervix. When you touch a small, ridged patch area, the woman may feel sensitive as if she needs to urinate.
5. If her bladder is empty, the sensitive feeling will pass and be replaced with intense, pleasurable feelings.
6. For more pressure, use any combination of the other fingers.
7. Use long, linear strokes creating an energetic circuit between your thumb and your finger.
8. Picture a clock-face on the inside of her Yoni, and stroke with your finger from 6 o’clock to 12 o’clock.
9. Alternatively, imagine your fingers are a “windshield wiper,” and stimulate the G-spot moving your fingers from side to side.
10. Now, put your thumb above the pubic bone (with your fingers inside the Yoni) to stimulate the G-spot from inside and outside simultaneously.
11. Tap the G-spot area with your finger/s towards her navel in pulsating motions.
12. Ask her to make a mental note which movements pleasure her most.
The G-spot can also be reached using a specially designed vibrator or by making love in certain sacred sexual positions.
G-Spot Sacred Sexual Union
Don’t make love in the same position, in the same place, at the same time. Be daring; spontaneous!
Your partner will love you for it!
1. In the Missionary position, the woman can rest her feet on her lover’s shoulders. This allows for maximum stimulation of the back wall of the Yoni and thus potential stimulation of the G-spot.
2. The alternative to the ‘Woman On Top’ position is for the woman to face away from her partner. This way, the whole of the Yoni is stimulated, and the woman herself can decide where she wants to receive maximum stimulation.
3. The rear entry alternative is for the man to lay his whole body along the woman’s. In this position, the entire Yoni is stimulated, but attention is concentrated on the upper part of the front wall, which means there is relatively good stimulation of the G-spot.
4. An alternative to the standing position is for you and your partner to face one another with the woman lying back. In this position, the front wall of the Yoni is stimulated, and good contact with the G-spot is made.
The Venus Butterfly
The Venus Butterfly is an ancient lovemaking technique first practiced in India 3000 years ago. It allows the male to bring his lover to a high peak of ecstasy by simultaneously stimulating two centers of pleasure at the same time.
Directions on How to Perform the Venus Butterfly
1. Pull back your lover’s clitoral hood.
2. Stimulate the Pearl/clitoris with short and long strokes using your tongue, fingers or vibrator until the woman reaches a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 0 to 10 with 10 being the point of no return; orgasm.
3. Move away from the Pearl/clitoris and stimulate the entire outside of the Yoni in circular motions with your tongue, finger or vibrator, allowing her arousal level to lower by a couple of points.
4. Return to Pearl stimulation as above using short and long strokes until the woman reaches a 9 on the pleasure scale.
5. Slip your finger/s, palm up, inside the Yoni and tap on the G-spot towards the navel.
6. Continue to stroke the Pearl/clitoris while tapping the G-spot with your finger/s or use a G-spot vibrator.
7. Combining clitoral and G-spot stimulation may result in multiple orgasms.
8. Practice the Venus Butterfly technique and exchange feedback.
Dr. Ava’s TriGasm
How do You Achieve a Trigasm? I have been teaching the combination of simultaneous G-spot and Pearl/clitoral stimulation for several years. Couples loved it. Women got some serious attention–learning how to climax internally and externally at the same time, and men felt like they were heroes. So, here’s the revolution, the ultimate technique in orgasmic potential for women: The TriGasm.
A TriGasm is the result of arousing the 3 points of pleasure, the Pearl/clitoris, G-spot and Rosebud/anus simultaneously. Many people are experienced with various forms of dual stimulation–a Lingam and a toy, a tongue and a finger, and other combinations.
Here are some tips for you as you go off on your Trigasm exploration. Begin setting the mood and prepare to stimulate all five senses. Be creative using sensual sound, visual arousal, and feeling your lovers heat. You should also have some lubricant nearby, especially for G-spot and anal play. The final tip tell your lover to take up juggling, because it’s going to take some coordination to master this technique, but it’s well worth the effort and mighty fun while learning!
Here is the ideal way to create 3 points of stimulation with a lover.
1. The woman should lie back while her lover lavishes her Pearl with oral pleasure until she
has reached a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10. (10 equals orgasm.)
2. Change course and stimulate her vulva in small circles with the tongue or fingers for 2 minutes.
3. Return to the Pearl and orally increase her level of pleasure to a 9; almost to the point of no return.
4. At this peak, he should insert his forefinger palm up into her Yoni and find her G-spot, then tap, tap, tap it gently towards her navel.
5. Simultaneously with step four, he must stimulate her Rosebud/anus gently with a
feather, his pinky or a vibrator to bring his lover to a mind-blowing, earth shattering, energy-melting multiple orgasm.
Her Tantric Pleasure: Female Ejaculation
Female ejaculation has been documented in ancient Asia for many thousands of years. Here in the Western world scientists are finally accepting it as a reality and women of all ages are enjoying the experience of ejaculating during orgasm. I believe that every woman can ejaculate if she is stimulated correctly and if she knows how to control her PC muscles.
It’s estimated that less than 10% of women ejaculate, or at least admit to it. In Tantra, female ejaculation is called, Amrita, which means Nectar of the Gods. Some women who experience ejaculation admit that the feeling is like an intense orgasmic release; much stronger and longer than a clitoral orgasm. Female ejaculation can be attained with stimulation of the G-spot, the spongy area located inside the Yoni about two inches on the upper wall towards the navel.
Always empty your bladder first so that the ejaculation doesn’t have any urine in it. The ejaculate fluid is protein based (much like semen) but it’s thinner and of course it doesn’t have any sperm. In summary, female ejaculation is a normal natural occurrence, so why not try it? You might like it!
Female Oral Delights
A woman is more sensitive so begin with less pressure than you would like, as a man.
1. Kiss and lick the inside of her thighs to create sexual anticipation.
2. Explore the entire vulva (outside of the Yoni) with circular tongue motions.
3. Suck on her labia (Yoni lips) gently.
4. Lavish her Yoni with your tongue in long lapping motions from her Yoni opening to her Pearl/clitoris.
5. Use a pointy tongue all around the Pearl/clitoris but not directly on it.
6. Write numbers on her entire vulva area with your tongue, then the alphabet.
7. Slip one or two fingers inside her Yoni as you gently lick her Pearl.
8. Use a stiff tongue to lick her Pearl from side to side.
9. Make humming sounds with your lips so they vibrate as you kiss the Pearl/clitoris.
10. Stroke her perenium (between the Rosebud/anus and Yoni opening) while sucking gently on her Pearl/clitoris.
11. Never rub or insert anything sugary in a woman’s Yoni because it can cause infection.
12. Draw her closer by lifting her buttocks and kissing her Yoni just as you would her mouth.
13. Alternate pressure with your tongue as you lick long and short strokes from the Rosebud to the Pearl.
14. Insert a fingertip into her Rosebud/anus as you lick her Pearl.
15. Gently pull her labia majora apart (outside lips) and lick the labia minora (inside lips) with the tip of your tongue.
16. Nuzzle your face in her mound and brush your lips and nose over her Pearl.
17. Insert your tongue into her Yoni opening with quick pointy motions.
18. Flick your tongue over Pearl alternating from up and down and side to side.
19. When she is on the verge of orgasm, make your lips into an O and take her Pearl in your mouth sucking gently.
20. Insert one or two fingers and discover her G-spot while licking her Pearl.
21. Lick her entire vulva like an ice cream cone with lapping motions.
22. Use your tongue like a snake sliding and twisting it inside her slowly, then fast.
23. Suck on some ice before licking her Yoni for a cool sensation.
24. Drink some hot liquid and then suck and twirl your hot tongue over her.
25. Don’t change the rhythm of your motion when she is climaxing.
26. Don’t stop immediately after she has climaxed. Keep going until she stops you, then cup your hands over her Yoni with fingers facing the navel.
27. Ask her how and where she wants you to lick, kiss and suck her. Tell her to direct you.
28. Orally delight her Yoni while she is lying on her stomach.
29. Orally delight her Yoni while she is in the tigress position from the rear.
30. Tell her that you love honoring her Yoni orally because she tastes and smells delicious.
Remember that practice… practice… practice makes perfect!
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Excerpt from Dr. Ava’s Tantra Workbook