Welcome to May–Masturbation Month! This is the start of a series of articles celebrating sexual self love!
The goal of Tantra is to explore sacred sexuality as a spiritual act of love and pleasure, to undergo personal transformation, and to find the balance within through mystical consciousness or connection with the divine. Again, this is not goal-orientated, at least to begin with, but more about exploration. Go slow and just enjoy giving yourself pleasure.
How to Do Tantra for One
Lay comfortably on your back, arms at sides, palms pressed lightly against the floor. Close your eyes and breathe deeply from the stomach and chest, feeling the tension flow out of you with each exhale. Your breathing should be slow, rhythmic and peaceful, not forced or unnatural. Feel yourself grounding into the earth and connecting with earth energy.
Practice conscious breathing by placing the heels of your hands to the sides of your rib cage, against the bottom ribs. Become aware of your breath for a moment, and allow it to become slow and rhythmic. As you breathe slowly through the nose, concentrate quietly on how the ribs move in and out, pressing your hands in gently into the ribs and then release with the exhale.
One you have practiced this, continue to breathe, making your breath circular: Inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth making the breathing completely “circular” with no pauses between inhales and exhales. This type of breathing is especially good when trying to cycle orgasmic energy through your body.
Begin to stimulate yourself through masturbation until you reach the edge of the plateau stage, the point of no return or last possible moment that you can abstain from orgasm. At this point, stop stimulating yourself and breath very slowly and deeply until the desire to orgasm fades. This is called sexual “edging”. Continue to do this several times, each time reaching the edge of orgasm, then pulling back and not allowing yourself to climax. This technique takes practice, so don’t worry if you go over the edge the first couple of tries. Through practice you will be able to slow down stimulation, rather than stopping completely and continue to build this heightened state of awareness.
Continuous Orgasm
You can learn to have long continuous whole-body orgasms via Tantra masturbation. Continue to edge your orgasm and while doing so, contract your PC muscles and move your hips, imagining as you do that the orgasmic energy is circulating through your body with the breath.
When you do finally orgasm see if you can keep the orgasm going, continuing to stimulate, and ride the orgasm out in longer and longer waves.
Enjoy!