In a University of Wisconsin survey, ¼ of penis owners could not find the clitoris on a diagram. Sadly, many clit owners could not identify it either.
Did you know that the nub we can see on the outside, covered by the vaginal lips, is the tip of the rest of the clitoris which can be up to 4 inches long internally? Not for nothing, but this information was found by a vulva owner.
In 1998 the Australian urologist Helen O’Connell and her team found that the clitoris was way more powerful than what previous research reported. It is these internal components that drives the level of sensitivity and pleasure the clit receives and the owner experiences.
The internal clitoris branches from the external clitoris into two legs with a bulbar wishbone shape around the front and sides of the vagina. It swells with blood during arousal and is very sensitive and can be stimulated through the front wall. This is why grinding feels so good.
The clitoris head is like the penis head, sensitive. You can stimulate the clitoris with your tongue, fingers, vibrator, or penis. Try soft confident touches first and take your cue from the owner. Sometimes its too sensitive to touch, sometimes a firm stroke is necessary. If your lover is not verbal about their pleasure, you can read their body language to determine what sort of pressure and pace to use. If they recoil, tense up suddenly, grimace or make a sound that is not pleasurable, it’s important to stop whatever you are doing and try something else. The clit can be painful at certain pressure levels, watch for those negative signs.
Signs to tell if they are enjoying what’s going on include a slow tensing of the arms, legs, and abs, if you notice them holding the tension, ask them to release and breath. This allows for a more intense orgasm. In addition, they will be groaning, moaning, or talking. They will pant and move their hips to receive pleasure exactly where and how they need it. Pay attention to this language and increase your pace as they proceed through the orgasm.
Stay with them through the end. Nothing sucks more than a lack luster orgasm. Suck the clitoris between your lips, press upward on the mound to engage the internal clitoris. Make sure the clit stays wet. Lube can be your best friend. Dental dams should be used as well.
The vagina is the canal that runs through the vestibule that holds everything in! How and when you get the sensations and pleasures from thrusting, rotating, or the circulating motions of penis, vibrators, dildos and fingers is very individualized. Because the canal has less nerve endings, simple thrusting will probably not bring about a strong orgasm.
A survey reported 64% of vulva owners needed clit play to have a meaningful orgasm. For me, the most intense orgasms are Gspot orgasms. This is because it engages the clitoris fully. Using your fingers or a Gspot stimulator are best for this clit play. Use two of three finger moves that will drive them crazy.
Use your ring and pointer finger. Keep the rest of your knuckles flat. Enter the vagina and stay shallow. Within the first 2-3 inches. Press up with the pads of your fingers. Use lube, the slickness will add pleasure. Rotate your fingers with medium pressure after you have had enough foreplay to get them engaged in the act. Keep rotating your fingers as the tension builds, again, remind them about their breathing. Breathing is important to intense orgasm.
When they are ready, began to use a second finger motion. The come hither. Pull your fingers toward you. Remember to stay shallow, the Gspot will swell. (This is an area and not a button) The more aroused the person is, the more likely they will ejaculate with their orgasm. Increase your pace with their pants and gasp and keep it up until they experience what is probably a more intense orgasm, an all over body orgasm that they will remember for quite some time.
All because the clitoris takes center stage. It brings so much additional pleasure to the table and can be used with penetration or without. Begin to engage both the external and internal clitoris. Add humping to your foreplay. Be sure to lube your hand to aid with friction and increase your speed as they advance toward orgasm.
As an Orgasm Coach, I love guiding folx through clitoral orgasms.