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Anal sex refers to anal intercourse. Intercourse that involves stimulation to butt cheeks, rectum or anus. Anal can be enjoyed by anyone with an anus. Anal can include placing fingers or tongues inside and around the anus.
Placing a penis, dildo, hand or sex toy inside the anus is very pleasurable and completely “normal” to practice for your sexual pleasure. Because of the number of nerve endings in the rectum with the stimulation of either the Skene’s Gland or the prostates to produce an anal orgasm that can really rock your world.
Anilingus includes rimming which is the licking or oral-anal contact, you should keep your mind open to giving or receiving this sort of stimulation.
Is it Painful?
While associated with pain, it does not have to be painful. Anal can be pain free if done correctly. It often takes practice and always mandates patience.
You can perform anal sex on yourself.
Find out what you prefer to do so that you know what to expect and what pleases you anally. When you are with a partner, communication is key, talking to your partner throughout the act, especially entry, will make you all the more comfortable with everything that takes place in this type of orgasm.
Do not attempt entry without a good water-based lube. Lube is your best friend so use it liberally. I tease and say that when you think you have used too much, use a little more! Be gentle, the tissues that make up the anus are very thin and can tear easily.
The trick is to enter at an angle.
You and your partner are in control of your own comfort level. Be sure to check in with each other often to be sure everyone is still having fun. Anal will not cause you to have constipation, hemorrhoids, or diarrhea. If you do have these conditions prior to doing it, you should wait until they clear up before accepting anal in any entry method. Be sure to wash your hands and use a new condom when switching from anal to your other genitals. Use a dental dam or condoms when sharing toys or rimming.
Be sure to use good, high-quality toys.
ALWAYS use a condom. You may want to start small and work your way up to your pleasure point. Covering cheap anal toys with condoms, contrary to trendy belief, does not stop nasty chemicals from seeping into your skin. You can definitely catch an STI even if there is no penetration.
Know your health status and be comfortable enough to discuss this with your partner. It is imperative that you share any positive status.
There can be odd sounds but there should be no poop however, if there is, this is normal, but again avoidable.
You may want to shower before or during to keep things clean and appealing. It does not have to be messy. You can put down a towel or plastic sheet or have wipes handy before you start. Douches or enemas are not necessary as they push bacteria up into the anal canal.
However, if you do perform one or the other, you need to know that poop does not hang out in the rectum. It stays at the end of the intestines until it naturally contracts and releases it.
If you know that you have to void your bowels, do so before you have anal. That is just etiquette. The pressure and fullness will feel so much better without that additional pressure in the wrong area.
You can concentrate on the process of building that pleasure.
Relax and take your time. This is not an act that should be done quickly. Be aware of what feels good and stop anything if it does not feel right mentally or physically. As the giver or the receiver, you need to breathe and relax.
If pain does occur, stop and evaluate what is going on at the moment. Tried and true, the giver should enter at an angle, either use a pillow or a wedge to create a position that allows you to enter downward if you are doggy style or put the pillows under the givers calves and use the height to enter in any direction except straight if the person is lying on their back.
The opening of the anus holds the highest concentration of nerve endings. The anal opening known as the sphincter muscles, anal canal and prostate gland make up the rectum in the penis body.
The feelings of fullness or pressure is the pleasure or arousal aspect.
Placing pressure on the ventral wall of the anus, just a couple inches in, will stimulate the prostate gland. The tip of the internal clitoral body can be stimulated through the anus as well. The Gspot, there it is. The Skene’s Glan are stimulated during anal, and that pleasure is just as explosive.
As stated, the lining of the anus is sensitive and easy to damage. Be sure to be safe by taking things slow, listening to your body and the reactions of your partner. Anything that you place near the anus should be smooth, this includes your fingernails. It is best to keep them short and round and as the giver, try to use the pads of your fingers if you have long or pointed nails.
Use toys that are unbreakable, flexible, smooth, clean and comfortable in size.
Use a toy with a flared base. Anything that can slip from your grasp may not be retrievable inside the intestines. You may have heard of stories in which folks have gone into emergency rooms to have items removed from their rectum/intestines.
The anus does not make its own lubrication so be sure to use lubrication. Use a liberal amount of water-based lube each and every time you plan penetration of anything. Lubrication helps lower the risk of tears or damage to the rectum. Be sure to keep the space clean.
Do not move anything from the anus to the vagina. Bacteria that live safely in the anus can cause havoc in the vagina. Use fresh condoms and gloves as well as wash your hands to avoid cross contamination. A dental dam can be an excellent blocker during oral-anal contact, so keep them nearby too.
It is unlikely but possible to get pregnant from anal sex. If sperm is ejaculated in or near the vagina, it is possible to travel into the vagina and do what it is meant to do.
The perineum is what separates the anus and the vagina and/or the scrotum and this can be a short space between the two areas. Anal will expose you to STIs! This cannot be stressed enough. If you have warts or herpes around your anus, you should avoid anal until the outbreak has healed.
Phthalates are often in soft or cheap toys and can adversely affect the reproductive system. You do not want to use these sorts of toys without knowing the risk of such damage.
Start slow, go at a pace you are comfortable with and do not rush the act due to a lack of “time” or “opportunity.” Begin by touching around the outside of the anus until some tension is released from the receiver. When you both determine that you are ready then begin the process of penetration.
Lube is a MUST HAVE when receiving anal.
The anus, sphincter and rectum do not self-lubricate, and safe anal intercourse always, always, always requires lube. Lube that works quite well is water-based. It’s free of stinging chemicals like glycerin and parabens and is compatible with all types of toys materials.
For firm toys you want to use a silicone lube. Although it is NOT compatible with silicone toys, the lube is an excellent choice for anal sex with a partner, glass, metal or wood toys.
Silicone lubes are extra slick and do not dry out as quickly as water-based lubes. Using a toy that is completely body safe, certified seamless silicone that may vibrate, swirl, bead, or has weight can take anal to a new level.
Obviously, the goal to anal is to experience the maximum orgasmic pleasure you can handle.