Generally speaking, most hand jobs — whether DIY or by a partner — don’t vary much. But if the same old routine is feeling routine, I have a couple of favorite techniques that will be sure to set a man’s rocket off to new heights either by himself or if he has a sexy co-pilot.
Lube it Up A hand job without lotion or lube is like taking a car out that hasn’t had … well, a lube job. I don’t recommend most off-the-shelf hand lotions. The thin skin of the penis can easily get irritated from fragrances and other chemical additives. Plus, safety for your partner is pretty questionable if you’re going to follow up bareback. My favorite thing to use is aloe vera gel. It’s naturally good for your skin and the slickness lasts quite a while. If you use lube, go with a silicone lube. It will last longer than a water-based lube. Plus, the cock will already be well-lubed when it’s time to slip on a condom. The downside of using silicone lube: its lasting power requires a bit more cleanup effort than just wiping up with a hand towel or tissue.
It’s All in the Wrist A good stroke job is all about flexing the wrist and not yanking a rigid hand up and down on a cock like a machine. Some men like a firm and fast grip. Other men like a hand that slides up and down his shaft. If he doesn’t say which approach he prefers, try both and ask him how it feels.
Tempo and Timing is Everything If your man’s cock is a bit flaccid at first, start out slow. Yanking on it from the get-go will feel just as pleasurable as someone trying to rouse you out of bed during a sound sleep. My favorite technique is to caress the cock in a soft grip as if I were molding soft clay. As he gets harder and starts thrusting, this is when you want to pick up speed. Some guys like to turn up and turn down the speed. If he doesn’t say anything, read his body language, moaning or breathing. If he’s struggling to get hard or come, slow things down for a bit and gradually built up the grip and tempo. When he’s about to orgasm, give him everything you’ve got.
Don’t Just Stroke Him Grip two hands around the cock and twist in opposite directions while going up and down. He’ll feel like he’s in a phantom threesome.
Hand-ling the Jewels Not all guys like anyone messing with the balls, but if he does, cup and coddle them gently while stroking him. If you can get between his legs or get underneath him, take his balls in his mouth to keep them warm and yet. Don’t suck on them too vigorously and by all means don’t use your teeth!
Stand at Attention Ideally, this is what you want your dick to do, but what I’m talking about is standing on your two feet for a hand (or blow) job. While it might feel relaxing to lay back in a chair or a bunch of pillows against the headboard, more blood flows to the penis while standing resulting in a firmer erection and more intense orgasm. Make sure you have something to hang onto … the back of a sofa, a countertop or a door jam.
Pull Back at the Base When the penis is hard as a steel pole, form an O-ring with the thumb and forefinger of your free hand and pull back on the penis firmly at the base. What you’re doing is squeezing on dorsal veins that run along either side of his shaft that make the veins more engorged than usual while stroking (or sucking). It’s guaranteed to create a more explosive orgasm.
Put a Ring on It A cock ring will have the same, if not better, effect than squeezing and pulling down at the base of the shaft with the thumb and forefinger. I recommend getting an elastic cock ring with a Velcro release that will say on tight yet is easy and quick to take off. A vibrating cock ring will amp up and erection and orgasm even more. It’s also an amazing she-pleaser since it will press against the clit during deep penetration.
Don’t Mess with His Head Before he’s ready to come, avoid touching the head of his cock. It’s super sensitive right before orgasm.
Delay the Finish If want to keep him from coming too quickly or want to keep him on the edge, slow things down by squeezing under the head of the penis.
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