BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism, can be a great bonding experience, no pun intended. It requires each person to completely surrender themselves to their partner and give in to their own desires. It also promotes healthy communication within the relationship as each person will have to vocalize if they enjoy the sexual act.
If you and your partner are curious about the world of BDSM, you may want to try some of the sex toys on this list. They’re great for beginners and can provide pleasure for either partner. Remember to always establish a safe word before you start pleasuring each other and ask for consent before trying out anything on your partner.
To safely navigate the world of BDSM, try the following toys:
1. Restraints
Restraints are designed to limit or stop mobility during BDSM play. Different types of bondage sex toys are available on the market, such as rope, bondage tape, binders, and handcuffs. You can tease your partner with restraints by keeping them in view, but taking your time before tying them up. The anticipation can really heighten the sexual attraction between partners and is great for those who completely want to submit to their dominants.
If you decide to choose rope as your restraint, learn how to make different knots. Different knots can have different effects on your partner when pulled and twisted.
2. Collars and Chokers
In a BDSM scenario, there’s always a dominant and a submissive. Establish the roles before starting your scenario and get comfortable with your respective roles. Collars and chokers are usually reserved for submissive partners and can signify that the scenario has started. Collars can also show commitment and can be seen as a promise ring.
The submissive lets the dominant know that they’re committed to their partner and the scenario. Collars and chokers are placed around the neck of the submissive and can also be used to restrict breathing during BDSM play.
They can come in various cool colors, materials, and styles. When the two of you go shopping for one, allow your submissive to choose the collar or choker they want to make the scenario more comfortable for them.
3. Blindfolds and Hoods
Blindfolds are a great way to tantalize the senses during a BDSM scenario. By eliminating one sense, you heighten the effects of the other senses, like touch, taste, or smell. This is also great for partners who are a little shy at first.
Hoods can be used similarly, and they also hide the face. These can be useful if you’re roleplaying with your partner and want to fully embrace your role for the session. Blindfolds and hoods also come in a variety of material options, like silk, cotton, or cashmere, so you’ll be able to find one that suits your preferences.
4. Nipple Clamps
Nipple clamps are great for those who find pleasure in pain. You’ll be able to achieve different results depending on how tight the clamps are on the nipples. This is where having a safe word comes in handy. If the pain gets too much to bear, say the safe word, and action should stop immediately.
You can also pull and twist the nipple clamps during BDSM play to create different degrees of pain and pleasure. Nipple clamps also come in various styles, so you’ll be able to pick the perfect one for your submissive.
5. Paddles
If you’d like some variety of intensities in the pain department, consider getting yourselves a pair of paddles. You can use them to spank your submissive during BDSM play or when training them to get more comfortable with the kink. They look like your traditional ping pong paddles that have been repurposed for the bedroom. They’re designed to cover a larger area as opposed to nipple clamps.
They’re also very compact and inconspicuous. If someone were to happen upon them, they’d think you just own a pair of really cute paddles. Like most sex toys, they come in a variety of designs and material choices.
Conclusion
BDSM play can be a very intense and freeing experience, and when navigated safely, it can be the glue that can keep you and your partner intact. With it, you’ll be able to learn how to communicate more openly and effectively, as well as learn more about yourself in terms of what brings you the most pleasure. There are many more sex toys available on the market today, and as you get more comfortable, you’ll learn that there’s actually no limit to pleasure and your fantasies.